Once a cheater.. always a cheater?

I have never really believed that. I mean if a person is willing to change their ways and not cheat on the person they loved then it's possible. If my man cheated on me once, I would forgive him once if he regretted it and wanted another chance. But if he did it more than once I wouldn't be able to trust him.

I think that it would have to depend on the situation. If I had been with someone for a really long time and they had cheated while we were in a fight, I might be able to work through it with them if they were willing to change. If we had only been seeing eachother for a little while, NO. I think that how a person acts during the first part of their relationship will have a big impact on how things will go later in the relationship. I know that it would definately complicate things is I found out that my husband was cheating or had cheated on me. We have two children and I would like to hope a very open and honest relationship but I'm not sure if I would be able to forgive that kind of betrayle.

This is a tough topic for me to always answer because I can clearly see both sides of the arguement and I'm really not sure sometimes which side to go on. I think some people truly will continue to just be cheaters for the rest of their lives. Those people have commitment issues and probably other reasons why they just can't stand being in a one person relationship. I think if you're with a person like that, you'll probably pick up on the cues right away. Getting too attached to other people, constantly going out, not telling you where they are, and getting caught several times in comprimising positions only to say they won't do it again, but it does happen again. However, I think there are people that make a huge mistake and really didn't intend to make that mistake. Things are taken the wrong way, emotions, hormones, etc all come into play and I think those people sometimes, truly do regret making that decision and try their hardest to fix it and to never, ever do it again. I think those are the ones that truly prove their loyal by letting you know they do care and that they do watch themselves to prevent themselves from getting too close to someone they really shouldn't.

I believe if someone is really wanting to change after making one mistake they can. In high school i would always hear that saying and i would always say i dont believe it. I still dont. I know people who have cheated and then stopped. I dont believe stopping can fix the relationship but it can save you in future relationships.

Just because someone cheats once doesn't mean that they'll cheat again not if the person really loves the other i believe when someone cheats over and over again it's because they're looking for love in all the wrong places. I was once with a guy who cheated a few times so i had to rid myself of him but we're best friends now and he's married now to a woman he truly loves and he wouldn't cheat on her because he has found his soulmate and wouldn't do anything to lose her.So what i'm trying to say is once you find "the one " you will do every thing in your power to make sure you never hurt them by being unfaithful.

Hi heaven! I believe in a person's capacity to change. If he or she was once a cheater, this person can be reformed, as I've seen it happen to my father. See, my dad cheated on my mom for eleven years (thank God I have not half-brothers/-sisters). Miraculously, my mom managed to get through this without breaking up with my dad. I don't know how she did it, she must be really strong. But what I'm saying is that my dad changed. The last time he cheated was 17 years ago. I'm not married, but i do have a boyfriend. If he cheats on me for the first time, I can forgive him. But a second time is too much. But if I get married and my husband cheats on me, I wish I could be as strong as my mom, so I can keep the family whole, as she did for us many years ago. Her strength made us grow far from being in a broken family.

Saying once a cheater always a cheater is sort of giving up hope on that person or say8ng that a person cannot change. If a person realize their mistake and thinks of how it impacted his wife or his children, he will not cheat anymore. I know I listen to the judge shows, and there are those women who said He cheated on me and so I decided to leave or cheat and it was just a one time offer. She showed no faith in him changing. And if you are married, it would be best to try to work things out. Sit down and talk together, or go to a marriage counselor or to your pastor. Even if one does not have children or cannot have any, you did marry the person for life and if it was a one time thing, there is not sense throwing in the towel.

In my personal experience, I would have to say yes to that. I have had guys cheat on me and every time I gave them another chance, they did it to me again.

i hope a person can change their spots but who knows it depends on how serious thet are about this person they are cheating on.you can be a good person and be with someone who just cheats without conious of hurting another.some cheater are just player period and they will nevr change they use to it.cold bloody in there feeling about others

It has never happen to me, as I have never been married. But, I truly believe in my heart that a man can genuinely be sorry for cheating and never do it again. Especially, if they are Christian, because then, they have to answer to God also. Yes, I do believe that it makes it harder to leave when you have children. If my husband ever cheated on me, I would forgive him and work hard on the healing process. I do not believe in divorce, but I am not a fool either. He had better be willing to forsake his whatever he calls her.

I think that it really could go either way. You have those that are addicted to cheating on the person they are with and then you have some that mess up and cheat and regret doing it and never do it again. I think it would be harder to forgive the cheating and let go of that then anything. I have been cheated on and it really affected me terribly in most of my relationships because i was always thinking about whether or not that person was faithful or not. I have to say, unfortunately, that my husband was not faithful during his first deployment. He was never "with" these women, but there were situations where that didn't matter he still had cheated in my eyes. I was not able to forgive him until about a year ago when I laid it all down and prayed that the forgiveness would come. I love my husband with all my heart and when he did what he did it really devestated me and took me back to the other relationships i had had in the past where I was cheated on. Those were different though. The act was actually carried out in those relationships and at the time I wasn't where I needed to be with the Lord. Now that I am on my walk with God it's a lot easier to forgive and trust again, something I couldn't do for a long time. God bless

I think if a partner cheats once the probability of them doing it again is very apparent. They may not but the percentage of probability is very high that they will. Sure it is harder to leave but what is a person showing their children if a person does. If you put up with cheating once and forgive it then what else are you going to put up with? I am just not one to settle. I live by the Golden Rule and if I am being one way I can only expect that from my partner. Trust would become a big issue. I very much doubt I could forgive and definitely not forget.

I see no reason to forgive or forget someone who cheated. It means that the other person failed to communicate or wish to no longer in the relationship. If the cheater thought to violate such an intimate trust, they clearly don't want to be in the relationship..otherwise , they would not do something so hurtful to their partner. In any relationship, the main focus should be to make the other person happy, and not yourself. If you are not happy, then communicate why and how to resolve it. I believe it there are no valid reason to "justify" or explain why someone cheated. If you can't be honest about something like that, I can't be with you. I have no leniency for cheaters. I don't cheat, because I don't like to be cheated.