Do you have difficutly making friends?
By chulce
@chulce (1537)
United States
January 12, 2009 8:15am CST
I normally don't have a problem meeting people and making friends, but I know there are many people that do.
I have spoken to many that say they have tons of friends on the internet that they talk to but when it comes to face to face, they find it harder. They mention not being as open and feeling shy about meeting people.
I am wondering if this is because of the way our society has changed. For so long, we have become accustomed to using the internet for literally everything, that we stare at a screen of other people doing just the same thing.
Do you have difficulty meeting people face to face? Or are you pretty open to new experiences and making new friends?
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25 responses
@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
12 Jan 09
I've always had difficulty making friends face to face because i've always been a low confidence person. Though as i built my confidence, i found it easier to talk to people and make friends.
Online friends are not such a problem though, easy pickings if you ask me, if the person is interesting and deep, then they're a good friend. If all they can say is 'Hi, how are you, i'm fine, yeah, fine" Then please shoot them haha.
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@6precious102 (4043)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Maybe because I'm a twin and have always had a companion, I've never made much of an effort to make friends. I enjoy other people, but I've always had the attitude that I'll be just fine if I never see them again. I've also discovered that I enjoy my friends only for a short amount of time.
@deborahkat (519)
• Brazil
13 Jan 09
It´s always better face to face. But what I notice nowadays is that some people also use the chit chat to pretend they are something they really are not. So it´s not that safe to meet face to face people you just know online. There are also the case of shy people that show who they really are online, but have difficulty to do that face to face. It depends. For me was always very easy to make friends and meet new people.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
14 Jan 09
I hope this does not make me sound arrogant because I don't think I am. As a kid I have always preferred my own company better than other people's and I am still a little like that today. I do have close friends but I find it hard to meet sincere people. A lot of the folks in my circle have a "keep up with the Jones'" attitude and it is always about what they have and where they go on holiday; it is annoying not being able to have a conversation that has any depth. I feel judged by a lot of them in regards to where I live, how I dress etc.. Sometimes I cannot be bothered getting involved with them. I would like to think that I would not have too much trouble making friends; it is just a matter of making the right ones.
@twinklee (894)
• India
13 Jan 09
[b][i]HI,
even i don't find any difficulties to make friends, i am even fairly good at managing them face to face level, i will also be precautious to chose among friends, i mean i have the ability to scan a person before talking, i don't feel shy at all, i am jovial though. i know how to make smooth interactions and a limited one.Making new friends is also okay with me. Take care my friend [/i][/b]
@ganak8 (173)
• India
13 Jan 09
I dont have much difficulty in making friends and ofcourse right now i am having contact with all my childhood friends and on some occasion we would meet and have pleasant time and nowadays there are many communities through which you can share everything even if you are far off so have as many friends as possible.
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
13 Jan 09
Hi chulce
I have only a small group of friends. I fing myself very commfortable with them and i am even comfortable meeting new people, depending on how comfortable is the other person meeting me. If they will jell with me i will certainly do the same. There are certain vibes which we all feel, when we meet someone new. We can make out at the first moment if the person is egoistic or not. I am not that egoistic kind of person, i am calm and very polite to eveyone and therfore i just can stand with egoistic people. Else i am fine with meeting new people.
Blessings
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
13 Jan 09
Well people do like my personality Iv been told many times that I have a good personality, but I have lived a slightly different sort of life style and as a result its kind of difficult to meet people and maintain a friendship, but its not because I'm not friendly, in fact its quite the opposite I'm very friendly and fun and open kind of person, but I dont hangout in night clubs or bars and things like that so thats one of the reasons why I dont make friends as easily as others do, but I love meeting new people and experiencing new things.
@liguansheng (63)
• China
13 Jan 09
I do not become friends any difficulty,because I thought that so long as you sincerely and others contact,others will also be willing to become friends with you,so long as you will be sincere,I believed that must become friends is certainly very easy.
@aristrocrat195 (282)
• India
13 Jan 09
ya sometimes i had difficulty in making friends which are shy in their life and which the are not frank with any one but some of them are very frank and straight forward and they make their friends very quickly and they don't face difficulty in their in making such friends
@lellyp (245)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 09
I don't have problem to making friends, i like have a lot friends. Most hard is to manage friends, Am type open person, telling what am thinking and am feel, loyal etc. But i have problem to manage friendship, base from my experience i can have lot friend but step by step i will found not all friend i have is can be a best friend.
Like this exp: first i have 10 friends, some day it will be lest 3 person, 3 person really good and will be my best friend too.
Meeting new people and make friendship is easy, but is hard to know which person will be your best friend someday.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
13 Jan 09
I am not the kind of person that goes out of my way to make friends but if someone approaches me,I will talk to them.We wont automatically be friends but if we continually interact and our principles are compatible then we may become friends.
I like to think that I select my friends .
I have been told by a few persons that I dont always have the most approachable
face however after interacting ,many persons have told me that they were wrong about their initial impressions.
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
13 Jan 09
Earlier, I too had difficulty in making friends, but not now. Making friends is sort of an art. Personally, I feel that we should have to be very happy. A smile on our face will definitely attract more and more people. And a helpful attitude is very important.
@artaucan (97)
• United States
13 Jan 09
I consider myself a person who would have a lot of acquaintances but real friends probably very few, I´d rather have few good ones that I can trust and talk about my live than not being able to open up to anybody, and finding friendship on the internet just provides me the tools to meet people who most likely will never become part of that "selected" group of friends.
@mendoza_charissa (41)
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
I used to be really self-conscious when meeting new people, but thank God, I've outgrown this awkward stage. Making new friends is now a piece of cake for me, as long as I have a welcoming smile and openness to any kind of conversation.
The reason why some people have more friends on the internet is because the net is a place where you can choose who you want to be. You can modify the way people look at you, and people can't see your flaws (or imaginary flaws).
When it comes to real-world encounters of potential new friends, insecurities get in the way. What do they think about how i talk? Am i too dressed up? Is my make-up okay? These trivial things obstruct other people from seeing the real wonderful you.
Another thing is lack of practice. Yes, practice still makes perfect. It's still best to get out of the house, engage in some interesting activity where there are lots of new faces to meet. There's a very slim chance of running into a new person on your way from the bedroom to the computer room. People have less interest of going out to have actual conversations because the internet is a much more comfortable place. It's a shame, but it's the trend.
@paoxav (1382)
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
Nope not me. It's not that hard for me to gain friends since once of my asset is I'm a flexible type of a person. I can mingle with everybody and can adjust to each other's attitude. Though I got some limitations. If the attitude doesn't passed my standard, then I think he/she doesn't deserve to be a friend of mine.
@gamingworld (577)
• United States
13 Jan 09
I can make friends on line easily. But thats only an online gig. I dont really plan to meet them face to face unless I accidently bump into them and start chatting if off. If someone were to ask to meet me in real life from the internet I would have to tell them NO, I'm sorry.