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By tessah
@tessah (6617)
United States
January 13, 2009 10:35am CST
i so despise tale tellers. or to put it not so delicately.. LIARS. and while i didnt make comment where i wouldve done the most damage with my words, i still feel the incessant need to vent my aggrivations and disdain. have you ever known someone who consistantly makes up stories just to have something to say (or write about) ? but in their own lies they cannot keep track themselves and the tales theyve woven so their stories eventually overlap contradicting each other? i know one such person.. who used to be *I* thought, a very good friend. stories told all over about one thing.. and then a few moths later.. something entirely different told. and what bothers the most really.. is that no one ever bothers to call them out about it, and when i did.. i got reamed from all directions. as if i was sposed to continue to pretend to beleive the lies and pat said person on the head like they were a halfwit and just smile and nod and be congenial so as to not shatter their pretty little illusions. fat chance.. im not wired that way. and it galls me to no end that the tale teller is beginning once again to draw people in with her elaborate falsehoods, getting people to care and invest of themselves, as i once had, and its all delusional fantasy. do you know someone who is fake to the core? how do you deal with them? do you deal with them at all? do you sit back and watch as others are taken in and deceived? or do you open yer mouth up and expose the fraud they are?
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13 responses
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
14 Jan 09
i open my mouth and point out they are lying and then people usually jump on me and say im trying to start crap!! i am surrounded by people that would believe anything and these people just wrap them up in all kinds of lies and stuff and when i tell them they are all bs and that the person has a lying problem then IM the one at fault because i thought bad about some one or am suspicious of some one!! sorry im not gonna believe all kinds of bs and drink the cool aid with everyone else.. i want the truth..
unfortunately people rather believe lies than feel disturbed that some one actually is crazy or has been abusing their trust..
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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13 Jan 09
When I was younger I got into the bad habit of lying, and it came to a point that I could not open my mouth without lying. Luckily I grew out of it. My eldest is a swine for it, he cannot open his mouth without lying but he too will grow out of it, hopefully. A liar is a liar in whatever shape or form, I despise lies because they cause hurt and shatter lives and why people have to do it I never know.
I do know someone who lies, someone close to me and it drives me to distraction, I have never really had a friend that lied like that but if I did know someone like that I would say something especially if I knew they were lying and I would not care what people thought of me and it is always the way that the one who points out the liar gets the grief for it and not the one in the wrong!!! I would definately open my mouth whatever the cost!!!
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
14 Jan 09
My ex boss is that way. I had caught her in several lies. Right now people are thinking she is a great woman and I'm just sitting back watching as they are taken in by her. She is one that will deceive a person in a heartbeat. I tend to have a fairly good judgment of character and I know I will be right about her.
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@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
14 Jan 09
There are some people who have three friends. "I, Me and Myself." Beyond that they know nobody else. They can go on and on talking to me about myself and tell about I. Such people are really irritating. You just have to tell them that you did xyz and they will tell you how they did it from A to Z without any help from anyone and they did it so well that they were given an award for theri work. etc etc etc. just inflate them and then put a plug in your ear and doze off. By teh time you get up they would not have finished.
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@timmons (120)
• United States
13 Jan 09
I currently know someone who does that, it's like he lies just for the hell of it. I have noticed something about him though, he doesnt seem to be doing it to harm anyone or even to decieve anyone...if that makes sense to you. Some people are just pathological liars, they lie just simply because it is habit and their brains tell them to do so. The thing about my friend is that aside from the lying he is an excellent person. Maybe you should look at your friends problem as more of a mental issue and leave it at that, either be friends with him/her or cut all ties because you will NEVER get a pathological liar to stop lying.
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
14 Jan 09
Sometimes a lie ruins your life and this has happened with me.I was married 2 years back and since it was an arranged marriage so we were told that the guy's family is financially very sound,but soon after my marriage i came to know that they had all lied about their business and were just sitting idle at home.
Now i am working to take good care of myself and my kid.So you can very well imagine that a relationship whose milestone was laid on lies and lies will how long survive.But i have managed and made myself fully adaptable to that situation and trying to reconcile myself with the family.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
14 Jan 09
I tend to miss a lot of what goes on here...I don't know how but I guess I'm better off. Due to a couple of accidents though I think I know who you mean. I stay in my corner and don't get too close and hope for the best.
The way I see it, you have 2 choices....distance yourself as much as possible or expose the person, making sure you have absolute proof.
Have you considered the possibility that the person is suffering a mental illness? It has occurred to me a couple of times that this might be the case.
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@tessah (6617)
• United States
14 Jan 09
yeah.. its occured to me, and ya might be right, or not.. but just because people have corronated her as the Lot`s village idiot and wanna pat her on the head for humors sake to not upset the crazy person.. others not in the know, get sucked into the tales, and wind up hurt because of it. ;sigh;
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@coffeeshot (3783)
• Australia
14 Jan 09
Absolutely. Yes I do know someone like that. It is very irritating and uncomfortable to be sitting there talking and not really knowing if what they're saying is true or not, especially if they're talking about something negative that's 'happening' in their life. You just don't know how to take it. And yes, I feel like an idiot if I sit there saying 'Oh poor you,' when inside I know they're probably lying anyway.
