Are my friends not a true friends?
By thanxiang
@thanxiang (126)
Philippines
January 11, 2009 12:58am CST
Some of My friends say i have changed now.They think that coz i got married to an American guy,26 year old.But personally,i don't really think i have changed,im still the same.Last time,i was really felt mad of them coz they say gossips against me that are not true.I didn't attend the reunion coz im still mad at them.what am i going to do with them?i transfer to a boarding house here in the city to stay away from them.its been many months now but still they wanna say things against me.Some friends say that i shouldn't mind them coz they just feel envy..
7 responses
@siomaiii (238)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
i think you have to be open-minded. if they've known you for years, and shared some ups and downs then you have to evaluate what they told you. maybe they have a basis on whay they ahev been telling you. try to talk to them to clear things out. its better living life without hatred or bitterness in your heart right!
@thanxiang (126)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
I tried to talk to them before to clarify things but i guess they still wanna talk something about me.Well,i don't consider them as my true friends now.They're just good to me if they can get something from me,more on their own personal interest.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
It was hard to judge your friend by others with that little reason. A true friend shows respect, considerations and love to their friends too. If they told that you have changed show them that it's not true. Give the better reasons why you don't comply to other matters say because your busy with something that is important. give your friends sometimes the time to be with you. Like what you are doing when your not yet married. Sometimes it happened to me too and the same way I did.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
11 Jan 09
what i've found where we live is you move in to a different circle, when you change to a person in a relationship, married a parent etc. can't explain it, but there is that difference, i don't talk to many that i was at school with. i was dumped by my best mate back then, i only became good enough to talk when i about a month of having my son, she was due a bout a month later.
just move on have fun while you can with your bloke, you'll make loads more friends.
@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
12 Jan 09
I think that might have a jealousy. Because first of all, if they are your true friends, they would not be gosiping about you behind your back. Also, I think that might feel that you are not as much available as you used to be when you were single. But I think the main issue here is that they are just jealous.
@thecrazyjogger (3178)
• India
11 Jan 09
yeah.. not all are the real ones
sorry to hear tht man
happy lotting and have a nice day
@annabella2008 (48)
• China
12 Jan 09
I can understand your situation. I think that you have not changed,and so do your friends. Your friends said that you changed,i guess that is because they are afraid of losing you.We know that single person is different from married person,seems that they will not have so much time to spend with their friends. Therefore, if you keep frequent contacts with them and don't forget to care about them,then they will not feel any difference after you married.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
Ah huh, i guess they're just jealous of you. Don't mind then and move on with your married life. They maybe later on in life you can find in yourself to forgive them then become friends again. Not really close friends but friends. You got you husband already whom you consider a friend and more so no worries.
