could you trust again?

If it is only once then it would take me time to get over. I couldn't just go back right away. I would need time to prevent from wanting to tear someone apart. The thing is though you can't just forgive you have to try to forget. Its hard to look into someones face that you love and remember things like that. It takes time to forget but if you and that other person is willing to work at it and try to put it behind you then i think it could work. If it reoccures though then no way.

I have forgiven for being cheated on....And I dod not end the relationship....However Its much harder for me to trust her in anyway...

Practically it is not possible to stay away from the cheaters. You generally find people cheating on you in the office or in your relationship. You can not stay away from both of them. You tend to meet such people everyday in and out. So you have to go back to the same people who cheated on you.

depend on the person n the situation.

Trust is a mutual bond that each partner has the potential to break. It is similar to a magnetic attraction, but one magnet can inadvertantly be turned around to revoke the other magnet. That is a corny way to put it, but its what I think. No one deserves trust, some people give trust (in hope to gain something from the relationship). If someone would break my trust, especially in such a way as cheating on me, they did not deserve my trust initially; and they will never receive it again. This may sound harsh, but it is the truth. There would be no forgiveness, no forgetting, and never any trusting again. That person would have killed our relationship.

Well personally I could forgive someone who cheated on me although it would take a long time and I would have to be genuinely convinced that the person was repentant and truely loved me, I think it´s one of the most hurtful things when someone you love cheats on you. I hope it never happens to me.

Hi Jhl930 Well, there are people who may forgive the person who cheated on them, but its not my cup of tea. I can never trust that person again, even if you try to, negative thoughts keep popping up in your mind which is unhealthy for a relationship. One can certainly be friends with each other but i personally don't prefer jumping into relationship with the same person. My boyfriend isone of those who trusted me ones again, because i cheated on him earlier, and he gave me another chance to prove my love. When i asked him, why he did this, i don't know, i feel you wnt do this ever again!! Cheers!!

well you know there are bad and good people wherever you go, so if someone cheat on me that doesn't mean that all people would cheat on me you should trust then if the person turn out to be a baster don't talk to him or to her again anymore

Personally speaking, no I cannot. I have been through these stages of life. And I have tried to forget and forgive cheaters. But, somehow in the back of your head you never forget. You always stay suspicious. When things are going well, there is no problem. But, when you argue about something, even something little. That topic will always come back up. You might not mention it, but you will still have it in your memory. I think the only way to cure a relationship, when one has cheated is: "Cheat as well". That way you are even, both have done something you normally don't do. I think only that way a relationship can survive. You give each other some freedom. And learn to forgive each other. But, in my case I just leave. Maybe if I would have done that, cheated as well, I would still be together with some of my BF's. My tolerance is very low, and looking back, that is not always good. I mean, it is 2009. Don't get me wrong, this is only my opinion. Follow your heart. Take care.

I couldnt trust someone who has cheated on me before. I believe that it's just as they say "once a cheater, always a cheater"

Yes, you can.. i've been cheated by my partner once and it was painful, big time! my partner admitted that he went island hopping with his pathetic ex gf.. GRR!!! The incident made me decide to end the relationship but my partner asked for forgiveness and promised not to do that horrible thing ever again..so i gave our relationship another shot.. blah blah blah.. we've been living together for almost four years and i can really say that my partner has changed a lot.. =)

i have been cheated by some of my close ones in life.. how can i trust them again . wenever i see them i just feelike running away from dere. its jus beacause they have broken my trust. so will you trust anyone who have cheated you.. i will never

Hey, I would have to honestly say that I couldn't really trust a person again if they would have done something like cheated on me or stole something. This is me of course, I don't know about anyone else. Happy MyLotting!

I think to me it would depend on some things. Like how long have I been with that person, am I married stuff like that. I think I would want to go to conseuling as well because something must be wrong for someone to cheat. This is my feelings on this. I hope I helped with the discussion, good luck with it and happy mylotting to you.

once bitten we will all, naturally be shy twice.It is difficult to trust a person again once that person has cheated you.You can still talk with them but cannot transact with them -meaning-- cannot give your involvemebnt too; transaction does not mean anything in cash or kind alone. Emotions, thoughts sharing of wavelength is also transaction.

It would be hard to trust a person who has cheated on you. At the back of your mind you are always worried, and you always have second thoughts about what he tells you and what he does. Based on my experience, I am learning just now how to trust my boyfriend again. When we got back together after he cheated on me, I thought my trust on him was there. But after two years I realized that it has never been the same. I only started trusting him again when I ran to his mother for advice and she suggested that maybe, after all that we have been through, I should try to trust him. But I am not making an effort. I just observe what he does and little by little, I have been feeling that he is telling the truth. What it really takes is knowing the person very well and trusting your own instincts about the things that are happening between the two of you.

I don't believe in 2nd chances for relationships, in most part... It the relationship didn't last in the first place, it won't for the 2nd time around, with same partner... I'm pretty sure there are plenty of people out there that will contradict me on this point & I'm strictly talking about myself... As far as cheating goes, once the trust is broken in any type of relationship, either a friendship or romantic relationship, it won't ever be the same... There always be a doubt & "what-if"s other partner's mind... I always think the honesty is the best policy in any relationship & if the truth breaks up the relationship, than I believe it was never meant to be to begin with... Who would wanna base their relationship on a lie or dis-honesty anyway? My girl friend & I've been living together for close to 7 years & we've always been honest with each other & our lives are practically open book to each other... There's no secrets... She knows just about every little details of my life... I mean, let's not get painfully anal here... My girl friend doesn't know what I had for snack while I was working or how long it took me to walk from one end of the building to another at my job... But even that, if she wants to know, I'd tell her... No matter how trivial things are, if a couple can't be honest with each other on little things, how do we expect each other to be honest with big issues...??? Just my thoughts & opinions...

Hello, well learning from my own mistakes of going back to a cheater I would have to seriously think it through.I have been married one time and not in much of a hurry to do it again.I for sure know I Could never trust my ex-husband, it is not even an option. Now if my b/f cheated on me I could not see him doing that.I usually ask him "what would your mother or your aunt do if they knew how you acted?" My b/f is from a very religious family so that's why I can't see him cheating.Hope I made the best choice for my b/f but I am not completely saying he is perfect but if he did cheat I know I might give him another chance.Hard to really say cause he hasn't cheated on me. With that in mind trust would take some time to be regained so eventually I might trust.