Backstabber at Work.???

In this case, I will listen to any third party comment to one person or group. But, it doesn't mean that I have to swallow it to my throat, blindly. Without any "Proof of Statement' on their saying, although the news came from my best friend or friends. Not to say that am good enough, but, I don't want my end decision would falls into the wrong zone. Am talking about true life, where, me too having lots of ordeal in this issue during my past time when people finger pointing at me for something which I'd done nothing wrong in that circle of situation. I strongly believed, results speak itself, eventually the truth helps me much cast-out me from that cloudy atmosphere and am a gainer. MY CONCLUSION : Hearsay needs rumors element but truth needs proof. Referring to your discussion content, I'll be friend to that person and our friendship value is my final decision making as seeing is believing. I won't be a follower as I need to be a quality leader. One more thing must remember, justification not necessarily satisfaction. My simple example, many members said bad things about myLot on other sites. The more they grumbles the more positively value am gaining about myLot. Not just my tongue speaking, my heart speaks on here; http://www.mouthshut.com/review/myLot.com-159210-1.html

amazingheart, this is a commonplace situation in workstations. those employees with this kind of attitude will not only backstab their co-employees, even their employers can be their victims, too. i have learned this much after having been working for various establishments through all these years. in fact, i have been an employer also for sometime in my life in some business ventures and it cannot be helped that i get my hands with these kind of creatures. always, they are being described as people with attitudinal problems. they come to you as a friend. they are the ones who always come to you for advice or help with their task. you will think that they are thankful for your help. no, not so. to cover for the inadequacy at work, they will spread humors (bad ones at that) about you to break the good reputation that befalls you for being a person who can be highly relied upon. that is right, friend, just stay away from people who have this problem with their attitude in life. there is no other better remedy than that.

unfortunately, whether we like it or not, we will encounter backstabbers. i have a so-called friend who happens to be a backstabber and like you, i've kept myself away from them. i don't think that being a backstabber will solve anything. just keep yourself upbeat. no matter what she/he says as long as it is not true, let it go. otherwise, if you get too emotional, you'll end up being in their level. always be the bigger person. no one will believe what they say anyway. :)

I experienced this with a woman that I had worked with for many years at another job. We were laid off from that job, and she found a job at another company, and referred me. I was given the job, but after five years I was laid off from that job. The manager called years later and offered me a position, I accepted, and that is when the backstabbing began. I actually took the position my friend had, and she was given another job position. She probably gave me the wrong instructions on who to perform the job, and everytime there was a mistake, her and the manager would gather together and talk about me. I eventually was laid off again, and have not heard from this so called friend in seven months. She hasn't called to see how I am doing, or even whether or not I got another job. I finally see what kind of friend she was.

Whether you like it or not, you will encounter backstabbers everywhere you go.. most likely it happens in the offices.. just like my hubby, he has encountered lots of backstabbers in his workplace.. At first, they'll be like your close close friends then after a month or so, they'll start to gossip about you.. yay!

Back-stabbing is considered an artform by some. You can psycho-anyalize why they do it, reflect on their lack of character development and whatnot but try not to waste your time getting wrapped up in their warped world. If you work for a good company the cream will rise usually. However, not all companies are good and sometimes it is best to cut your losses and move on to better opportunities. Good luck.

This is the reason why I feel that we cannot really have any friends in office, only acquaintances. One way to keep safe is not to indulge in gossip...you never know who is talking what against whom and what you say in lightly may actually be held against you by somebody at an opportune moment. Another strategy is to keep you ears and eyes open so that you get an idea of who all have the tendency to back-stab. The moment you keep mum, people tend to ingnore you or take you as 'safe' and talk in front of you. A third strategy would be to stay as neutral as possible...try not to take sides and do your work sincerely. And of course, the supreme strategy is to alwasy remain in the good books of the Boss.

A person who has a history of back stabbing will never change herself. She will always be like that and it is always dangerous to linger with someone like that. I have know someone who is a back stabber and she had back stabbed me more than once. Because I know I can't avoid myself from having contact with her, I have to forgive her. It took time for me to be friendly again with her after she had back stabbed me, but every time as soon as I started to forgive her and forget about what she had done to me, she began back stabbing me again. It looks like she will never learn from her mistakes and therefore after several times she had done it to me, I made a decision to distance myself from her. She is a disaster and I should run away from seeing her sight.

Yes I have a person in mind who is a back stabber. He has a sweet tongue with everyone of us but then really stabs you into the back when you least expect him to do so. I just walk away from these kind of people as they do spell trouble and can make your life hell. I just keep a safe distance not to be bitten by them.

Backstabbing is pure greed and dishonesty. Certain people are able to do everything that is possible in order to get a promotion or to achieve their goal. sometimes it is very difficult to separate backstabbers from real friends. Usually the one that are the most sweet talkers are the one that you have to be really wary of.

Hey, Well firstly it isn't good to go near the person. That is the main thing I would try and do, seeing that they are so mean and treat other people like they are worthless. That is what I do anyway, hope this helps. Happy Lotting everybody!

Good for you, not showing your emotions at work. I'd probably have had to go home sick if I learned my "friend" was stabbing me in the back. I would need time to regroup. Good for you... I'm sure this has happened to me before, but I can't remember the exact situation. I'm sure it is common.

In my case should I encountered a coworker who's so friendly and learned that shes backfighting me, I would talk to her nicely and ask her about what she'd been saying. Should you remain silent you will not know what really transpired. She might said a little negative but others make it big. Others maybe had a grudge with her that's why their pointing at her as the backfighter. It's not fair to judge her unless you prove it yourself. Everything can be settled with cooler heads.

I think I'm stupid. I'm not conscious if someone hurt me from the back. Even if others have told me that, I won't leave the backstabber, if only he/her treat me friendly. Yes, I'm stupid. I mind friendly air too much.