Breastfeeding in public!

Breastfeeding - Breastfeeding is the beauty of God and it is a gift given to women
@sanuanu (11235)
India
January 13, 2009 8:04pm CST
Recently, I was traveling in a train. There was a couple with a new born baby with them. That baby is really cute. I don't know it was a baby boy or a baby girl. So, after sometime, the baby started to cry and the mother needs to feed him the milk. Well, she started feeding that baby. I know, it was bad but I was feeling very uncomfortable with it. Her breast was uncovered and I wanted to ask the lady to cover it but couldn't do that. The question is, should that women cover her breast while breastfeeding the baby? Was that a bad thing staring her breast(because most of the men were staring at that)?
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
24 May 09
I think that if it is a boy or a girl baby is immaterial, but unless you live in a tropical country where all the women are bare br*sted, a woman should cover her br*st. I know that br*st feeding is better, but there is such a thing as decency and should not be bragging to others that she is a better mother for doing so, which is what I got the feeling from what she did.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
25 May 09
Who said what to whom? Are you talking to me?
@Mitraa (3184)
• India
16 May 09
Yes, a woman engaged in such feeding must cover her with her saree or with a napkin. What is the wrong with it? This adds decency to this vital work. Thanks for this nice topic and have a good day!
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
17 May 09
Yea, one should respect her body while feeding her child. Being a male, I can't imageing the problem on doing it in public. Thanks for the response.
• United States
14 Jan 09
Well if you have to this in a public,they should cver there self out of respect to other people.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
17 Jan 09
Indeed and I want to respect them too. Thanks for your response and your time given to my discussion.
@nigenh (167)
• India
14 Jan 09
i wud say she shld have covered herself before feeding her baby up coz she knows tat she is travelling in public where there are gazers who peep into anything
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
15 Jan 09
I can still remember that scene and I was confused whether to stare it or move my head in another way. The way that women was handeling it, she was careless of what is being shown to the other guys on that compartment.
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@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
i wouldn't blame you if you were uncomfortable with that, but i also can't say that "it should be prohibited" LoL... maybe she's just too comfortable with it that she didn't even bother to think of the others who could be watching her. But if you were her husband, you'd probably want her to cover it up, wouldn't you??? cause you wouldn't want any other man staring at her.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
10 Mar 09
Definitly, I would have at least asked her once. I think his husband was also not interested in interfering his wife. I feel guilty because sometime this scence could become one of the part in my fantasy stories. You know there is an animal in every man!
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
11 Mar 09
Ooops! Didn't had the idea that I was talking with a women!
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
HAHAHAH LoL i gotcha.... though I'm a female I'm just so aware how the male brain works. *wink wink.*
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@dashawk (275)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
Hmmmm i've seen these situations many times, i thinks its just normal to fed their child in the open. It is necessary if the mother and her child is on travel..
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
12 Mar 09
You are quite good at it and well after all this discussion, I think that I got my answer and I hope that the next time I will not be staring. Just because I want to respect everyone's feeling including that lady! Thanks man for coming back.
@shyamlal (3533)
• India
24 May 09
Well she should have covered herself..about you being uncomfortable or staring on it...there is nothing you could have done..
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
24 May 09
Hi Shyam Lal, Yes, she should have but she has some other thinking. May be she was exhausted or busy with something, you never know.
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
22 May 09
I know they have to feed them every 2-3 hours, so no doubt there are times they will be stuck in a public place. However I totally think women should cover it. I don't care if it is NATURAL. You know what else is Natural? Going to the bathroom is Natural! But you dont go to the bathroom in front of people. Women have been trying to say it's Natural and "you shouldn't stare" forever, but I just think it's a lack of modesty when women won't put a little blanket over it. Heck, I knew women who wouldn't even want anyone else in the room while they did it! With a more modest women - you wouldn't even KNOW when she was feeding because it's possible to be very private and modest about it.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
22 May 09
Yea, that is what I also thought that even if it is natural, it should be done in some privacy but the last decisions must be taken by the woman herself. For me, I don't feel comfortable when I see them doing that in public, though I am luckey that I haven't face it in last 2-3 months!
