when your parents break up, where would you be?
By madposas
@madposas (98)
Philippines
January 13, 2009 1:12am CST
does it depends on who you're close to? or who can give you wealth?. it was my schoolmates story, i didnt mean to listen to her story, but she said that her parents broke up and she's really confused on who will she be going with? hmm.. she's close to her mom but her mom doesnt have work, and her dad? he's rich but she hates his dad. for i dont know why she does hates his dad.
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@KiiD_KiiDO (32)
• United States
14 Jan 09
i would go straight to my ma. its always been that way and she knows more about me than my pa so i would rather be sure im safe with my ma than my pa giving me some food with something that im allergic to and i die.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
yes, you make it so easy to decide, kiidkiddo. nonetheless, i do agree with you. since she loves her mama so much more, she'd better go with the mother. as for me, all of my three children, i have given them the free choice as to whether to be with their dad or with me. well, thankfully, they are all staying with me now. except of course for the eldest who has gone abroad. but, once she comes home, definitely, she will be staying with us, too.
although my children are all of majority ages already, letting them go to their father's side is still so difficult to deal with. i am happy that they have chosen to live with me although my earnings is much too low compared to their father's.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
it is an easy choice for her actually. she can go with her mom and her dad shall be giving her some monthly allowance to cover for her expenses. some lawyers can arrange for this kind of set up for your friend.
all that your friend will have to do will be to explain her side of the story. let it be known to the dad that she prefers to be with her mom for some reasons that only she knows at this time. the dad will have to come to terms with the needs of the members of the family eventhough the parents are now breaking up.
also, arrangements can be done so she can still meet and have private talks with her dad whenever the need arises.
eventhough the parents have gone their separate ways, the children must still have access to their parents. it is best that the lawyers will make this clear to both parents so as to spare the children extreme pain in the process.
i am speaking this way from experience, dear friend. my husband and i, we are breaking up. it is only a matter of time to make everything formal and in paper. we will be processing the contract (separation papers) signing pretty soon.
@baileycows (3665)
• United States
13 Jan 09
I don't know. My parents split up when i was one and my mom got full custody, but then she left us with my grandparents. So if I had to choose I really don't know what I would do.
