Do you have to have the last word in a argument?
By hdjohnson
@hdjohnson (2981)
United States
January 11, 2009 9:36pm CST
I don't feel that I have to have the last say in an disagreement with anyone. As long as I have made my point and the person I have the disagreement with has acknowledged my point of view.
Some folks scream and become so upset, until they turn red in the face. It can be rather amusing seeing some of the expressions in their face, as if steam could literally come out of their ears.
What are you arguments like? Do you feel that you have always won if you had the last word? Do you feel the person who has the last word is the winner of the argument?
What say you?
7 responses
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
13 Jan 09
Usually, there are not many words said. After the initial conversation which would spark an argument, my husband and I usually have a cold war. Neither one of us will say anything to each other. I am usually the one who will say something to him first in order to clear the air. If he gives me a sarcastic answer, part two of the cold war begins. Thank God, we have not had any cold wars in a couple of years.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
14 Jan 09
Cold war HA! More like the silent deadly war. At the church I attend they have a marriage ministry and they have this small infomercial with this couple sitting at a table obviously upset with one another, but both of them are totally ignoring the other person and at the end, the question pops up saying: "need to talk?"
I don't know why I thought of that as I read your response. I usually do the silent thing as well, but my wife is so talkative till it doesn't last long, she ask questions like:
1. So are you upset with me?
2. Why are you upset with me?
After that, we are usually on to making up and forgiving and forgetting about it all.
@antioxidant (438)
• Australia
12 Jan 09
No, i don't have to have the last word. I just make sure i've made my point clearly and if the other party still refuses to listen then i'm not gonna waste more time trying to make him/her understand. Also it feels foolish to keep arguing so i try to be the one to back down. As you can guess with me the other party usually has the last word.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
12 Jan 09
What is that phrase I'm thinking of, oh yeah, "you have to know when to hold them, and know when to fold them".
You sound like a wise person that knows a little more about life than meets the eye.
@joystick7 (728)
• India
12 Jan 09
I dont indulge in any arguments :)
"Arguments can win you the situation but you may loose the person"
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
12 Jan 09
That is such a profound way of putting it and it is absolutely the 100% TRUTH!
Thanks for your input.
Happy Mylotting
@KatieDidit (989)
• United States
12 Jan 09
No, they can have the last word as long as they're agreeing with me.
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@Haloman (122)
• United States
12 Jan 09
i like to have the last word in an arguement but that's just because i'm stubborn, that and the people i argue with are usually my roomates and they aren't of the highest intelligence level unfortunatly so when i argue with them 9 times out of 10 i already know i'm right hahaha
@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
12 Jan 09
I absolutely hate to be wrong as well. So I don't tend to engage in disagreements unless I can unequivocally prove that I am in the right. LoL
@mommamusic (882)
• United States
12 Jan 09
Yes i just cnt stop i have got to have that word i dont no why but i do.
