BAD Temper---I hate you keep trying to get so close to me
By lynettebyc
@lynettebyc (2416)
China
January 15, 2009 9:09pm CST
Well, she's a newcomer in our company. I am good to her for the first several days as i recall the first days when i entered into this company with on one acquainted. Feel lost and self-pity, no one to turn for help. So i try to help her as possible as i can.
The girl's behavior was regarded as airs and graces, i couldn't stand it. She tried to get close to me and others, so intimately pay attention to others' personal affairs that i can't bear. We only know each other several DAYS!
I'm too emotional to pretend my feelings, so i present my disgust her by breifly or not answering her questions. While in my heart i blame myself for bad temper. What will you do if you're in my place. You dislike someone's behavior and you know she's not a bad guy, but you just dislike the way she speak, the way she act and you really try to offer help?
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4 responses
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
16 Jan 09
Hi lynettbyc,
That is horrible when a person does that, wel all I would do is just be polite to her and say you'll talk about work not personal things as it has nothing to do with work and anything personal about yoursefl you wold like to keep it that way and don't really want to hear about other people's private business.
Tamara
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
18 Jan 09
It is true, that we should not get into personal issues! But where is she getting the information? I would much rather not be given too much information in the first place! Please do not tell me secrets and stuff so personal, as it may cause me flashbacks and I do not know how I will react to the information. Especially when I am trying to eat dinner, I do not want to hear upsetting news!
@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
20 Jan 09
It's ok if she knows a little private affairs and i would like to tell her. But everytime something new happens, she'll try to ask to the bottem which makes me boring and upset. She will ask what did you do on Christmas eve. Shopping. What did you buy. Well, for instance, a hat. Where did you buy it? How much? It's beautiful, it's fur, it's suitable for you, it's cheap...Can't stop talking. Annoyance~
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
17 Jan 09
hi lynette, all of us have a bad temper or bad day,,i used to have that when i was working..but i just pretend to be friendly even though i dont like..just for peace of mined at work..cheers
@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
20 Jan 09
Hey, marketing07, i pretend too, but this action hurt myself~
Any way, for work sake, go on pretending
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
2 Mar 09
Personally sometimes with people like that, there is no way that you can really help them. They have to learn to be able to accept help and such and be a little more friendlier or it will often cause more trouble back as well. Where I work, we have a couple who are like this, and often think that they are even better than everyone else and I am find that if you ignore them then maybe they will get the drift eventually and be a little nicer as well.
@olivemai (4738)
• United States
18 Jan 09
It can be a difficult situation. Misunderstandings can cause problems with coworkers. I guess that your situation is one of the reasons coworkers often do not become friends. Conflict is not bad, it helps build character. You can say, "I feel angry when you do this." It is not that you are wrong for being angry or having a bad temper. Your bad temper is a sign that you are attempting to hide your emotions. Anger is fear based so it may be that you fear something, conflict, perhaps?
@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
20 Jan 09
Yeah, i don't want to cause conflict or be unfriendly. But actually i don't like her at least for the present i don't intend to be friends with her.
Well, i guess speaking out that i'm angry at her words may help me get good mood
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