What is The First Impression You Usually Get From Other People?
By margaux08
@margaux08 (1094)
Philippines
January 14, 2009 3:05pm CST
They said that "First Impression is the Last Impression." This may be true at times but not all the time. Sometimes, how people perveived you may be different as the real you. Oftentimes,how people perceived you is the person that you wanted to be perceived.
Personally, I get lots of feedback from friends and colleagues telling me that they first thought of me as "snob." After they get to know me better, that's the only time that they knew the real me - everything but!
Friends told me that I should smile more and look straight to the eyes of whoever I talk to - be that my friend or just someone I just knew.
Just wondering... What are the usual first impressions you receive? Are those reflect your real personality - or far from the real you?
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16 responses
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
19 Jan 09
Well, I get a lot of different responses when it comes to other people's first impression of me.
From being a fierce fella to being a snob, they all view me differently after they know me better.
Part of the reason could be because of my facial features. When I do not smile, I tend to have a natural frown on my face. A starn kind of look like I am in some grouchy mood. 
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
I like the term... natural frown... I guess I am embedded by this natural frown as well.
By the way... out of the context, just curious... what does the Chinese character in your avatar means? Am I right? Is that kanji or something? Thank you for responding....
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@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
thanks for the response. i just asked because i was curious. I've seen shirts with prints like that and I don't know what it means... at least now I know, thanks so much!
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@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
15 Jan 09
Hey,
Well when firstly people saw me and still see me, they thought that I was really depressed and sad (because that is how I look like). But on the inside I am actually quite happy and really friendly. Happy Lotting! 
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
What do you mean by look like depressed and sad? I can't imagine... Fill me in please... We're talking about first impression here and I think it will be unfair for you if you will just be judged as being "depressed" in an instant, right?
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 09
not too far from my real me about the first impression that people given to me. be friendly manner is the thing that i did in the first time i meet the person and i like to do that and most of them will drop comment that i am sweet, hehehehehe
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
21 Jan 09
Wow! That's good for you. Very few people I know live up to their first impression. You must be naturally charming to people. Keep it up!
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
16 Jan 09
well depend who i would ask. some will say i am the nicest and the most honest person they ever met. a big teddy bear. very well manner to everyone
then there are some who had told me i came across as an a$$hole. a big mouth person who is very straight with everyone no matter who you are. i am very hard a$$,i could careless what you or anyone else think about me,
but for real i am a very nice person, well manner, but i am very straight with everyone, and i could carless what you or anyone think about me. as long i carry myself with respect and honor
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
18 Jan 09
Whoa! That's too much to bear. So who's the real you? And depending on the "friends" you ask, are the "friends closer to you" would say that you are the nicest, and most honest? Or is it the other way around?
One point to consider is when you said that you wouldn't care less...as long as you carry yourself with respect and honor. After all, people with negative views towards you will not make them better people, right?
That's too much to bear. So who's the real you? And depending on the "friends" you ask, are the "friends closer to you" would say that you are the nicest, and most honest? Or is it the other way around?
One point to consider is when you said that you wouldn't care less...as long as you carry yourself with respect and honor. After all, people with negative views towards you will not make them better people, right?
@Yori88 (1465)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
The first impression I get from other people is that I am kind. Well I am not pulling a leg here but my face really shows that I am kind. The real me is not so kind but I am good in some other things like being friendly, loving, honest and responsible.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
18 Jan 09
I guess "kind' is a general attribute. And being innately kind may also mean being friendly, loving, honest and responsible. Nice to hear positive first impression from you!
@qaseh56 (25)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 09
Me?, my friends told me that i'm always projecting a happy and easy to get close image but then later they found out that's only on the surface. Well, that i have to agree because i do take my sweet time allowing people to get close to me, in fact, i did not give my trust that easily. And true friends are hard to come by anyway.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
21 Jan 09
I couldn't agree more! It is nice to project a friendly personality when presenting one's self in front of new acquaintances. It also attracts positivism. However, building friendship is a different thing. And you are correct once again in saying that "true friends are hard to come by." I am a victim of such several times. Perhaps you may want to start a discussion about that. I will be more than happy to add a response base on my own experiences.
Thank you for sharing and welcome to myLot!
