Are you Listening?
By CRIVAS
@CRIVAS (1815)
Canada
January 16, 2009 2:25pm CST
I know that I have found a few similar discussions about this topic but people tended to take a negative outlook. I know there are some people who expect to recieve a response for every response that you give. Now please don't get me wrong. I love everyone one here, I love the fact that you start discussions and respond to others but here's the thing. I have a very limited amount of time that I can spend on mylot. I have two children who very rarely let me sit on the computer for more than a few minutes. I also have homework, and a household to run. So for me responding to every single comment is just not possible. Now I would like to think that most people would understand my situation. But for those of you who don't:
Can you honestly say that you respond to all your comments?
Do you personally message someone after they comment?
Do you get mad when someone doesn't give you a response back?
I am honestly curious about the answers that I will recieve from this coversation but I have to say to those of you who have joined my discussions, if I have not responded back to you, PLEASE don't be angry with me, I am doing my best.
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10 responses
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
16 Jan 09
Two points. Fist, I think that it is good manners to respond to everyone that has responded to your discussion. That is just my opinion. Secondly, if you do not respond then you will lose friends as they will not bother to respond when you post. REsponding and rating the res[ponses is a must.
We all have our story. I work 2 jobs and go home to 31 month old grand twins. Perhaps yo may consider cutting down on the number of posts you make and spend some of ths time responding. I have said the above in kind friendship. MNay blessings
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@GardenGerty (160677)
• United States
17 Jan 09
If there is not a quality comment to be made to a response, then it is not necessary to do, just to be commenting. TOS actually says not to respond just to say "Thank you" in a discussion. I do not always comment on all responses, but people who are my friends understand when I cannot.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
17 Jan 09
Thank you for responding. If I have it correctly you may not respond fully to a rsponse made to one of your discussions but you do tell them 'thank you for responding'? If so, then in my opinion, that is the correct thing to do and this is what I meant by being polite. Happy mylotting!
@isabella123 (688)
• Canada
17 Jan 09
Well i totally understand being a mother of two myself i find it hard to respond to everyone.It's like magic,i sit at the computer for 5 minutes and ....MOM! "i'm hungry".It's just like the phone,nobody care what i do until i pick up the phone.So don't beat yourself up your doing the best that you can.
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@GardenGerty (160677)
• United States
17 Jan 09
I really enjoy, and appreciate when people comment on my responses, but I do not have any hangup about it if they do not. I am have very little time here lately myself. I will drop into your discussions if I feel I have something to add or if it interests me, otherwise, I will not. My opinion. I TRY to get back to all responses, but I know that I do not, so I am not offended if someone does not respond to me.
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
17 Jan 09
I try to respond to everyone who responds to my discussions, but i dont always get a chance to, sometimes it will do a discussion a little bit at a time, a few each day so i dont get bored of answering about the same thing over and over. aNd i have the notification thing set so that if someone resposnds to something i said to someone elses discussion i get an email abot it. that way i can work from my email to respond to people, and in a nother tab i can answer discussions, working back and forth while the pages load. .. multitasking ;) as a mom and wife and runner of house, i'm sure your WELL equipt in the way of multitasking.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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17 Jan 09
It is really hard to comment to every single person that responds a discussion, I have awful trouble keeping up with mine when I start them. One of the reasons why I do not start many any more because I feel really guilty when I do not get back to everyone. I do not get mad if someone does not get back to me when I respond to their discussion it is not a problem!!
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@babyfish (13)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 09
hmm..I only respond to the comment if I got opinion with the comment..so I won't get mad if people do not respond to my comment..I never send private message..I feel not necessary..I don't know about others but this is what I think..=) cheerz cheerz..
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
17 Jan 09
A person does the best they can and you have other things that have to come before coming here and responding to discussions. Most people understand. This is not your main thing. From the things you need to do it is understandable that you are not able to respond to the responses on your discussions. To me there is no reason to be angry. Each person does what they can when they come here. I am not working presently and so I can come here quite often. The people here are understanding and I am sure they don't get angry if you don't have a chance to respond to their responses. Be happy and take care of what you need to before you come here. That is the important thing.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
17 Jan 09
CRIVAS,
There's just about how much a person can do and no one is any different from you.
It is called opportunity cost.
As you broach about your limits here, tend to your children, surf the net, household chores and POST YOUR NUMEROUS START DISCUSSIONS - I am sure it will eat into the time allowed to respond to all your friend's post. I think we should just balance up to be FAIR.
What do you think?
P.S.
There's also another issue where one can be "no ob la" to some discussions being posted.
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
17 Jan 09
Hi there!
In general, there is no rule that we have to comment back on every response we receive. Commenting back is a personal preference and we don't earn from doing so. But we cannot please everybody. Others would really love to receive comments and in my observation somehow feels that it is an obligation to comment back. On the other hand, it would also be good if members will comment back cause its the only way to have a discussion.
In my 8 months here, I have never felt bad or obligated my friends or anybody to comment back on my responses. If I can and there's something to comment I do so, but if none, then I don't. I have never lose any of my friends too if I don't get to comment back. I always try to face every problem and experiences here in mylot maturely and I'm sure my friends does too.
Ciao!
In general, there is no rule that we have to comment back on every response we receive. Commenting back is a personal preference and we don't earn from doing so. But we cannot please everybody. Others would really love to receive comments and in my observation somehow feels that it is an obligation to comment back. On the other hand, it would also be good if members will comment back cause its the only way to have a discussion.
In my 8 months here, I have never felt bad or obligated my friends or anybody to comment back on my responses. If I can and there's something to comment I do so, but if none, then I don't. I have never lose any of my friends too if I don't get to comment back. I always try to face every problem and experiences here in mylot maturely and I'm sure my friends does too.
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@suzzy3 (8341)
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20 Jan 09
I think that is the same for everyone on here,we have to do it when we have the time,my husband was off the weekend and aI had my Dad to sunday dinner.You cannot be expected to asnwer everyone on here and they are nice people that do this and understand we all have our lifes to live so don't worry sometimes I can spend hours on here but with all the family commitments as well sometimes it is difficult to get here everyday.
