If one of your close friends in mylot disapppear for a few days,what do you do?

Rose, I would like you to disclose the name of that member(s), because we have some common friends, you can send the information through PM or mail. As far as I am concerned, if any of my active friends here suddenly disappears, I would do my best to contact her/him either through e-mail (if I have his/her e-mail ID) or through PM, till I get a response. If any of my friends is going to be absent for few days and he/she knows it in advance, I expect that she/he should intimate me. If she/he suddently gets caught in some urgnet work and unable to inform, then it is another matter. To my good luck, I have observed that whenever I start a new discussion, most of friends here respond, sooner or later. Now to your precise question, if any of my 'active' friends does not respond to my discussion(s) and skip it and I can sense that it was not such a discussion, which should be 'skipped' by her/him, I would really feel very bad, it simply means that I am being 'ignored'. On my part, I do not 'igonore' my friends and I value my friends and friendship a lot, therefore, I love to remain in touch with them, even if it is discussions only. If my absence is planned, I always keep my friends informed about it, if it is unplanned, I somehow manage to pass the message that - "look, I'm going to be absent will get in touch, as soon as I return." Good post!

Hi Rose, First I want to inform you that I am going to post my 500th for you because I started a new discussion as 500th but the number did not change and I wonder what is going on in Mylot. Answering your question, if I am going away for a few days definitely I will inform my friends but in case I am not able to do work in mylot, I don't think I can inform my friends. It depends on the situation. Commenting to all friends' discussion is not possible because some started with a topic which is not at all familiar for me or some are asking about some sites, in that case I keep away from the particular discussion, it does not mean that I am not interested with that particular person. If it starts by a close friend, I will tell the same frankly.

Hi Rose08! I met a lot of good people here in mylot and in a span of two years, I can say that there are those that I really am very close to. However, there are those few that have just disappeared maybe because they are very busy and have no time to mylot. I usually send private messages to them and if they won't answer, i will just give them the space. I won't take it too personal because the truth is I really don't know what is going on in their life and I will just be praying for them. And there were those in my friends' list that never once did they respond to my discussions although I respond to theirs. If this happens, I just ignore whatever hurt feeling I have because I believe that they have their own reasons why; such as not having anything good to contribute in my discussion or they just don't know what I was talking about. haha..besides, there are those discussions of my friends too that I have not responded to because I respond through email notifications and most of the time, I don't receive all notifications from mylot even though all notifications are "on". And if I am done with all the notifications, then that is the only time I can check on the discussions of other friends through their profile. But unfortunately, most of the time, I can't do that. And if one of my close friends started a discussion and I know nothing about it or don't like it at all, I will not respond because it will be funny to see my response having no sense at all. yikes! haha... Take care and have a nice day! lovelots..faith210

Hi Rose08 nice discussion but u know what i am wondering right now is that whoes missing make u stsart discussion And i wonder if some one is avoiding U? Well, i am not that good to informk my friends if i am going away untill or unless its pre planned but sure if some of my close friend is missing, i do notice and send them email or PM to check as whats happening at their side. Wish u all the best and now tell me Whom u r missing so badly?? Take care

Hi Rose, I think you may be seeing me in your discussion after a long time. I am less active on mylot now but unfortunately only a couple of mylotters have missed me so much that they have emailed me to find out why I am not online. I do most of the time inform my close friends here when I am away for long. I very often email or PM my friends if I have not seen them here for a long time. If a friend starts a discussion that I do not want to respond I very often PM them telling them the reason. If it is a topic that I know nothing about I do not respond to that discussion.

Since he my close friend i will have his contact number[phone number] or his mail address or i may know why was he not visiting the mylot. if my best friend did not respond to my discussion then i think that he did not like my discussion or he did not see my discussion.

There could be a number of reasons actually Rose. For one the person might be logged on simply because they do not log out when they finish for the day, although of course they would not be making any posts. There are times when a friend might post a discussion but I do not respone because I know nothing about the topic, know something but cannot add anything to what has been said previously or that I do not have enough time to make a response right then and there. I sometimes, but not always, respond to the email notifications I receive from myLot so it depends on where on the list the notification is. I try to start with the first ones I receive and respond in some sort of order but that does not always happen. When that happens, it might take me a couple of days to respond to those discussions and of course in the meantime one of my friends could think I am ignoring them. That does not mean I am not interested but simply it is all about the time that have available. I suspect that it would be the same for many members as we all have some sorts of limitations on the time we have to spend here on myLot. Personally regardless of who starts a discussion if I have no knowledge of it or any interest in that particular topic, then I simply do not respond. It is not a slight on one of my friends but I can see no reason for making a response of "I don't know" or "no odea" or something along those lines. I actually think it is rude to do that and is insulting to the topic starter to respond in that manner. So for me if I cannot respond to any discussion started by my friends I would like to think they understand I am not avoiding them but simply have nothing to say or no time to say it.

Hi Rose, you have a lot of questions in your mind which I guess are also in everybody else mind just waiting to be clarified. I think no one is indispensable in mylot. It is a case where people come in and out at the mercy of their time. But of course if someone who has been a regular here suddenly disappear for a stretch of time I have the urge to look for him/her by whatever means, maybe putting up a notice here (post) for a missing in action person. I don't really see it that way if a friend does not reply to my post, I would not suspect anything as I myself on several occasions fail to come up to their expectation as a friend. Sometimes it all depends on individuals moods. Yes, most of the time if I am going to be absence here I will tell my friends. I will only response to discussions which I cannot relate regardless whether they are my friends or otherwise.

There are certain friends here who i know cannot log on frequently because of work... like gr8tlife... but i am sure she will be back and would always catch up on the discussions that i starte... there are those who do not take yearly vacations... like drannhh... but after that... she would still be back and be active again... But for those who just become inactive... i would check their profile from time to time to see if they are back or not... just like what i did when you suddenly disappear... and i am just glad that you came back... and now we are friends again...

I spend a few minutes on mylot and I do the discussions. I have a very busy offline life and it takes precedence over my online life. Cheers!!

hey donot take it a serious matter you must look at the positive side of this that is he/she might be busy in another work like exams may be going on so donot take it your heart and be happy making new freinds!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

just to be understanding person cause find a friend is difficult.

hi ..its really a vear nice question...i want to be ur friend .....

I would be very angry if my friends don't respond to me.

Hi there! I sometimes wonder where my mylot friends are. Most of them are not active anymore but still I consider them my friends. I don't really know them personally so I don't have any offline contact with any of them but I don't delete them in my friends list. If I will be gone for a long time or just a few days, I don't inform my friends and I also don't get any message about their whereabouts too. Though my relationship with my friends seems casual they are special to me so whenever I see them posting, I respond to get in touch with them again. With regards to friends not responding to my discussions but I am responding to theirs, I don't mind it. Obligation on responding to each others discussions is not included in my reasons why I had friendship with them. But there is one girl here in mylot I consider a little sister. We seldom come across with each others discussion now so if by chance I could respond to her post, I would. I'm not a very intimate person so mylot is my only communication with her. Ciao!

It all depends upon the mood,, once there is something nice to respond to ,, I will write,, or at least I will say a good word,, I do not try to avoid anyone,, Avoiding is maybe when some guys are busy,,and they do not get time,,

its also great to see ..u posted 500 post congrats its a nice to see