Yes or No: On Online Dating?
By janyen
@janyen (623)
Netherlands
January 15, 2009 8:26am CST
Hi mylotters,
Just curious to others out there.
For me--YES. I met my husband online but not one of the dating sites. I met him in wayn which is a travellers site. Luckily we bumped into each other and fell inlove.
Share your stories and post it here.
10 responses
@70nyh0Ax (177)
• India
15 Jan 09
Well i'll say i depends on luck here. It may be risky sometimes. Well i prefer to have phone number after chatting sometime so that i can call and hear her voice or see her on webcam. while meeting i'll call her at a secure place where i know i'll not fall into anykind of trouble. Coz safety saves. you cannot just trust anyone online. As even there are lots of murder cases on orkut even..
@janyen (623)
• Netherlands
15 Jan 09
you will definitely know a person with constant chatting, seeing each other online and etc. it's a matter of how you feel with that person, if she/he is telling the truth or not. it's really our choice in the end. do it with your heart and you'll see what happens in the end. just love what you are doing coz if not it will screwed you.
@70nyh0Ax (177)
• India
16 Jan 09
Well you're rite about that. But still I'll say that beware. I am not saying that stop interacting people there are good people available online no doubt about that. Well i really don't know what should i say on this this is a comment that depends on experience. The person who had a wrong xperience will only say to avoid this otherwise its fun.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
I say yes to that. I've met most of my girlfriends online. They eventually became my real girlfriend. Legal enough to introduce them to my parents. Wow, maybe i should try and pay a visit to that travel site you're talking about lol!
@janyen (623)
• Netherlands
15 Jan 09
i agree with you. sometimes, those sites that are referred to us that we don't give importance, that's when you meet your special someone(destiny) like with my experienced. i was invited once but never tried it until the second time. eventually, i was thankful to a friend who shared it to me. there's no harm in trying. i wish you luck!
@elisa812 (3026)
• United States
17 Jan 09
I would definitely have to say yes to online dating, because my husband and I also met online! Like you and your husband, we weren't on dating sites either, but we ended up meeting randomly in a chat room. I do think it's extremely important to be very careful, though. My husband and I really got to know each other over a long period of time before meeting in person, and we also met in a very public place, so it was safe. 
Another couple that we are friends with also met each other over the internet.
Another couple that we are friends with also met each other over the internet. @echomonster (2226)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
15 Jan 09
I think online dating sites are an OK way to meet people, but there's always the danger there that the relationship will always stay online and never develop into anything real. It probably works best when people agree to have a first date in real life quickly, before feelings develop, so neither party is too disappointed if there's no chemistry in-person. You should also never trust someone you've just "met" online; you should always have that first real date in a public place just like you would with someone you just met in person.
@Marcola (2774)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I've never met anyone in person off of any of those sites. I've exchanged messages back and forth, but nothing has come out of it. I think a lot of those sites are plagued with snobs who can't be bothered to respond to an e-mail. I mean, I've e-mailed a fair number of people on POF. It's a site filled with snobs.
@janyen (623)
• Netherlands
16 Jan 09
POF? Maybe those people are taken already or don't have interests in you. Sorry to say that but that is sometimes the truth. I also have been snobbed while I was still on searching and making friends to anyone online. But maybe, your destiny has not come yet. I wish you luck. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Hello janyen! I will say yes for online dating site. I wouldn't say no because I met my husband on a dating site. It will not work for other but it worked well to me. Others would say it's dangerous too but when entering into online dating thing, all we have to do is be very careful and cautious.
@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
15 Jan 09
i think online dating is not a good way to look for a partner because you can't trust a person just by looking at them at your computer screen, but if you get to meet and know the person in real life, then it's not a bad way to begin finding your future wife or husband. i highly suggest that you get to know whoever your dating. know all his/her secrets!
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
15 Jan 09
i think you have to be very very careful. i know some people that have been totally burned that way, yet i also know people that are quite happy. i have a friend that is canadian and married an american and neither government recognizes the other! they have been married for 2 years and have only lived together for 6 months.
@RitaGreen (141)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I'm not sure how I feel about that. People will lie to you online as well as to your face...so a trust issue is always right there in front you no matter what. So either way,you could get screwed and not enjoy it.
@joniebee (182)
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16 Jan 09
I think online dating is an excellent thing,As thesedays many people find it hard to meet people in social situations,Therefore the medium of the online dating service is playing an important role.Although i do feel that there is a bit of a stigma attached to claiming you met online,I think some people will say youre sad if you can't meet a person out in the world,Therefore there are people who hide away from the fact that they use these dating sites,But i say shout it out,From the roof tops.
