Husbands Ex, Given to much information?
By stardustw83
@stardustw83 (435)
United States
January 17, 2009 2:15am CST
My husband and I have been together almost 2 years. He was previously married for 12 years and has two beautifull children from that marriage. Now of course my husband and his ex talk all the time about the kids which is no problem how ever recently my husband and I had a child of our own a beautifull baby boy who is only a week old. Now i understand that my husband is very proud of the fact that we had a child as am i but he thinks its okay to talk to his ex about our son. Now im not saying that she asks how things are going with the new baby and he says fine i mean he tells her every little detail. This upsets me cause this is not her child this is mine and his child and im feeling well a little teritorial over our son. Am i wrong for not wanting her to know every little detail when it comes to our son? I don't mind if she asks how he is doing and my husbands says fine but i don't feel she should know every little detail. Am i just over reacting to the situation with how I am feeling or am i right to feel this way?
I have talked to my husband and let him know that i don't like the fact that he talks to his ex about OUR personal lives i don't mind when it comes to the their kids cause well they are their kids and they need to talk to one another about them to be the best parents ever. But as his wife i don't want him talking to his ex about our son.
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@earthsong (589)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I think I would probably feel the same way, but I would try to look at it from another point of view too. He is excited about his new baby. I would wonder if his ex-wife is as uncomfortable with it as you are, as well. Maybe she doesn't want to hear about his new child in full detail. It was my decision to split up with my ex, and I was happy for him and his new wife had a healthy baby, but I don't want to hear about her. My situation is a bit different, I don't get along with my ex enough to have a prolonged conversation with him, and it sounds like your hubby and his ex get along pretty well. But still, it might be making her uncomfortable to hear every little detail of his new child. Do you speak to her at all? I got along quite well with my ex's wife from his first remarriage, and I think I might have been able to talk to her about the kids, including the child my hubby and I had together. But I don't much care for his wife from his 2nd remarriage, and when she came into the picture his relationship with my older kids pretty much fell apart.
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@stardustw83 (435)
• United States
20 Jan 09
well that sucks, my husbands ex and i don't really get along from things she has done to us in the past i have tried to get over them but when a person keeps doing things over and over again that say they wont be changing who they are well its hard to ever trust that person enough to be their friend. But they have to get a long for the most part because they have two children together i just don't want my husband talking to his ex about our son. I know that she isn't uncomfortable talking to him about our baby which is weird as well.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Yes, sometimes there is certain information that another person doesn't need to know especially about your son. I understand that your husband might still have dealings with his ex wife because of children involved however what ever is going on in your personal life is your own business. 