What will you do?

@lynnchua (3412)
Singapore
January 16, 2009 3:38am CST
I have two question here. 1.My daughter just got into primary school for about 2 weeks and she complain that the teacher won't allow her to go to the washroom during lesson. Complain to the school? or tell her to go to the washroom during breaks( but sometime kid can't wait). 2.Her teacher forgot about their break time one afternoon, she let them out to the canteen to have their break just 10 minutes before lesson ( break time is 25mins). my daughter queue and got her food when she just started to eat the teacher say its time out and want her to throw her food away. ( I've been telling her not to waste food) Again complain to the school or tell her that everybody make mistake. give the teacher a chance.
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11 responses
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 09
Hi lynnchus, I think it’s better for you to call the teacher and talk to her on the phone to get further information which is relevant the case if you have her phone number. If couldn’t connect her you can talk to her face and face. I understand that the teacher would have lots of things to handle during the first two weeks after school reopening. So she still needs quite some time to learn more about the whole class of her new pupils well, and what is more that every kid is different. I believe to have comfortable communication with the teacher of the kid could help the teacher to understand more about the kid, like his character, thinking and etc. This actually could help a lot in her teaching and good to the little kid as well. Happy posting and take care.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 09
You are most welcome lynnchua. I would like to say sorry to you for misspelling your user name when writing the said response yesterday. We always like to see our kid feels relaxed and comfortable during their very first schooling days, and hope that he would be happy and enjoys his school life. We surely would feel sad and worry if seeing our kid is not happy in school. So as a parent we have to help him in this. You are really a caring mom and never handle problem in a hurry without thinking thoughtfully. I believe the opinions you collected from friends here at least could give you some ideas relevant to the said problem. Hopefully you could get your puzzle solved very soon. Have a nice day and take care.
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
17 Jan 09
Thanx for the advice. I will talk to her first before I do anything else. I think like you say she had to much to handle.
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
16 Jan 09
Hi dear the best way is to discuss it with teacher on arent teacher meeting day. and request her to be bit considerate on new commes Take care
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
17 Jan 09
wish u all the best
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
17 Jan 09
Thanx, I will try to discuss it with the teacher.
@manoj1502 (854)
• India
17 Jan 09
Ask her to give a chance to teacher you talk to teacher personally and say your problem ask her to see that everyone had their food than ask her to call or ask them to give time to eat. Say to teacher first if teacher does not correct it than you can complain to school give a chance to correct Take Care
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
17 Jan 09
That's what I'm trying to do, talk to the teacher first.
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
17 Jan 09
I would definitely have a talk with the teacher. You can't expect kids especially ones so young to wait to use the bathroom. If they need to go, they need to go. This isnt the army or something. they're just kids. And I think that it is ridiculous that she should forget their break and then punish the kids for it. they should have been allowed more time to eat. kids shouldnt have to go hungry just because this lady has a bad memory. It's completely assinine. I definitely think that you should talk to the teacher and tell her your concern. As a parent, you should never turn the other cheek.
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
17 Jan 09
I did asked my girl and her friends about this and they said that its their physical exercise teacher whom forgot about their breaks. And she is not really sure what's the name of this teacher, and I'm trying to find out who is she.
• India
17 Jan 09
Just go the school and talk to the teacher and tell her the difficulty your kid is facing i hope the teacher will soon understand and let your kid feel comfortable. if still the teacher is troubling your child just talk to the head of the school or the principle of the school.
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
17 Jan 09
Thanx, I will go to the school and have a talk with the teacher.
@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
16 Jan 09
Wow that doesn't seem very fair at all. Firstly I would try to talk to the teacher but if that doesn't work, I would take the next step and complain to the school about the teacher. I think that for most children, holding their washroom breaks can be very hard, especially if they have had something to drink earlier. I think the teacher is being unfair and that you have every right to be angry.
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
17 Jan 09
Ya! agree with you, like my girl she don't dare to drink water in school because of that. I can't imagine six hours in school without drinking of water. I will talk to the teacher about that.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
16 Jan 09
I would go and talk with the teacher first and see what is really going on. If that does not help, then go to the administrators. I would again talk to the teacher about the food and if she does not change things for the better, talk to the administrators.
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
17 Jan 09
Thanx stephcjh, I will talk to the teacher and see what's going on before I do anything else.
@comfort55 (1574)
• India
16 Jan 09
I suggest that first you should discuss the matter with the teacher, and talk to her about these problems. If she's understanding, she'll realise that she should be more flexible in her ways. If the problem persists, she keeps behaving like that in future also, then you should complain to the Head of the school. try your best that the matter is resolved between you and the teacher.
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
17 Jan 09
Thanx! I think I will talk to the teacher first before I complain to the Head of the school.
@kezabelle (2974)
16 Jan 09
I would talk to the teacher my eldest is almost 5 just started primary school last week and they are allowed to go to the toilet anytine they wish, they dont even have to ask they can just get up and go, i would not expect my child to be made to wait its not healthy and can cause problems. As for forgetting their lunch break well id be wary of how true that was because lunchtime is the teachers break also I cant imagine the teacher forgetting that! Children get mixed up sometimes or cant explain their selves properly so definatley discuss it with the teacher before taking it any further just incase.
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
17 Jan 09
I will talk to the teacher about the toilet thing. As for the break I did ask her friends and they said that the teacher did nearly forget about it. In our place teacher's need not have to had their break with the kids. They can go for their break whenever they don't have lesson. (its her physical exercise teacher who forgot their break).
@rainmark (4302)
16 Jan 09
All i can say is,talk to the teacher if still that happens, you parents can do any steps and decide to file a complain to the principal or headmaster of the school so that next time this situation should be avoided.
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
16 Jan 09
Thanx, I will talk to the teacher.
• United States
17 Jan 09
Hi, I would first try to talk to the teacher. That's really unfair that she only gave your daughter a 10 minute break instead of a 25 minute break, even though she was the one who forgot. Second, since your daughter is still young, she is still getting adjusted to school, and going to the bathroom whenever she needs to. Continue to train her to use the bathroom during breaks. Good luck!