Unhappy/Happy? What?
By cryw0lf
@cryw0lf (1302)
United Kingdom
January 11, 2009 6:30am CST
So, we've been going through a real rough patch recently.
I've been rather unhappy - ALOT of the time. But over the past week, i started to cheer up.
He told me hes not happy when im not... and last night well... we argued. In this argument, he told me he wasnt happy, and the only reason he is still with me is because he loves me and hes hanging onto some kind of slim hope.
I dont understand what im doing thats making him unhappy? I've tried my best to make him happy, especially over this past week, but i feel like hes just kicked me in the teeth about it.
One minute hes telling me he's happy, the next hes telling me he's been unhappy for ages. I dont understand.
Is he frigin unhappy or happy? If unhappy then how do you think i should make him happy?
2 responses
@thedaddym (1731)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I would ask him to tell you exactly what he is unhappy about. Perhaps the two of you need to work some things out together. If he says he loves you he should be willing to tell you what it is that is bothering him. Then you can decide weather you can and want to accomadate him or if it is time to say your goodbyes. Just telling you he is not happy without giving a reason why is not fair to you. Is there possibly some other girl who might be putting ideas in to his head. Or is he talking to other people. Sometimes when other people stick their nose in to a relationship it can really screw up the relationship. You need to find out what is going on. The two of you really need to communicate, don't accuse of him of what I just said though, but definately have a good talk with him.
@wendy82 (437)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I know this is probably not what you want to hear but if he is not happy. Then maybe it is time for you and him to see each other free. To me maybe you guys need to give it time and spaced. Maybe you should do a open relationship and date other people and see where it leads. Then you need to change things to make yourself happy because you dont need to bring other people down with you. You guys need to sit down and talk about what you want to happen in the relationship.
