Do you care about others feeling?

my dear this is abuse in disguise why dont you just tell your sister in law"s son that they have overstayed their welcome especially now that they are not evenm contributing anything towards you buty constituting a strain on your finances stop suffering and getting pepped up talk to them about your feelings its the best way

Hello, any one there? My daughter says every one is born with a V on the forehead. A victim or a volunteer. Guess which one you are. These jerks are using you and you are letting them. Tell them they have one week to get out or you are going to go to court and have them evicted then call your sister in law and let her know that you have had enough. I bet you she knows what going on and is happy you are the one being used and not her. In fact pass the word around the family. Its to late to sue for rent. Take pictures of the mess they leave and tell your in laws you will show them to everyone and DO IT. Stop being a mouse. You say you have a daughter, what kind of lessons is she learning?

Dear friend, Certain matters if not responded at right time will create more problems in future. Hence I feel we should take others feeling without messing up with our peace of mind. I hope it is better to have ourself a comfortable peaceful mind. May be for that we have say what we do not like without any hesitation. As in initial stage it may defect but later it may affect for the betterment.

I think you did a lot in the first place and you need to speak up. Try to sit down and talk or discuss with them about the increase of bills etc.. or maybe you can talk to your sister-in-law about it and hope she understand.

Sounds like you need to show them the rental section of your newspaper. In other words, "Bye! It was nice having you as a guest, but now you're starting to get on my nerves, so pack your bags and go!"

I think you should talk to your sister in law about it. After all you've done everything. Sometimes it's hard to be kind enough, perhaps their thinking everything is okey with you, not even considering how you feel. You can advise them that after a certain period of time they can look for a place to live as you can no longer accomodate them. With their kind of attitude, It's time to live in their own.

You need to speak up and they need to do their part. They have stayed way past a visit. If they do not understand then they need to find somewhere else to go. You have considered their feelings long enough. I would just quit buying so much food and if they ask, tell them that you do not have the money to do so. I would lay down the law. They have not considered you, and if is not fair to you. I am sure their parents will not think any less of you.

yeah i understand your situation.. i think they should share some of your expenses..so that it would not be hard for you..

Hi Mamagee, I understand,your position and your feelings. I suppose,you are talking about your husband's sister's son and his wife. If that is the relationship,you don't involve yourself in this issue. You ask your husband to deal with them,whatever you think to be done. If they are employed people,I don't understand why they stay in your house. Even if they stay in your house,it is basic requirement that they keep their room clean. I can't give any comments on your water bill or electricity bill.Because there are some people like your sister-in-law,s son and his wife,for them,when it is other's money,they will not think about the bills and live lavishly and if it is their money,they will become very calculative and miser.That is the nature of the people around us. So you share your feelings with your husband and let him deal with them. Happy mylotting

Oh mamagee, you have to speak up for yourself. This is all wrong! They are taking advantage of your kindness. If you don't speak up, your anger will build until you can't stand them.Your daughter deserves her room back....your daughter's needs should come first. All the money you are spending on added electric and food could be better spent on you and your daughter! Don't worry what others think....they are not the ones putting out for these people! You do not owe them a free ride! Ask yourself why they are not staying at the parents home. Maybe because even the parents were not willing to let them mooch which is what they are doing. If you are uncomfortable to say anything, then put it in writing. Give them a time limit to find another place to stay. You think that nobody cares about your feelings but you need to care about yourself and your daughter. You are caring too much about these other people that really should not matter to you and allowing them to compromise your well being an that of your daughter. stand up for yourself, girl!

it's a human instinct to think and care for others,family,friends or even strangers. that's the human strength and also human weaknesses. i admit before i was the type of a person that don't want to carry anyone's burden in life, i don't care of others problem for i am also dealing with my own burdens in life.so why bother when i can't even help myself. maybe being confined only to myself when i realized that worrying about others is fun also.

I would have to say that if it were me I would have something to say to them. You can do this tactfully though. You do not have to keep going through this. Sit down with them and explain that they need to pitch in. Whether it is house work or money to help for bills. Tell them it is just too hard on you to do it all. You can still be nice yet get something done about it.

yah some pepole r dere in the world like that it can be in 2 things tat they r selfies or they never trust u quiet gud.it can be slove my mant thigs by being clse them r being friendly 2 them.every person not born rude they used 2 make by the suronding around them

well life's like that u give something2 others buit never ask anything in return. now all u need 2 do is be firm in what u decided and move them

I know what you mean. I care alot about other people's feelings. alot of people do not seem to care about mine though. It is give and take.

I know of the type of people you are referring to, for me, I would first try to find diplomatic way to tell them look they are guests they need to respect the rules of the house. They also need to pay for their own food, there are several things that I would personally address. But that is me, I do understand about your need to be diplomatic for their parents but sometimes the truth hurts. They first of all have to get out of your daughters room, it is rude, and inconsiderate, that they are so expensive means that if they can't behave like decent human beings they can go back to their mom. As for them being with you for months and not contributing, it doesn't matter what they may say to their mom, and you said it is your sister-in-law's son and his wife, is this your husbands sister? They he should not put you in a position to be the "heavy" he needs to say something to the niece and nephew, Why should your sister in law's son be more important than your own daughter? As for clean up, simple if it is a laundry issue just don't do their laundry if it is for other areas of the house, any mess they make pick it up and dump it in their room. So they have to clean it up themselves. If it is dishes they leave behind which you need for your children, demand they not only return the dirty dishes they used but wash them as well because you need to feed your kids, if they don't want to do that, then fine, tell them to give you the money to go purchase new dishes and pots. the feelings and rights of you and your daughter should be more important than sister-in-law's, sister-in-law's son, It seems that if you are not willing to say something and allow this to continue, then that is YOUR feelings, you are allowing it to happen. It is your home, your children's home and this should come first.

[i]Hi Mamagee, I guess it is time for you to speak up! That is not right! They have to consider your sacrifices and even a little help from them you cannot even get? I guess their parents will understand you or why not talking to them about it so that they can also advise these irresponsible people in your house! [/i]