Do you talk behind your friends back?

A true friend wouldnt do that to their friend. I dont. I go by the rule if you dont have nothing to say nice about someone then you have no business saying it at all. Plus, if I had something to say about someone I would say it to their face and not behind their back. I love my friends and I would never ever say or do anything that would hurt them in any way.

I know what you mean the only time i talk behind my freinds backs is if i am talking to my spouse about something they may have done or said, and it dosnt go any further then us, but with that being said, once i work out exactly how i feel about the situation i will confront my freind and yes they dont always like it and it can create akwardness but i would rather have freinds im honest with then ones i fake with if ya cant be real with freinds and family then who can ya be real with. I have learned that my true freinds and I always end up just as close, actually closer because of the openess of our freindship, and we even count on the honesty after we get over it and look back on it.

Well, I have been a victim of this before. Sad to note, I trusted the guys who did this to me. When I heard about it from other people, I almost could not beleive it. But at least I know what can of people they are. It is really sad that they have done this to me despite the fact that I was able to help them in many ways considering that we work together in an organization. But I just forget it and let it go. I am doing well, despite of what they did. In fact I am more better. So I never do this to someone, talk behind your back cause I know the feeling of being a victim.

never did.i am a type of person that i tak infront of her or him either he or she like its or not.they said i am too frank but i rather have frank than a good pretender.

Only fair weather friends do backbiting because the friends who are real and trustworthy will find it easier to talk in front of you rather than saying anything against you at your back.They know very well that what effect backbiting can have on the relationship.

No, there's no real need. If trashing a friend were necessary, the person wouldn't be a friend, now would he? If you're going to insult a friend, you might as well set the ground so that you're both enemies.

I quite agree with your point of view. If i have something to say about a friend, i normally do not have any hesitation to say it upfron to them . I think the moment we start to talk negatively about friends, then they no longer remain friends in the true sense.

sometimes you people do that for so many reasons.. they might talk at the person's back cause they might be don't like the person to get hurt when he/she hears what they are talking about.. and if also a gossip about that person then its good but for if you still can't handle your self to talk about the person and you know that he/she might get angry then just keep yourself shut.. and everything will be fine

Well back in HS I kind of talk something about friends behind their back. But I don't really say bad stuff or the sort. Well, I just like tell my other friends if they notice something not good about our other friend, and like do they actually feel bad about it.. But I must admit that I did talk behind them, rarely though. Well still not something like what real b!tches do.. You know what I mean. Sometimes I think it's good to talk about friends and point out something that is not really pleasant about them, I, myself couldn't actually see that if you ask me if what I think really bad about myself, more if indepth. So we have friends to not only be there when we are down, but also help us to be a better person, and sometimes we need a little talk behind them and later to tell this to them. We just need to be observant and sensitive with some things.

i never talk behind my friends and is also a bad habit.my friends also never does this.once i had a friend who always gossip about me.i had a quarrel with him.i breakup with him.i hate this kind friends..happy myloting and have a nice day...

True friends never put down their friends or talked bad things against them at their back. There are times however that other friends maybe discussing issues for a common friend but not to put her down but say they notice something negative attitude or behavior, they maybe talking out of concern to a friend, on how they would approach her or confront her for her to be aware of such. If you find a friend, however who has the attitude of putting you down or talk negative things about you, she doesn't deserve your friendship.

I never talk about a person behind their backs. Firstly I think that if you do, you aren't a real friend. Secondly I think that if you talk bad about someone behind their back you are being a coward. I wouldn't say anything about a person that I wouldn't be willing to say to their face and I hate it when people talk about me behind my back. I hope that I can teach my children not to do it either cause I think it is one of the biggest pitfalls we deal with socially.

i donot like to talk like that. but there are some people who talk likethat. they are noway to talk about others. they know what they are. but i never talk bad about my friends.but some people when their friends are with them they priase them after they go out again they put down them and they talk in negetive way. i donot like that.

i have and i'm not proud of it. i think i basically did it because i felt so insecure about this person.

Most of my friends engage in the type of behavior that you describe, I however subscribe to the policy that if what I am saying is important enough to give it breath I am going to say it directly to you so that there is absolutely no misunderstanding or second hand translation and analysis. If I am going to talk about you, even if I am talking trash about something you did or something you said. Regardless of whomever else may be talking about them if the subject comes up I am going to tell them exactly what I think. I hate rumormonging. I expecially hate it in the workplace but wherever it is done I don't like to participate. When friends of mine start talking about other people when they're at my house I always stop them and tell them "we don't talk about folks unless they are here." Most of my friends know not to gossip around me. Because I have also been known to call the person up and tell them what was said about them.

You are not a friend if you talk behind someone's back. A friend is someone who will stick up for their friend and not let anyone say anything bad!

I never did.. you know, i've had not so close friends who are known to be big time backstabbers.. Number 1 girl will gossip about her close friend then the close friend will come to me and say bad things about Number 1 girl, then two will meet up to have lunch as if nothing's wrong between the two of them! yay! really confusing, huh!

I used to a very long time ago, but I realized that it always came back to haunt me and it almost always ended up hurting someone. I learned that talking behind a friends back just isn't the way to go, and if you do it, you really aren't a true friend.

Sometimes, if Im discussing something that they did with my other freinds but not negatively. I generally talk to them face to face.

I agree that it is wrong, but I can't say I have never done it, even if it was not intentional. I believe that we all do it at some point or another, and maybe without even realizing it. However, it comes right down to how strong your friendship is, as well as how comfortable you are in your own skin. If you are confident in yourself, and you have strong relationships, then this kind of thing won't affect you anyways.