@coolmailraj (2460)
• India
24 May 09
Hi. For this particular thing, I think it is really bad of the men to stare at her. Feeding her baby is something she will always do, no matter what she is into and at this motherly gesture, we should look towards her only with respect and love and not with lust. I have been in the similar situation a couple of times before and think that it is really bad on part of men.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
24 May 09
I know I am a little bad and I am trying to change my self. These days I am a little lucky that I didn't find any mother feeding her chid in front of me.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
10 Apr 09
I nursed all my babies. While it is nothing at all to be ashamed of, I do think that out of consideration for others, a woman should cover herself. Whenever I was in a situation where I had to nurse in public, I always threw one of those lightweight little baby blankets over my shoulder and made a little tent to cover the baby and myself. It worked perfect and quite often others were not even aware that I was nursing. Were you wrong for staring? Well staring at anyone for any reason is a bit rude. On the flip side, if it bothered the woman, I think she would have said something or gone into the ladies room or moved somewhere more discreet.
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
10 Apr 09
Thanks for the comfort words. I always wanted to tell that woman to cover herself but I couldn't because 1. Her husband was right beside him 2. She wasn't at all care full that there only guys in that compartment.
@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
29 May 09
Most married women don't mind other people staring them while feeding their babies in public. Yes, If I were them I would cover it with some cloth because it is very uneasy when other people keep staring in your body.
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• India
22 May 09
That's not at all fair. Uncovered milk feeding a baby in public is not a fair thing at all. If the child needs milk, then it's her duty to feed milk, but not in an uncovered manner. She could have covered while feeding the baby. Also, other people may have the tendency to look at her. So here, the lady is committing the mistake and not the public. Being a mother, she could have better covered her body while feeding the public. Some husbands are not at all aware about these things and therefore, they are yet another responsible persons for this.
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
if you have a baby and she/he is hungry you really cant think of anything else but to feed your child... that really doesnt matter anyway.. well thats just for me..
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
21 Apr 09
Of course, thre are certain thngs you can't delay at times but still you have to respect you own body, isn't it?
@Setto24 (122)
• Indonesia
17 May 09
Ow.. its okey... mother know what her baby wants... in public?! okey... just do it as soon as possible... baby needs it. you can tell all of men, not to staring like that... coz they was... what kind of public place do we at that time... not have to cover your br**sts.. its something usual.. and not taboo... i think its okey..
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
10 Mar 09
Babies should be fed when they need. But the mother should be careful also. She should have covered when she was feeding the baby./ Otherwise it can show bad.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
11 Mar 09
I can remember! All the people starring at her and even throwing absurd jokes on that. They were so low in voice that the women could not hear it at all. I wonder why she did that. She looked from a good family with nice clothes on. Her language was also very good. It wasn't summer season, which could make her uncomfortable. May be she wanted to be noticed in that compartment!
@GemmaR (8517)
14 Jan 09
Firstly, every mother has to feed her child, and if they're on a train and the baby needs feeding then I guess it has to happen. I agree that some mothers do show a little too much flesh, and could probably show a lot less if they tried! I think you would have to be a woman with a tiny baby to be able to understand their perpective of the situation.. but I guess it doesn't happen much so you could just live with it..however uncomfortable it might have made you feel at the time.
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
Sad to know few women are so careless, when they're married. They felt it's okey and being already married is an excuse. There's only few in number, however who's practicing it, maybe it depends upon their way of living. Even we, also women who will see same scenario would feel uncomfortable and would feel embarassed to the men around.
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
I had witnessed that many times, especially on public vehicles. Though, I am a female I felt embarrassed for myself for stealing a glimpse that private part being uncovered. I don't know, as for me, if I have a cloth to cover while I'm feeding my baby I would have done it.
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