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
Hi there Margaux!That's funny because like you, I was always thought of as a snob at first. Well, I need to talk to the person and hang-out with him or her before he or she know that I am not a snob and in fact, I am a generally friendly person.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
Sometimes I get into thinking that most often than not, for first time meeting, people tend to adhere to the notion that if the person does not smile a lot or does not smile at all, they take is as "snob." What if that person is just timid? or like me... clannish? I just smile whenever I feel comfortable already to others, but not from the initial meeting. I just wish people will be not so judgmental.
Thank you for this response! Happy myLotting!
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
15 Jan 09
I look at people's hair and dress and mannerisms. I think that if you don't smile right away they might get the wrong impression.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
18 Jan 09
Initially, how people dress and how they carry themselves create a huge impact. Mannerisms also count for logical reasons as I continue to observe an individual. Probably how they groom also count...
What about you? How were you usually perceived initially by others?
Thanks for the response...
@nick1in (195)
• Lucknow, India
15 Jan 09
Never judge a book by its cover. We simply cannot get an accurate impression just by meeting a person for the first time and that too for a real short time. Always try to be a bit open minded and be ready to change your opinions if the situation demands.
@deborahkat (519)
• Brazil
15 Jan 09
They also say I am "snob" at first. But when they know me better they change their minds. I try to get first impressions I get from people so serious because most of them are wrong. Sometimes someone that looked very mature for me shows to be very childish after sometime.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
Yup I agree especially if the person is wearing glasses. For some reason, there is an added seriousness for someone wearing glasses...until you get to know that person better.
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
14 Jan 09
I haven't really first met anyone since a few months ago, I think. But the last time I had a first encounter, which was around the beginning of school, I would be really focused on having something to say. But I can't find anything to say, and it can get awkward. I might get the impression that they don't like me if they don't say much, because then they might be thinking "Oh, hell, just GO AWAY." I don't want to give anyone that impression, I want them to know that I really do want to talk to them, so I try to find things to say. But I'm horrible at first impressions. Isn't everyone?
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
You might be really shy. Sometimes, it is okay to go out from your comfort zone. Let go of your inhibitions. It is okay to be shy... but there is also nothing wrong with gaining friends.
Count me in...
@chaolai (162)
• Philippines
14 Jan 09
They also tagged me as a SNOBISH one and SENSITIVE too. I dont know what are the category the are following in terms of giving first impression but I dont believe on it. First impression can be deceiving. and i dont care on the things they would tell me because they dont really know me. what they see is what they get! thats wht i think. happy mylotting! :p
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
14 Jan 09
Probably it has something to do with our reaction when we meet people the first time. Just like me,you might also not used in smiling a lot, for first time meeting. I am able to open myself a little more as I become more comfortable talking to people, but not for the first time meeting.
Just like a good book that can not be judged by its cover alone, I guess people should also do away with pre-judging others.
Thank you for a beautiful response!
@bantilesroger (341)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
What they see is what they get, pleasant, diplomatic, soft-spoken, agreeable, seeking consensus and middle ground, except that people underestimate my streak of stubbornness when it involves standing on the right versus what is wrong.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
18 Jan 09
I sense that you are a deep person, not only from your responses but also from the discussions you started. I am just curious why you said that you feel people "underestimate your streak of stubbornness" in terms of voicing your opinion - be it right or wrong?
@nirose (384)
• India
15 Jan 09
Well i don't really ask for anyone response but people tell me i am charming and smart. It's nice when they say that even when you don't ask at all.
And smiling is one of the best impressions
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
18 Jan 09
Yup, couldn't agree more. Smile is the most vibrant jewel you can ever put. It always equate with charm... As an add on, wearing eye glasses most often get impressions from others as "smart", but sometimes... unfortunately, some people also pre-judge those wearing glasses as nerd.
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@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Hello margaux! I am the type of person who asked my friends what was their first impression to me. Most of them said that they thought I am snob, strict and not easy to be with. But when they got to me, they realized that all their first impression to me was wrong.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
20 Jan 09
I think I come across as a bit of a snob too. I am a nice, friendly person but I tend to not really display it. I will see people out in a pub or something like that that I know through work and they always say 'wow, I can't believe you're the same person I see at _______!' I think I am quite unapproachable at first and look rather surly a lot of the time. I'm definitely the sort of person you need to get to know before you really 'get me'.
