My Sister Almost Loss Her Children To The Streets!!!
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
January 12, 2009 9:06pm CST
Most of my friend's on Mylot remember all the stress I went through last year, with my sister and her family moving to Georgia. I did not want her to go for many reasons, the main one being her abusive husband. Well I was talking to her the other day and she was telling me how she is so happy that she got out of California, just in time.
If you will remember, my brother-in-law spoils the six children and puts very few limits on what they can and can not do and dares my sister to say anything about it. There were over 15 children hanging out at their house on a regular basis, at all hours of the day and night. The kids were close friend's with gang members and they would put their home address on Myspace, inviting whoever wanted to come to their house for wild parties, late at night. They would charge for these parties and there would be no adult supervision.
My sister was telling me how she had lost all influence over her children. They would ignore her and listen to what their friend's said. Now that she has been able to stop working and go into a mini retirement in Georgia, she is spending her time teaching them the right way to behave. There are no more friend's hanging out there at all and my brother-in-law actually gets up and goes to church once in a while.
Although, I still want them back out here(I miss them terribly) I understand now how important it is for them to be in a new environment and have some one on one time with their mother. When my sister was out here, she was working all the time to pay the bills and did not want to go home many nights, because her house was so chaotic. Work was a vacation place and I remember when she got a second job just to stay out of the house more. So God has really blessed her and I am very happy. We talk now, more than we ever have before and my sister is truly happy.
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9 responses
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
13 Jan 09
That part of the country is really pretty. There is also a lot of history there. One thing that I think is so cool with Georgia, they have red dirt. Where I live in Ohio, we have brown and black dirt, they have red dirt. Have you ever been out of Cal.? I hope you get to go soon, family is everything.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
Hi Rozie dear! I am so happy to learn that your sister and her are doing well in their new environment. I am so glad that things worked out for the better for her and her family. I believe that the change paved way for a better relationship within her family and at the same time you have more time to talk with each other. I hope and pray that it will get better and better each day for them.
Take care and have a nice day!
lovelots..faith210
@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
hi rozie!
oh wow that is good for her, it seems that her family has been transformed when they moved to georgia. it is really difficult if both parents do not agree on parenting styles.
but i hope everything will work out for the best for your sister. maybe indeed God has worked in their lives.,
take care and God bless you! :-)
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
13 Jan 09
Ooh la la like the profile pic Rozie :)
You know it might have been a good thing for them to move to Georgia, especially to get away from what they were going through in LA. I had not realised the kids were throwing parties at their home each night, what a nightmare that would have been to deal with. It sounds like life is picking up for them all :)
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
14 Jan 09
You like that picture? I look like, "Cousin It," from the "Adams Family." I was just messing around with the camera, taking pictures, before I ruined my hair. Sure enough, the next day, the do was destroyed, oh well. Anyway, yeah, things had gotten pretty crazy out here for them. Now in Georgia, things are so calm, that she is teaching the oldest ones to drive. And yes, I am jealous.
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
13 Jan 09
Hi Rozie...I am so glad she is out of the place...no way would I let any of that go on in my home...When my two were little, they would have some friends come over and they would play...but when it was nice out they played outside...
I was blessed to beable to stay a home with them...something your sister didn't get to do...
I was like the neighborhood mom....and when they were teens their friends came over and slept here...but they were good kids and they felt comfortable here....
I know you miss her but I know you want her too have some sanity in her life.....
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
14 Jan 09
My sister was the neighborhood mom also. And most of the children were good, there were just way too many of them there all the time. When I would visit, the stereo and the television would be blasting, people would keep running in and out, and there was just too much commotion. My sister did not even know a lot of them.
These were practically grown children, including men, around my young nieces. My sister would be at work and her husband would be in the back room with the door closed, watching t.v., sleeping, or drinking. He would never let my sister do anything to stop the kids from coming over. She is very afraid of him. I would have left him a long time ago, but it is hard with six children.
I use to tell my sister that if I were her, I would come home from work and just say, Everyone that I did not give birth to, get out!!! Things are also better because her husband is not very sick and dependent.
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@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
14 Jan 09
WOW Sounds like everyone was stressed one way or another. If he was abusive but is now going to church that says alot. I am very happy to hear that everythin is oing good for them.
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
14 Jan 09
hello Rozie37,
I'm so happy and glad that your sister gain back her children. At least it's not yet too late to discipline them and that she can be able to be with them.
Working Mom is really hard for you don't have the time for your kids. The time that they really needs as they grow older. It's the very reason why I let my wife resigned in her job. We used to work in the same company, that's where I met her. When my father-in-law decided to go back home with my mother-in-law for he stayed with us for ten years taking care of our children, we decided to have my wife resigned to take care of our children.
Indeed our children are our treasure and though we love them so much, it doesn't mean that we'll give everything that they want. Your brother-in-law forgot that we should give them also a limitations. Anyway whatever happens in the past, what's important is now. Cheers to you and your sister's family.
@sahmof2 (274)
• United States
14 Jan 09
That's good for your sister, sometimes a change in enviroment will change people for the better. That's good she is trying to get her children on the right track and make productive citizens to society out of them and not pains to the peeople that they have to live around. If only more people had the will and drive to teach their children right from wrong like your sister what would the world be like.
