not sure what to do
By kerri1981
@kerri1981 (133)
United States
January 13, 2009 12:57pm CST
Ok Well There's these three friends that I've had for a while they live in illonies and stuff but Italk to them all the time. Well now since I gave them my new number I've been getting prank calls from them non stop sometimes they block there number and sometimes they don't but it's really nasty things they say on the phone. There always calling me bad names and stuff. When I'm in class I put my phone on vibrate just incase my husband calls or my kids but I have to answer it no matter what cause they just keep calling my teachers said if it keeps happening I'm gonna get a write up in class for it. I can't turn off my phone cause if my husband need me or my job needs me. Now when I told them that they need to stop doing this they just laughed it off and said we are just playing. I told them that I would call the cops and put harressment charges againset them but they said if I do that they will come after me and hurt me. I really don't want to change my number cause then I'm gonna have to go through the whole tell everyone the new number thing. I don't know what to do can you please help me out and give me so advice on this thank you.
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12 responses
@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
13 Jan 09
I think first of all if they are your friends they wouldn't keep at it even if it was a joke. Save the messages they left and call the cops. Let the cops hear the messages. Most phone companys can't block a certain number so they will probably just tell you to the change the number. They won't be able to give you the numbers unless you have a police call in asking for it, because the number is under investigation.
Try that and see what happens. Did you let your husband know what is happening. I mean this is interfering with school too. So, I don't know you would have kind of let your husband know and maybe shut it off and if there is anything going on, then have him leave you a message and you just check it after classes.
@kerri1981 (133)
• United States
13 Jan 09
Yeah I did tell my husband he's like you need to call the cops or just change your number I was like I know I'm just so afraid of getting hurt since there threathing me. Yeah I might just turn it off in class
@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
13 Jan 09
And like your husband stated, the only other way to resolve this is just to change your number and only give it to people you trust. But I would try turning it in to the police first and then go from there. Good luck girl. I'm here for you.
@megsgem (123)
• United States
13 Jan 09
First of all they are not your friends....second of all How old are they? they sound like 13 year old girls! You may have to change your number ( I would without hesitation)and then never talk to them again and if they harrass you call the police everytime and get a restraining order...People like that are just mean and childish!
@kerri1981 (133)
• United States
13 Jan 09
Thank you so much. Yeah I know very childish theyre my age 27. Really you can get a restraing order for that I didn't know that thanks
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Jan 09
There ARE things you can do. DO follow through on your threat. You know it is THEM!(Too bad you didn't get that recorded.) Call the telephone company and the police. They have threatened you! I would take it VERY seriously. They have shown you they are not your friends and I would act accordingly. If something should happen to you then you want the authorities to know. What you might even think of doing is to change the number again but that would be ALOT of work. So besure you report it and DONT talk to them anymore!!
@katb28 (225)
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14 Jan 09
im from the uk so i dont realy know much about american law but if you go to the police im sure they can do something and i know if its a mobile phone you can have there numbers bared. do you know why they suddenly started doing this to you?. i dont think these people are friends at all they are being mean and cousing you a great deal of stress, what kind of people are these are they usualy so unkind to people?
@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
14 Jan 09
I would definately call the cops. They are threatening you and that means trouble. If you do nothing they are just going to keep bothering you. I wold be calling the phone company and getting their numbers blocked as well that way even when they call, they won't be able to get through. I still think that you should talk to the police, a threat on your life is not something that should ever be taken lightly. If these people are acting this way, they are not your friends and that is no way to act. I would like to wish you luck and hope that you can solve this problem without having to change your number. Good luck.
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
14 Jan 09
I think you should take some hard actions against them. Complain it to police, they said that they are going to hurt you if you complain. Well i think they cannot do that. If your mobile have a recording option then you can just record their conversation with you. Try to force them to take something wrong out of their mouth. You can ask them i will complain this to the police and if they threaten you by saying that they are going to hurt you.. then try asking them how can you hurt me.. record this whole conversation then you can always blackmail them rather than they disturbing you always.
@mkmoney (468)
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13 Jan 09
yes you should contact the police or call up your phone your who ever you with company (02,orange,vodafone,virgin,3,blyk,t-mobile) that shouldhelp and
the next time that call comes in they wil deal with it and get that number blocked and you
shouldnt have any problems hope this helps bye!
@Autumnrose2008 (1478)
• United States
13 Jan 09
Its a form of Stalking and should not be allowed. What I would do is block there number from coming through and make a call to your local police department.They are childish and need to be taught a lesson like all naughty children.
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
14 Jan 09
The best thing would be to block their calls. Tha would be possible through the help of the telephone company. You will have to talk to the telephone company.
nowadays, this type of problem is getting quite common. It is a sad thing tht even those who call themselves friends behave in this fashion.
@FDBrister (115)
• United States
14 Jan 09
These people you're talking about are not friends. The things they are doing to you is not just joking, it's criminal and you should do something about it. I suggest taping your phone calls with them, taking the tape to the police and filing those harassment charges you mentioned. No one can hurt you when they're in jail. You should also file protective orders against these people. These people are just trying to scare and intimidate you and you're letting them. It's all about control and you have to stop giving them control over you and your feelings. The best way to fight a bully (which is exactly what they are) is to stand up to them and mean it.
You may also want to let your husband in on all of this if he doesn't already know. Maybe he has a suggestion for you. Men can be fantastic in situations like this.
As far as school goes, try talking to your teachers and let them know what's going on. Most teachers I know are understanding. They realize that we are humans; they simply think you're disrespecting their authority and the sanctity of their class, once you explain things, they make be able to help as well.
One final note: you really should change your number and do not give it to these people or anyone associated with them. It sounds like it would be much less of a hassle to have to give out the new phone number than to go on being verbally assaulted.
It's time to move on from these fools and take your life back.