your husband is cheating on you..

Been there done that. my ex was a cheater to the extreme eve when confronted with undeniable proof he lied and said it wasn't true. After 5 years of trying to hold it all together I gave up and filed for divorce. He was engaged to a very young and pregnant girl within months of our divorce and he called me up and asked to "get together" for old times sake!! Geez he never has changed at all just cheating on her now and I have nothing to do with him.

That is really a tough situation and everyone deals with it differently. I had gone through such painful ordeal. I had suspected that my husband, been cheating all along, but I just could not get any concrete proof. I cried many nights and when I asked him he gave me some silly stories. Finally, when i found out that it was really true and I confront him, he said he knew the girl before me and then he blame for because he said I was nagging him. I admitted to nagging him when I though something was going on and I was right but he refused to talk to me about it and we had a big fight about it too. To make matters worse I was pregnant with our son, I did not know what to do or how to handle it I felt betrayed and I could not trust him anymore. So I just packed my things and move out. He stayed away for a while and after I had my son, he came back to me and beg me to accept his apology and that he did not know what to do and how he is sorry and it will never happen again and how much he can't live without me and bla, bla,. Of course I felt for it and we got back together. Things got rocky at times. To this day I do not know if he is cheating anymore, because he swears he is not and that even though at times I believe he is I just do not try and let it bother me. I just do not think about it, why because he is doing what he suppose to be doing as a husband and a father, he is always there for me, he comes home at nights and I believe he is spending the rest of his life making it up to me and I am happy with that. I know how you feel, but I do not know what to tell you at this moment. I think though, it is best you talk to your husband, let him know how much he hurt you and both of you seek counselling together and take it from there. Trusting him again will take time, if you truly love him and he loves you try and make it work. Also think about the good times you both shared together and the kids you both share (if there's any). Make a list of the good and bad about your husband, if the good outweigh the bad then it is worth giving your marriage a nother chance, and if the bad outweight the good then it will be his lost. I trust it will work out for you both. Good luck

I've never been in that situation, and I hope never have to face that kind of situation. But, even just thinking about it now, I know that I'd certainly be hurt, extremely hurt. Though I personally don't know what would be my reaction, or how i would handle it. I think that it's just one of those situations that, if you haven't been in that position, it's difficult to imagine what you'd do to handle it.

i gues if i dont have see that he cheated on me i think its easy to accept but if he is truly did cheat,so i give him freedom and i will do the same to him just to make it fair

I've never gone through this kind of thing and would never want to. I am hurt just by imagining that my husband will see and care for someone else. It will be our eleventh year together and that is a very long period of time. We have gone a lot of ups and downs and I can say that he's the person I am most confident with. Our relationship is not perfect but it has developed from good to better. I always say to him when some chances occur that if ever he will cheat on me and caught him the act, I will leave him immediately. For me, that will be a very insulting thing to do to a wife, to cheat on her. And I always tell him that in most cases, it's a fleeting thing and a woman who will have an affair with a married man is not a good woman. We have daughters and we treasure that much plus we have fear in God so I trust that he will not be able to do this kind of thing to me.

Hello monishavakil! I have never been through that situation but if ever it will happen which I know it's impossible, I would pack my things and leave him immediately. I don't think that I need explanation because the evidence is pretty clear. I can't live with a man whom I know kissed other woman while kissing me as well.