On break-ups.
By phyrethyme
@phyrethyme (1267)
Philippines
January 14, 2009 5:08am CST
I am wondering, how do you break-up with someone you have been with for three years but the relationship's on and off.
The thing is that you don't want to continue the relationship anymore and you just want to be single. Your partner is starting to notice a gap forming between the two of you. He sees no problem in the relationship but the girl fell out of love.
Have you ever fallen out of love? How do you break-up with someone you have been with for long, but it was on and off?
How do you leave someone who expects you to stay? I am actually tired of everything and I just want to be single. I want to "grow". I want the space. I want to go out and meet new people and I want him to learn to be okay without me.
Do you actually believe someone who says that he'll commit suicide if you leave him? Hm.
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3 responses
@cyrusgb03 (17)
• Philippines
14 Jan 09
It hurts friend, anyway much better if you will tell the truth rather than staying and pretending as it is all okay when one party don't have the feelings anymore. stay safe!
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@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
14 Jan 09
Yeah, but my problem is how to approach him. You see the problem is, I want to leave him while he on the other hand, misses me badly. Cruel reality, I know. But I don't want to hide..
@cyrusgb03 (17)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
I think gbolly54 idea is much better. If you can leave your place for a few months after sending the letter, please do and maybe you can explain or talk to him over the phone or internet for further explanation...
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@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
I understand but it will really devastate him. I'm thinking of a clean rejection actually, I don't want to leave him desperate, in tears, hurt, and confused.. I should really think about this anyway..
@kryssyxxx (29)
• Canada
15 Jan 09
hi, the important thing is that at some point you have to put yourself first. if your unhappy with the relationship, you should end it. dont hesitate by fear of hurting the person you are with. If that person really cares about you, he'll want your hapyness. Its not easy, but youll feel a whole lot better after:P
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@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
I see.. Thanks. The end result isn't really a big deal but the process is..
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
30 May 09
yes i have been with so amny relationships that i also have been thru so many break ups. when i fall out of love i directly go to the point of breaking up but if i could sense the doubts in me, i would try still having him because still i do value our relationship specially if it has gone a very very long way already. but now i stick with what i have and who i love most!!!! and im glad i did!!! thanks friend. ...jhelai
