Should I forgive my sister

What ever your sister did to you was done due to weakness. When a person is in anger they dont really care and think about what words are they going to take out and for whom. Whatever words she used for you must be in anger and in a way that would not be under control. You like her as you said and she also cares about you because as you mentioned that she is trying to be good to you and calling you mostly. There are so many things that comes out of the mouth of our own family members and they really hurt us alot. But i think we should forget all the bad things and try remembering the good times we have spend with them together. You should try to ignore what ever happened before, be nice to her and everything would be fine again i hope.

What was wrong with your sister? I have never heard of someone needing to be taken care of after giving birth. Like most people, once I got home from the hospital, me and the baby were on our own. I can understand why your sister would yell at you if you were being clumsy while holding her new born baby.

I don’t have any similar experiences to nothing to share but both you and your mom are right. You have every right to feel angry coz your help and contribution during a vital part in her life, was not appreciated by her. But your mother is right too. immediately after childbirth, most women go through a lot of physical and emotional changes. It is not easy to keep a cool head and some women even do not like the feeling of becoming a mother, yet they cannot acknowledge that openly. So they become easily irritable. You of course should not understand all these, but if your sister is trying to make up now and be good to her, try to reciprocate in a positive way.

Well Family is the most important thing that we have on this earth...I think, Have you ever tried talking to her about what happened...You should get it out in the open, let her know how she hurt you and how nervous you felt....you should have told her how nervous you were with the children...she might have understood better. Get it off your chest the next time she calls you. you will feels so much better

You have to realize that sometimes after women have babies, there is a hormonal inbalance. They sometimes say and do things that seems harsh to others, but to them it is nothing. Forgive your sister, her body went through many changes when she had her baby. Try not to take what she said too seriously. Having a baby was a new experience for her and she has adjusting to do. It is okay, she did not mean anything by her actions, and I am sure when she thinks back on it, she is sorry for the way she treated you.

hi my friend !! I'm really sorry for your feelings.I find your problem easy because it happens in every house between sisters.Dont' worry my dear its ok because she still your sister and in away or another you have to forgive her.So, hears the thing when i get in fight with my old sister and she often say painful words so immediatelly we try to explain every thing to each other such as : 1.don't say that to me again because it hurts 2.thats what I hate about you change your expressions and your loud voice next time please.3.Also Try to control on your self because I'm your sister. and so one " so you appear honest to her and she too .You should talk to her about what you don't like about her..believe me it works a lot. Ps: my sister and I we rarely fight because we understand each other by just talking. tell if something happened I'll be free.

When you have children you will surely understand the anxiety a mother feels over her newborn child. I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt you or make you angry but it is hard to watch and not say a word if you are worrying about your child. I admit I was a little overprotective of my children when they were small.

Well I guess you just have to forgive your sister about it. I think she is just overprotective about her daughter. Being weak after giving birth makes you feel helpless and seeing you being an inexperienced baby sitter might be very horrifying for her to see her baby under you. But then again I also think that your sister may have overreacted on her treating you like that. But then maybe one of these days when your sister is back to her own self you could talk to her and tell her how you were hurt by her and despite that you chose to forgave her for that because you love her and her daughter. Maybe because of that statement your sister might also realized her mistake in treating you like that.

From what I am hearing it isn't that you don't want to it is that you cant forget how it made you feel. I honestly think the best thing is to mention it to her and get it out in the open. If it isn't brought out into the open your relationship will never get better. I hope that you do so that you can get that sister bond back.

Hi yunzhige! Yes, I do understand how you feel. I do sometimes have difficulty in forgiving especially if I was really hurt deeply. And when I can't really forget the hurt, I usually pray hard that I would be able to forgive and if I can see that the other person is really trying to make it up for the hurt she or he did, my heart softens. I hope that in time your heart will heal and be able to forgive your sister completely. Take care and havea nice day! lovelots..faith210

Words can be very hurtful, i agree. I think all of us have at one time or another said something in anger or out of frustration that we did not truly mean. Your sister is going to be your sister forever and it is such a special relationship. Please talk this over with her. I'm sure she was just tired and frustrated and did not mean to hurt you so. You will feel so much better once you hug and make up so do it right away!

I know how it feels. I feelthat way also for some reasons. My tears will just fall when I remember that somebody who shouted at me with blaming words even if it's not my fault. I felt bitter inside but when I tried to understand that person and the problem he/she has, I learn to humble myself and forget my hurt then learn to forgive. If we forget ourselves and just think of how we can be a blessing to others even if we are hurt, it pays a lot. But I would say, your sister must know that you are hurt. that's what I did. I tell the person who hurts me frankly about how I felt.

Hi Yunzhige, The fact that you started this discussion only shows that at the back of your mind, you also wanted to forgive your sister. I hope I will not be getting much of your time with this response. You see, I have 3 sisters and they are all my bestfriends!Having sisters or even 1 sister is probably one of the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me. When growing up, we also have our share of misudnerstandings, rubbed our shoulders at the wrong time, and moments of what-have-you's. But blood is thicker than water. Now that we are all grown ups and have our own family, we still continue to have bonding time. In your situation, there might be some reasons leading to your sister's not-so-good attitude towards you. Consider these: (1) Where is the father of the baby? (2) Is she already emotionally prepared to have and raise a baby? (3) Does she work? Is she working as a single parent? (4) How does she look at herself after having a baby? From your experience, it seems as if you are more emotionally mature compared to your sister.Probably that was the reason why your mother chose you to take care of your sister and her baby. You might just want to rewire your thinking and be more understanding to your sister. It might also help if you think that your sister is getting the courage from you so there is no point of closing the door to someone who needs help - or someone who just wanted our forgiveness. Life is too short. In the end, LOVE should prevail.

Hello yunzhige, From how I understand that is something we call post natal stress, that a s stage where most woman go through after they just give birth to a child. While some of us find it unreasonable, to them it is perfectly normal for them to react. I think you should have a chat with your sister about it. from there you might be able to understand how she actually feels. you might actually find out something you might out something about pregnancy and babies.

Well, I have some understanding for Your sister. I gather, this was her first baby and I think she was a bit nervous her self. Probably she needed some with more experience of small children than you had. You did the best you could i am absolutely convinced about that. I have two kids, one daughter 21 year, one son 17. I would be worried taken care of someone elses smal newborn child to. your sister was really in her weakness after that birht, believe me she was. And when you are wekness, and worried you do and say things you do not really mean. I sugest you have a talk with her, I think she did not even think about and perhaps do not remeber of it either. Tell her how You feel now, and make it out. Do non go around and think about it, work it out instead. That is the best advice I can give you. God luck

Also, just think about it. If you saw someone who looked like they were not being careful when holding your new born baby.. would you not yell too?