Broken Hearted
@lovespecialangel (3632)
United States
January 10, 2009 9:59pm CST
Well, it has finally happened. My husband and I are now separated. He moved out on the eighth and moved the remaining items of his that were inside the house out on the ninth. I'm truly at a loss to everything. I don't understand how we got to this point. We haven't made the choice yet to go get a divorce, but I am sure that is what is going to happen. We have gotten to the point that we didn't talk anymore, only argued. Things just got so bad that I wanted it over. It hurts so bad, but I can only take so much before I explode. All I wanted from him was for him to pay half the bills. Just the ones that we created together. But he couldn't even...no, he could have, he wouldn't pay even one bill. Why is it that men would rather have everyone else take care of what they are suppose to be taking care of? I know that not all men are like that, but for the ones that are; what gives? How can a man not want to take care of his family? This hurts so bad.
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@Aurone (4755)
• United States
11 Jan 09
I feel for you. My husband left the week before Thanksgiving. We weren't really arguing, I didn't realize things between us were that bad, but we have been separated since then and I expect him to file for divorce any day now. He let me take care of all the bills and everything while he was getting his PhD and then he got mad when he found out we had sizable credit card debit. How did he think I was making ends meet when he wasn't given me any money? I have no idea why some guys what their wives to take care of everything and then get mad when you aren't a miracle worker or perfect.
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@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
11 Jan 09
I don't know why either. But I do know this, this was my last marriage. I have taken myself out of the dating scene permanently. I just can't handle going through this again.
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@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
11 Jan 09
Thank you! I accepted the friend request. This was my third marriage and I promised my kids that if things didn't work out that I wouldn't bring another man into their lives. I just can't take the chance of them getting hurt again either. Thank you!
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
11 Jan 09
[i]Hi angel,
I am so sorry to hear about it but I know things happen with reason! That is not also fair in your part! it's a two way process and if he is not exerting any effort then I guess you made the right decision!
I know it is tough at first but it happens to a lot of people and they survived! Just let time heal you!
I have a friend this time who is telling me about her problem. They are helping to pay their bills but her husband will always steal from her savings even if she gave almost half of her income to her husband!
I do know why other men are like that, maybe the way they were raised or just by nature, they are selfish!
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@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
11 Jan 09
I don't think it was how he was raised. He comes from a good family and has a wonderful mom who, I believe, tried to instill goodness and responsibility in her children. I know time will heal, I just don't understand why this happens to me. Sometimes I just feel as though I am cursed.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
11 Jan 09
[i]ohh....Glad to hear about that....but, you know change is the only constant thing in this world, who knows he will realize soon and ask forgiveness!
But, if it's the other way around, just move on and do not think that you are curse.....Maybe you are not just meant to be!
But, I am hoping for the positive changes![/i]
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Just writing to wish you luck and hoping things are going well. I don't know why men think they can always take the easy way out. Although after they do, most of them find out it isn't so easy.
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@mikkymyde (182)
• Nigeria
11 Jan 09
don't feel bad ..that kind of man is not good for you..just stay focused..let him know you are better off without him afterall he doesn't do what he is suppose to do as your husband..
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@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
12 Jan 09
That is easier said than done, but thank you.
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@rmorefield (941)
• United States
28 Jan 09
Honey, I truly feel your pain. I left my husband two weeks ago. In the 7 years that we've been together, I'm the one that made the money. He wanted to help, and he tried, but being bipolar and not on medication made it impossible for him to keep a job. I am now back at my parents' house with our three children (and the one that will be born in about 8 weeks). Things happen for a reason even though it may hurt like hell. God knows what He's doing. Just hang in there. If you want to talk, I'm here. I'll pray for you.
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