how can you say no to an invitation?

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I have a close friend of mine and for almost 2 years of our friendship our relationship becomes deeper but then i set boundaries by saying 'nothing intimate '. We have our mutual understanding but as friends only... This guy is an old guy and honestly i will be true to myself that maybe in the future i will be needing his help so i continously see this guy and at present i accepted whatever he gives me without any demand on my part. I am not guilty about it because i dont ask for anything material and i am just enjoying his company. He is a wonderful person, humble and kind so despite of far age difference i admired his qualities and we get along very well. Now my problem is he had all these women beside him, these girls are from bars and clubs and they needed his help being a single mom, some are students and others are unemployed. All these women he met is because of normal business call for their clients where sometimes he should bring their japanese clients to a club or bars. I have nothing againts with these women i do understand their needs for money. I feel their pain when they beg and ask for help from my dear american fried but then i cant face them in parties or special occasions or social gatherings because i am not in that category. And i do not want to be in their level too. I just cant swallow the judgement of other people thinking of a filipina getting involved with an american for money reason. Because my friendship with this guy is not about money. I am happy to hear all his advice, im happy when we talk about everything and anything. Im happy to have known such a high level man. Im happy with our friendship but he cannot understand me when i refuse to all his parties invitation. Should i end up my friendship with him? or just meet his girlfriends? Please help because i am really confused. I value our friendship but to be in the position where people create immediate judgement, well i am refering to his professionals, educated friiends in the business/company they might jump in a conclusion that i am one of the girlfriends of the old american friend of mine no matter how i am being introduce of the way i behave, its not gonna change what they think of me.. and i dont like that!My american friend is being understood as a womanizer but he just want to help all these girls, it i just up to the woman if she will protect her interest and be one of the girlfriends but in my case i do not want to go that far...i am not yet out my mind!Do i have to end our friendship? please help me.