Is dating a married person asking/begging for trouble?

Yes, I also think so that daring a married person could lend you in troubles. If the persons whom you are dating, starts ignoring his/her existing partner and tilt towards you, you are in for big trouble.

What else is it gonna be? Why do you want to date a married person in the first place? Of course I am taking it that by dating you have the same intention of a marriage or a long term relationship that culminates in a live-in relationship. I am also taking that you are talking about people who still value social living-I mean living in a society of sort. If you are talking of an open marriage concept then the question doesn't even have any relevance. if the spouse is physically powerful there could be assault, if he/she is politically or socially powerful there could be the danger of assassination. If nothing else, there is the poignancy of breaking a home. The world is wide. No one is unique and irreplaceable in anything whether it is job or marriage.

Man, your risking your life dating a married woman. You don't know what a jealous husband might do to you when he finds out. Believe me he will find out. Start thinking with the head upstairs and not downstairs. In my country you'll be lucky if your still breathing.

Hi there Khayam! You're right. I think that we should all to respect the relationship of other people because we wouldn't like that to happen to us. I believe in the principle of Karma that you shouldn't do something that you wouldn't want to be done unto you. Just like how the golden rule goes.

Dating a married person is so not right and is just begging for trouble for all involved, especially if there are also children involved. A lot of lives can be thrown into turmoil by this simple decision. You cannot help who you are attracted to but you do have a measurable amount of control of your impulses. In the end the knowing decision to date a married person is yours; and you have a hand in the mayhem your decision may cause.

Oh it is so so wrong to date a married person in my opinion especially if they have children!! You may be looking for a bit of fun and danger but the repucussions are terrible in a lot of cases, the married person obviously does all the i'll leave my wife/hubby but very rarely do they!! I wouldn't date a married man, a so called friend of mine tried it on with my hubby a couple of years ago (I don't see her now as we moved) and it wasn't just once either, he told me about and she even told him he could go to hers and they could watch an 'adult movie' together! Years ago a friend of mine dated a married man for a while, I think it was because of the excitment and he was older, she was quite young anyway his wife found out and filed for divorce and the wife named her as the reason, it was quite sad as they had young children, she's obviously grown up a lot since! A lot of people want what they can't have for some reason but as the saying goes the grass isn't greener on the other side. I also feel though that if the married person isn't happy (after all it takes two to tango so they say), they shoudl either end their marriage or try and sort it out not seek comfort in the arms of someone else.

Yes, I think so…you are definitely fishing in troubled waters if you are dating a married person. Human emotions are volatile as it is and here you have another equally strong (or ‘was’ strong once, with memories) to deal with. Even if that person walks out of the marriage into your arms, there are so many other issues involved.

The only person a married person should be dating is their partner. End of story as far as I am concerned. My mother used to say "if they cheat with you, then will cheat on you" and "once a cheat always a cheat" and those are two things that I really believe are true. Anyone who knowingly has an affair, one night stand or a secret relationship where the other person is married, does not deserve any symopathy and certainly will get none from me. Once a person starts a relationship where either of them is married to other people an dtheir partner(s) are unaware of it is asking for trouble. It is also when the lies and deceit start and the end result is that a lot of people end up getting hurt. It is pretty bad for the innocent partner and none more so than when there are children involved. If people want to "play around" then the first thing they should do is walk away from their marriage before they hurt their partner more. You are either married or single and cannot be both at the same time although it seems some people think they can or should be allowed to. However I honestly believe that married people who get involved with someone other than their spouse are selfish and only interested in their own self-gratification. They also end up lying and deceiving their partner and often the children get embroiled in it as well. It is downright unhealthy for everyone but more so the innocent party and the children. Yes I was once a married man whose now ex-wife cheated on him with some other man which is why she is now the ex. When they had the affair, they ended up destroying 2 marriages and suddenly there were 5 children living in single parent households. Oh and that relationship my ex had never lasted and in fact fell apart soon after we separated. However I do have a wonderful life partner and as she has been through the same thing with her now ex, we both understand that if we want to be together, we stay faithful to each other.

this is like riding your bicycle in the edge of the mountain, you will have to suffer the trouble from both sides, it is better to avoid developing such relations from the very beginning itself

Definitely. Not only are you triggering 'big' trouble, but you're also ruining someone else's life. If a married person has fallen in love with me and i am in love with them, then i'd tell them straight that i'm not being their bit on the side, and if they love me, they should leave their partner and get a divorce. I would definitely not cause that person to cheat on their partner with me... it's just wrong.

Oooooh yes! I have been on both sides of this discussion, I was a girl chasing after a married man, (one of which I knew was married and the other I didn't) and I was also the wife of a husband who had an affair. From one side of the coin, I was young, naive and didn't care who I hurt along the way and now I am married and someone has done the same to me, I completely hate myself for the things that I have done in my past. If you chase after a married man or woman like I did, you believe that they will leave their partner and you and them will live happily ever after. In reality, this never happens and you just keep waiting for a miracle that is never going to happen. On the other hand, if you are a wife or husband who's spouse cheats, you are left confused, hurt, angry, betrayed and so many other emotions rush through your head. I realised that at the end of the day, there are plenty of single people in the world, why go chasing after someone else's loved one?