Recently my fiance and I broke up and while we were separated this person was talking to both of us, saying to us both that she wasn't talking to the other. Well my fiance and I got back together and happened to be talking about this person and we realised she was lying to both of us, getting gossip off us both and telling all of our other mutual friends. As a result we have decided to cut this person out of our lives. I have not been answering phone calls nor have I made any contact. It seems harsh to me, but I just do't want fakes and phoneys in my life. It's immature and stupid. There's nothing better than honesty.
@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
13 Jan 09
I had someone like that in my life. Sadly, I had already married him before I saw so many of the discrepancies of his stories.
I dealt with him by leaving him, and divorcing him. Sadly, I still have limited contact with him, but that's only because he donated sperm into my uterus.
I don't hop on that drama train anymore with anyone. I couldn't be bothered. If someone like that reenters my life, I tend to exit from theirs. No big fanfare... I just back off and shake my head.
@radairc (98)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Tess, I don't know why you waste your time with some of these people. They are cliquish, childish, and ignorant. Some here are wonderful, caring, warm folks; but so far in this conversation those of us are a minority. The ignorant, childish, cliquish fools are overrunning. What happened to you was a product of a compulsive liar with huge issues. She thinks she has writing skills, but writing skills have nothing to do with posing as someone else to foster an illusion. What she did might not have started out malicious, but she took it there herself by posing as another person to complete the lie. This is not writing. It is fraud. And those who stand by her and belittle you and your pain will see her true colors in the end. Leave it to Kharma, she knows best how to handle liars. Stick with us, the smart, caring, warm folks.. we will hold you aloft in this sea of dips***s.
Love ya hun!
@tessah (6617)
• United States
15 Jan 09
perfect? no.. mistakes are made as always. i sometimes might push the wrong button on the phone cause im not looking and hang up on someone.. or read a map upside down without realizing and go in the wrong direction.. ya know.. "mistakes" but purposefully set out to harm others and then find it funny? purposefully be deceptive? no.. im not "perfect" but i sure as hell try to be ever mindful of those i claim to care about becase they and their trust is important to me and never EVER do things such as this to ANYone. i strive for this perfection.. and dont hide behind the human factor for bad behavior.
@tessah (6617)
• United States
15 Jan 09
i agree with all points other than my attempting to appear better than others. that is not my intent. my intent, and ultimate purpose.. was simply due to seeing her once again weaving the tales of her sposed life.. and others being taken in by them once again as i had been. and it simply isnt in me to sit back, and watch others heading towards pain and not open my mouth about it. itd make me just as deceitful as the person doing the offense, and while im not infallible.. i do TRY to be as much as i possibly can. i do not like the "im human" defense, and yes i do try to be better than that. the illogical concept that i "didnt ask" if she was lying therefore im to blame for beleiving her is absolutely ludicrous! as far as everything else youve said, yes.. youre completely correct.. the negativity that surrounds this woman and the feelings i have towards her, are harming me. hard to forgive when there is no remorse.. hard to forget when the patterns continue.. i`ll work on that.
@radairc (98)
• United States
15 Jan 09
And just for the record.. befriending the dog that attacked you is only lining yourself up for the inevitable next attack. Anyone worthy of being a friend wouldn't have hurt you purposefully and laughed at your expense for so long. All that happened is you decided that "if you can't beat them, join them". I've seen it a million times. Ask any other psychiatrist what they see in this whole mess, and I'm sure most will agree with me. Peace out, I'm a leaf on the wind, watch me float away.
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@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
15 Jan 09
I am tied to one who has been lying on certain issues to me, her friends, her family, and her offspring. As a result I am not living a really happy life.
She lied to me about her past life even though I insisted on knowing exactly what I was getting. She lied to me many times about having to do some extra work at school. Once I went to see her unannounced at school because I was passing by. She was expecting someone else with the cushions laid down on the floor.
She likes to paint a negative picture of me in front of other people. For example she said I was a lazy bum even though I am the one who take care of the clothes and certain chores.
There are many other lies which sprouted from her mouth, and the latest was uttered this morning. She had been confronted by myself and several other people. Instead of addressing the question she talked about other things.
I am still with her because I am not the sort of person who would sever a relationship that has been tightly tied up.
all the best,
rosdimy
rosdimy
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
13 Jan 09
Hey tess~ I totally have no tolerance for anyone who tells
tales and who LIES! I don't care how big or how small the
lies are as long as they are untruths I want no part of it or
them! If I find out that they are lying that is it for me! I
had started a discussion a few months ago about a dilema I had
with a friend/neighbor who was constantly lying about stupid
shite! I have not spoken to her since! She is an ignorant
person and I put up with her knowing that she probably just
can't help it, but I decided that I just couldn't tolerate
the ridiculous lies for no apparent reasons any longer! Why
do people have to lie to enhance their lives or their beings?
No good ever comes from lies! Why can't they see this? I have
no problem exposing someone who is a liar! But, what is the
point? It is just as easy to turn a walk the phuck away!
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@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
13 Jan 09
I do know a person exactly like that and I can tell you that it's highly unlikely that they'll change and it's almost impossible to be good friends with them. The person I know is forever making up stories, exaggerating and just plain lying about EVERYTHING. It doesn't matter how inconsequential it is, he just has to embellish or make up a story about it. And I know from experience that trying to tell them that only leads to them making stuff up about you. I finally had to all but wash my hands of this person and we're no longer good friends. We hang out on occasion but are now more or less just acquaintances.
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