Homework Hassles!

I agree with the suggestion of setting up a reward system. I dealt with ADD and ADHD when my kids were growing up and homework time was a big problem in my house, too. I had a point system where my kids could earn points towards something special that they wanted or that they wanted to do. Regardless of how old your child is, if he's having a problem you have to find a way to deal with it that works. It's not babying him if he really needs supervision and encouragement...along with a little help to make sure he understands the assignment. The attitudes towards learning that he's developing now will follow him throughout his life so do whatever it takes to stop homework time from becoming a battlefield. Good luck.

What I would do is when he brings the homework home, I would make a copy of it before he starts it. If it isn't done right the first time, he can sit down and redo it until it is right. I have a copy machine in my house so if I had to make 10 copies of the same paper, I would. You are right, at 9 yrs old he should be responsible enough to get his homework done. Is he struggling with getting the right answers? or does he just want to rush? YOu need to find this out first. Maybe even start rewarding him once it is done correctly the first time.

[i]Hi lilybug, I have no kids but I guess this is very normal! Just be patient and be form with whatever consequences you have for him for every wrongdoing or maybe if a little award will excite him then you can do it! [/i]

try to motivate him for doing right things and also offer some incentives like what like your give, or taking him out if he does it well, like this, this is not something unusual but is normal you can change this habit just by doing some small things and practices

My daughter hasn't started this. I think he is old enough not to have you standing over him. Might be that he wants some attention from you. One of my nieces aggravates the heck out of her mother until she yells at her. I have actually seen her smile for getting yelled at. But then again being one of 6 girls I guess any attention is looked at as good. Being new to the world of 2 kids myself, this is just a guess. One of the things that works with my daughter is to take away screen time. IE: no t.v., no computer, no v tech.

Hi,i am sorry that i have no experience about it because i have no child yet. But i think you should do as a teacher guides the child to be interest in study.The concrete method i can not think about,But should better not use the material object to reward him.

my 9yr old son demands I watch over him like a hawk everytime he’s doing something on his own. It’s a big issue between us and sometimes I give in, sometimes I don’t. however, I insist he does it his own way…no help there. I can suggest something, some words or phrases maybe, but the basis work has to be his. What you can do is let him take that trash to school and get it evaluate by his teacher. I’m sure he’s not going to get rewarded for that and to top it all, he would feel insulted in front of his friends. So next time, he’s got to be more careful. This generally works for me…my son shudders at the thought of being taunted by the teacher in front of the class. Also, you might just write a few lines for him to give him a basic idea of what is expected. And instead of grounding, why don’t you try rewarding everytime he does a great job?

Whew....been there done that. My son was horrifying when he did his homework around that age. It started in 3rd grade...his teacher was a screamin' maniac (that's another post tho I won't get into that...) and gave tons and tons of homework. I found that ~ when he came home from school I gave him time to wind down and do something he wanted and then he did his homework after dinner. That way he had a break and refreshed his mind. I didn't go the reward route mainly because...doing his homework is something he HAS to do...not an option. Kind of like a job...which I tell my kids their job is to go to school and do well and that is what they have to do ~ no questions asked! Works here....

My kids also give me headache when it comes to their homework and during examination time. I find it very hard to push them to really study their lessons. I always told them that during my time, when I was still studying, I didn't have any tutor or somebody to help me with my lessons. I did all by myself. I don't know I think to need to think of other more effective strategy or good positive motivation for them to really do their best in accomplishing their responsibilities as students.

oh my gosh! that's normal for kids..the problem is if he keeps on doing this again and again and if so..why not try to make methodology or techniques for him to remember like giving him a reward if he can makes all things right like doing his assignment without babying him....kids are meant to be that way., a bit playful.

I feel your pain, lilybug! I have a 13 year old daughter (smart as a whip) and a 12 year old son (not so smart...or hard working). The last few years he's been declining and didn't care about the quality of his homework. Oh, it would drive me bonkers to the point where yes, I did pull out my hair. Rewards did nothing nor did threats. This year, (after him ditching school one day, lying about his homework and other stuff), it became apparent that if he didn't shape up, he'd have to repeat his grade. Time's running out and these last two weeks he's been working very hard and dilligently. Not saying you're not doing this, but my problem was I wasn't paying him enough attention outside of his homework. I have four children and it's hard splitting my time between them all. So, for the last month, I've realized how much he LOVES video games and bought some that we can play together. Since then, his grades and commitment towards school has improved. I guess once he saw that I was interrested in him, he became interrested in making sure I would be proud of him. Good luck! *Pleiades