how can some one you love hurt you so much?

I'm not sure why the ones we love can hurt us so much sometimes. My girlfriend and I have recently been experiencing some neglect from our friends and it kind of hurts because we used to be such close friends. Now our friends seem like they have just kind of cut us out of the picture and only hang out with themselves now I guess. Oh well though because there are always more people out there that are willing and able to become your friends.

hello meowxxxmeow, It takes two to tangoo as they say. One without the other will surely not work. So better have a heart to heart talk to him so you can solve whatever problem you're having right now. This way, as early as now you'll know what to do rather than keep on loving him and getting hurt as well. Saving the relationship is just fine for as lone as you have each other. But if he has other somebody aside from you, then what's the point. Time to follow your friend's advice. It's not worth it anyway. Maybe you really are not meant to each other as lovers. As best friend, yes but of what happened between you too I think that will change too.

IF this guy truly thought of you as his best friend and the love of his life, then he would not hurt you especially on purpose. I understand that you love him and that you don't want to lose him, but listen to your friends and get out of that relationship. He could realize what he lost and be back without hurting you. If not, he never loved you to begin with.

I was hurt by someone I loved. My situation was different. The person that hurted me was my exhusband. Before we got married he was the man I dreamed of marrying someday and spend the rest of my life and all that good stuff. He was sweet, nice, kind, handsome, well educated, and romantic. Everything a woman wants in a man. But it was too good to be true. About 6 months after we married he started to change, he became insecure and controlling. The marriage turned out to be abusive both physical and verbal. I just couldn't find the courage to leave him because I loved him so much, and I couldn't understand how could someone you love hurt you so much. I thought he would change and go back to the guy I had met and fell in love with but he didn't. It took me about a year later to leave him. My infant daughter had given me the strength and courage to pick up and leave. Its been 3 years since I've left him. I still love him but I will never go back. But my point is that it is hard to leave the person you love, but its the best and right thing to do.

The only people that truly matter to us, is the basically the only ones that can hurt us. It's because we care what they think, feel, etc. To open ones heart is always a possibility of getting hurt. As the saying goes, 'such is life'.

The very reason why it hurts so much is because you love that person. You wouldn't be affected in that rate if he means nothing to you. Since he means a lot, everything he does has an effect on you. In your heart, you feel that the two of you are just one being. And when he does things that make it seem like you are not one anymore, then it hurts so much. Your heart and mind are not ready for the idea of you two being apart. I'm sorry if I have described how you feel but I believe you have to have someone who would explain the feelings to you. Because deciding what to do about the situation is entirely up to you.