would you ever take a cheater back?

H[i]i jhl, It is very hard to say things prior but for me, I will think and rethink a lot about it. I might even consider the advices of my Parents considering that I have a very close relationship with them. If I can see sincerity, I might give a chance but as I've said, it will be a lot of thinking![/i]

NO its not worth it once a cheater all ways a cheater *SNAPS FINGERS WITH ANGER* let sleeping dogs sleep

How can you cheat "accidentally"?? You do or you don't. In retrospect, a person may feel guilty and say they "didn't mean to cheat" but that's still not an accidental situation. It was a choice that was, perhaps, followed by the realization that they'd made a mistake. Sometimes, people don't even feel it's a mistake -- unless or until they get caught. Personally, I feel relationships are based on trust and respect for your partner. I would have neither of those things for a man that cheated on me. I'd find it impossible to trust him again and, without trust, it wouldn't be a strong relationship. So, no, I wouldn't take him back.

we only human and we have a chance to forgive so why not take the cheater back?and in that case it depends,if i proved that he or she cheated on me.but first we need to set down and talk face to face.

The commonly known phrase is "Once a cheater, always a cheater." But it's not always true. In fact, most of the time it's not true. Yes, there are men and women that really are "players" at heart, and they will habitually cheat. But must cheating is situational. In a large percentage of cases, a person cheats because they are unhappy or unfulfilled in their current relationship, and as a result they react inappropriately. An affair is never the right way to react, but it is sometimes understandable, once you see the entire situation. Once the infidelity is discovered, it is up to BOTH parties to decide if they want to salvage the relationship. The cheating partner clearly already had reasons to want out, and the other person will now have some pretty extreme issues of trust and betrayal. But sometimes an affair serves as a wake-up call to both parties, and they realize that they do have serious problems. I would take back a cheater that I believed was not a habitual cheater - if they cheated out of unhappiness, no matter how wrong that behavior was, then maybe it'll make me realize what I'M doing that is making my partner so unhappy, and the relationship can be saved. If they cheated because they got really really drunk and one thing led to another, etc...yeah, I'd probably take him back. If my partner had a history of cheating, then I'd kick him to the curb. But if there's no pattern or track record, I'd be willing to give him a second chance.

Hi jhl930! oh nice discussion! YES, ive experienced that and YES I DID take accept him too. At first i thought that he would change and this incident are just a challenge in our relationship. I also thought that he wont do that again and move onbut until the time he repeated that again. now i told to myself that this is way too much. once is ok and twice is too much so i let him go. i loved him so much but to think of it that if this will continue i will be miserable for the rest of my life. happy mylotting!

I must say it would be hard but I guess it would depend on the situation and how much he seems to regret For instance, did he confess or did he get busted? if he confessed I would be more likely to give him a 2nd chance it takes a lot to confess, if he got caught .. i 'm not sure..maybe he got caught THAT time but he had done it before? Was it a 1 night stand or a longer infedility? I would be more understanding for the 1 time "mistake", than something that lasted..means he's been covering it up .. etc .. lies lies and more lies Was ther big problem in the relationship before? Do we have kids ? and such things But it would be very hard and I would have some BIG trust issues

I won't say no right off the bat. I would talk to the cheater and see what was in the persons mind. If I determined that it was just a mistake that the person made I would be willing to give them another chance. But just one chance. Also I would be keeping a close eye on the person until they proved that they could be trusted. One chance is all a person gets with me. And the explanation that is given to me better make since to me.

sorry but once bitten twice shy. Perhaps, i would take him back if it's the first offense. But anything more than that, NO WAY. Enough is enough. Once a cheater always a cheater. I know it's stereotype but i value myself quite abit. You're not the only man in this world for me. And honestly, i lose respect for those that don't keep their promises again and again.

For me, it depends on the situation.. If I'm so desperate and sincerely in love with this guy then maybe I won't think twice of accepting him again in my life no matter how much pain he had caused me.. I don't know its kinda stupid but I think I will be able to accept him because of LOVE.. We all know that LOVE is the most crazy and stupid things that can make to one person and maybe I will be one of them.. Well, I haven't experienced being cheated by my boyfriend.. However, I always experienced being cheated by my friends ( not real friends ) I hate to admit that most of friends were not really a real friends.. It seems that we were just friends when we were facing with each other or when we were together but if we were a part from each other then they were saying all the things that they want to say without realizing that I'm their friend..

I don't cheat,because I don't like to be cheated. A person who cheat once has the capacity to do it again and again. And that's the most scary. A person who cheat has no character and will destroy you and the lives of those around them forever. One cheat leads to more cheats... I had with a person who cheated and I know that he can't be trusted and don't respect him anymore. It was very frustrating.

According to me it depend on opposite person, if you had a very good time with ur better half, you will accept him/her. B'cause only one mistake in life cannot diminish all best job done in relationship. If something happened accidently then person shuld forgive person and accept him/her. if he/she is very good at relation. In my case ,i can uphappy with her for sometime, then i will surely accept her. B'cause if she is really bad for me she can cheat me for a long time.After that period reveal, real herself. and i can decide she is good for me or not.

friend ,as your friend said sometimes it is accident. if it was me first i may go through the problem,why he cheated me ,did he realised it or not, whether he still wants my love .if these things are clear i will allow him to be with me because true love happens only ones ,others are alljust shows.

i hate the cheat man.evryone likes the honest one,but most people have the experience to lie to someone,may the white lie or black lie(hahaha)