money or love?
By city_addict
@city_addict (84)
Singapore
January 10, 2009 11:06pm CST
There's a point in a woman's life where she has to choose the man for her life. A hard decision we make for we believe it holds our future.
My mom would always tell me to use my head and not my heart and I know most of the moms out there would say the same thing to their daughters. She says, security is far more important and that love is a temporary thing that if both of you experience the pain of hunger, you'll soon forget "love" and end up miserable.
I'm asking all the married women out there and I need your opinion. At my age, I would want a guy I dearly love and I know I'll be happy. But does money always matter? Marrying for the sake of financial security? How many women out there who used their head over their hearts are satisfied with their lives? Or love is enough to make a woman happy, that no matter what life brings, she'll feel contented and complete?
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4 responses
@ExecutiveCEO (16)
• United States
12 Jan 09
I think you should follow your heart when it comes to choosing a mate for the rest of your life. If the man you love has money, that is definitely a bonus. When the money's gone, what are you left with? Someone you don't love and don't enjoy spending time with? I had opportunities to marry money-a lawyer, a geologist. I ended up marrying someone who was actually laid off when we met. He was wonderfully funny and I loved spending time with him. He now makes close to a six figure income, and I consider that a bonus. I would've married him if we had to live in a cardboard box. I wouldn't marry someone who didn't aspire to be the best they could be in all parts of life, including the financial/work sector, but I would marry someone without money if they were ambitious, honest, and hard working.
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@city_addict (84)
• Singapore
13 Jan 09
Thanks for that wonderful thought. Aspiration, ambition and hardworking is really important. I can imagine a bright future with that kind of character and I believe that a man who really loves the woman he married will do his best to be a good provider. You are so lucky!
@sriyono (8)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 09
Do you want to hear from man opinion also? Here you are my opinion:
1. You must really...really love each other. True love is very important to build strong relationship. True love can accept the love one just the way he/she is!
2. Especially for you, girl, choose a man that already mature emotionally and possess good traits & characters. It is better if he has a lot of money too.
3. Assess your and your partner's competencies require to develop your own future. Plan you future, remember this quote "failing to plan is planning to fail". And work you plan.
4. Building upon your and your partner's strengths and overcome weaknesses. Focus on your planning.
5. Enjoy your life journey with strong commitment, and hopefully money will flow to you life.
Money is required as a mean to achieve something more important in life here upon the earth. Yes I agree that we need money for life, but I don't put money on the first place in my life. Good luck and God bless you!
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@city_addict (84)
• Singapore
12 Jan 09
That's sounds good to hear. I find it practical and fair. Yes, I'd love to be with a man I truly love and I don't want to see us arguing about money. It's true, planning should always be there.
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@syeryn (573)
• United States
11 Jan 09
Both the head and the heart can make bad decisions. Love alone is not enough to make a person happy. It is hard to be happy sleeping in a card board box that you may have to nibble on come morning because you are hungry and have no food. At the same time money alone cannot make you happy either. A nice mix of love and money is where my head and heart would be searching.
@city_addict (84)
• Singapore
11 Jan 09
But life seems so unfair most of the time. You can't have them both. Some are just so lucky enough to have money and staying inlove at the same time. Oh dear! You are right, my head and heart must work together but I think searching for Mr. Right will take me a long time to find.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
12 Jan 09
I definitely think that love is the first thing in a relationship that really matters. If you truly love someone then having money or being poor doesn't matter all too much. Money can be fleeting. It can come or go so easily. Real love lasts forever. 