What To Do With Him
By alyssakenzie
@alyssakenzie (462)
United States
January 17, 2009 3:55pm CST
Well I have been with my boyfriend for almost seven years though we did seperate for awhile two years ago but ended up getting back together. I don't know why I let him come back but for some reason I did and tried to convince myself it was the right thing to do. Well I went out of town and got home on Christmas Eve late and after getting everything ready for the kids I decided to get on the computer and catch up since I had been gone. Well I went to search for something in the search bar and to my surprise his ex girlfriends kids name popped up in it. There was another search with just her last name in it to. I didn't say anything to him and tried to get act like nothing was wrong since it was Christmas and the next day at work my friend convinced me not to say anything and see if he would tell me.
I won't go into detail about this girl but more or less we didn't get along six years ago and she caused a lot of problems. I have never met her in person since she had moved away but I would like to!!
Well he finally asked me what was wrong with me one night and I told him he should know but he never said anything else. Well yesterday someone I had not seen in quite awhile called to see if I was home so she could come over. Her boyfriend and mine work together so when she got there she told me that he knew that I knew about him looking for her but didn't want to say anything and she said he said that he was searching for her on other sites as well but I didn't see those and he had found her. Well he got home awhile later while she was there and after she left he asked me if I wanted to talk to him and I told him I had nothing to say. He was like she told you I knew or something like that and I was like that is pretty bad that you can tell everyone else but you can't tell me. He doesn't think that should have made me mad and he was just wanting to see if she was doing worse than him YEAH RIGHT. After that long you look someone up to see if they have it worse than you do. I pretty much told him I didn't want to be with him anymore. I know he wasn't being truthful with me about why he was looking for her. I just don't know what to do anymore. Why would someone look someone up after that long for? I am just so confused.
3 responses
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
17 Jan 09
Dump the chump! You deserve better than that. Even though it could have been innocent..if this girl has given you that much trouble and he knew about it..being social with her is a betrayel in itself. He's supposed to be on your side no matter what.
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@alyssakenzie (462)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Thanks for your response. It has been hard but I never thought he would do something like that and now he wants to act like nothing is wrong. I am trying to find a new place and I am planning on moving out though it is a little scary but I will figure out a way to make it.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
23 Jan 09
[i]Hi alyssa,
This is tough but be strong! The fact that he wasn't honest and open to you whatever his reasons are for searching them, I don't think he deserves your trust and time again!
It might be hard but for me, it's better to live without him!
I do know if you were able to settle this stuff already and if you did, then for sure, you learned his valid explanation! Take care![/i]
@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
17 Jan 09
Hi, ohhh, that just brought bad memories back to me. My first husband had an ex g/f that called him from time to time even after he had married me. She wanted to cause trouble and he let her.That was one of the reason that marriage ended.Watch out for yourself obviously he is not and is watching out for only himself.
