Should we just wait or Go ahead?
By megdp07
@megdp07 (70)
United States
January 12, 2009 11:18pm CST
My fiance and I just got engaged so we "were" planning a wedding. After we put some kind of money into like the church and little odds and ends for the wedding he decides to become a soldier. The date was June 20th and he deploys in May. I was really wanting a big wedding but he wants to get married before he leaves. There is no way to plan the wedding I want in such short notice so he suggested we just do it in front of the judge. There is not one doubt in my mind that Im not marrying him but I really was looking forward to the wedding of my dreams. I feel like im being selfish by not doing what he wants but anyone who has had a dream wedding I hope would understand. So should I make him wait till he comes home and have my wedding or should I respect his wishes and just go to the Court house?
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2 responses
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
13 Jan 09
It depends entirely on what you strongly feel to do.If your heart strongly tells you to go to the court house, then you must definitely do so. However, if your heart strongly tells you not to go to the courthouse, then you must make him wait till he comes home.
@ethansmommy06 (401)
• United States
13 Jan 09
hey megdp07. as your future sis in law i can only say that you should not be rushed into anything. my brother loves you very much. i think he is just scared or something. you are not being selfish and deserve the weddding you want. if you feel like doing this before he leaves then do it and you can always have a fancy wedding with the church family and friends when he comes home. but i think it is something that you have to want. even tho he is my brother i think he should understand more. like all relationships you have to compromise. anyone that knows the two of you knows that it is only a matter of time befor you tie the knot. so do what you feel is right. no matter what you decide i wish you all the happiness in the world.
