What are your Thoughts on Divorce?

The Bible says that once you're married you've made a commitment to be together the rest of your life. However, I'm with you. If you have a cheating spouse, I don't see any reason why you would want to stay married to him. And I've lived with an abusive spouse. It's no fun. I took the kids and moved out until he stopped drinking and I could see that it was for real, and then I moved back in again. That was 20 years ago, and my marriage was definitely worth saving. I know this doesn't work for everyone, but they should at least try everything they can before throwing in the towel. People marry and divorce far too casually now.

If you know my ex-wife...you'd love divorce.

My exhusband cheated on me, and yes we got a divorce, I tryed to work it out, but could not live with the fact that he cheated on me, the trust was gone and if he really loved me he would have thought about it before he cheated, my daughter and I are better with out him, I am now married again to a wonderful man, I guess God blessed me.

I wonder about that too! I was married and had to seperate because of abuse. In the eyes of my people, I am still disgraced because I left my husband, even though it was because of abuse. I don't believe that women have to suffer in relationships and I also don't believe that God had wanted or intended this on the women.

I am christian and believe everyone needs to follow their conscience + on this matter..

I also am a Christian. A vow is a vow before God. Hosea was faithful even though Gomer was not. I have known women faithful to unfaithful husbands. The reasons they stayed were two-fold. They believed it was the right thing to do in view of their vow, even though they had a right to divorce, and secondly, they forgave a repentant husband.

Divorce is for people with low thinking ,and with low spiritual level

i am not a religious person but when i get married i want it to be forever!!if one of those two cases should arise then i would get a divorce.

This is good topic. I'm not religious one way or the other. but I had a good male friend and he was kicked out of his church when he got divorced :( The people who ran the church actually told all of the members to have nothing to do with him. Is that just an off the wall thing or does that happen alot?

I'm against it when it is used as a backup plan for people who aren't sure if their marriage will last. But, I do think that sometimes divorce is neccessary when two people grow apart or when one is being abused by the other.

I am too against divorce.. until the situation worsens, as u pointed adultry or abuse.. U may give one chance for the person if s/he realise his/her mistake but that's it..

I think if someone cheats in marriage is the worst kind of abuse one can take and forgive. what is the gaurantee next time it wont happen. Cheaters giot caught so you came to know of it what if next time he is more careful and discreet. I thnk you should not bound the other person but let him choose his path if he wishes to.

I think divorce is the best thing that ever happened to me! I don't mean to be cute, but my husband was very abusive and I still have the scars to prove it. I got out before he turned on my kids. I think people should take their time to really get to know someone before getting married, instead of rushing into it like I did. Then there would be less divorce. I agree that a couple should try to work things out, especially if there are children. In the case of adultery or abuse, I have to agree that divorce is probably the best idea.

aS A Christian myself and a reader and studier of God's word I know that God hates divorce and does not accept it..I also know the only way he tolerates it is if there has been some kind of fornication going on. I also believe in forgiveness but the cheating one requests to depart then let them ..

Ideally, one marriage,one spouse but things happen, people grow apart, still it would be nice if people worked harder on their marriage.

I believe the same way as you. Those should be the only reasons for anyone getting a divorce. I hate to see ppl get married and it last for a couple of weeks or months and just divorce because they 'feel' it would be best. If that is the case they should have never ever gotten married in the first place.

I believe in divorce for the right reasons. If 1 cheats or even if all they do is fight and cant get along for the healthe of the kids I believe divorce is best. Kudos to you for bringing this up a + for you.

I am not very religious although I am registered as a Christian like most people in my country. Religion doesn't play a big part in our lifes and maybe that's why I see those things a little differently from yours. I absolutely agree that no woman should be forced to stay with an abusive husband. Abuse can be both mental and physical and it's not always easy for outsiders to recognize that. As for not accepting divorce unless someone cheats... Why not get the divorce before seeing someone else? If it's bound to happen, wouldn't it be easier on everyone to get the divorce right away? I have told my husband that I want a divorce. Of course I thought it would last forever when we got married but I have known for over four years that our marriage isn't real. I don't have any feelings for my husband, we have nothing in common, we never do anything together and I'm sure we would both be happier and better off alone. I would have left him a long time ago if it was that easy but I am thinking of my son and what is best for him. He's the reason I'm still here but he's growing up and he knows there is something wrong. Would you recommend that we stay married in an unhealthy relationship? I know it's going to be hard for my son at first but I truly believe that in a couple of years he will be a much happier kid. We can't make decisions for others. I don't know your situation, you don't know mine. I don't judge others and I don't want others to judge me. No amount of professional help is going to make me happy with this man and if I want my son to be happy, I have to be able to live my life too.