Is Friendship Necessary For A Lasting Relationship?

I have had bad experiences with so called friends in the past so in my case I do appreciate good friends and my relationship with my husband started as good friends. I only have one best friend I have known her for almost 14 years. She lives far away from me but she is the only best friend I ever have. My husband and some other good friends I have online and real life, all are important for me too. our friendship helps me face my struggles, true friendship is like angel's wings, it supports and lifts me up. but being married to my friend helps the relationship to survive because I know I can trust him and he knows he can trust me, so we can focus on facing other problems outside the home front. it's a nice poem, hopefully you find such a friend.

I can definitely say that friendship is a must for a long marriage. My best friend is my husband. We have been together for 21 years sixteen and a half of that been married. As a friend we love spending time together. We are able to get through the troughs together and we love each other's company. Your poem is lovely and I do hope you find what you want Have a great day Leonie

That is a very sweet poem. I wish I can write like that. =D I think it is neccesary to have some kind of friendship to make the relationship last longer. Although when you are a friend first, sometimes it is awkward to be in the relationship later. Then there is this feeling of afraiding that if the relationship won't work out you will lose that friendship. It's really hard to do. **sighs** Relationship **sighs**

I totally think not only does it enhance a relationship but it almost a necessity. Think about it, friends are those you go to in time of need, to talk to, to have fun with, just so many different things. I love being able to go to my husband with all those things and know that we can talk as friends do. Friends have things in common and that is what is needed in a marriage as well, at least to a point. I'm lucky as I married my best friend and I also have a best friend so when he makes me mad, I can go to her! LOL! Doesn't happen often thou, which is good.

Yes, I do believe that friendship is the most important ingredient for a long-term relationship. If you have friendship, then it is more likely that you will have respect for one another, consideration and an understanding of each other. To be able to maintain a long term romance, you need to have these things, to get through the tougher times for example. Other things which are important are obviously chemistry, and physical attraction, common goals etc but without friendship I don't think these other factors would be enough to sustain a lasting relationship

I also believe that your lover should also be your best friend. I have been in a relationship for 4 years with my girlfriend who is also my best friend. I think that having this type of relationship is most enjoyable and fulfilling kind that one can be in.

Yes friendship is a vital part of a relationship. I never had that with my now ex-wife but do have it with my life partner and in fact we started out as friends long before the relationship changed to what it is today. We became friends, we talked to each other, listened to each others woes and generally had a good time with NO romantic involvement at all. The first time I ever heard about husband and wife being friends was from my sister-in-law. I was a brash young man, aged in my late teens who thought he knew it all or so she tells me. At the time I was a bit keen on some girl and sister-in-law told me that without friendship, the relationship would not last for a long time. She told me I should try and built on the friendship and to take it easy when it came to the "love stuff" because that would come if it was meant to be. Now try getting a young man to understand that when the mind is certainly not on friendship. She also told me that her husband (my favourite brother) was her best friend and their marriage was built on friendship, liking each other and also loving each other as well. That made no sense whatsoever to me and as she is only some 14 months older than I am, I figured she was just a bit too weird. Well she has been proved to be right, even if it took another 30+ years for me to find that out. So I had to eat a lot of hu mble pie for a while when my partner and I realised we were meant to be together.

It's always better to have some sort of connection that isn't physical in a relationship. We have lots of interests and we love showing each other new things and just plain talking to each other. We were friends for a short time before we started dating.

First of all, let me say that indeed you have made a great poem. It is wonderful! In response to your question, YES! It is very important to have friendship if you want a lasting relationship. A simple question will answer this... How can you love someone if you are not friends right? So it would matter a lot.

I think that it's important that you are friends with someone before you enter into a relationship with them. Unfortunately, not many of the men I am friends with see it that way, and once I'm friends with them, they prefer to keep it that way. This means that often I lose out on the guys I like because they don't want to enter into a relationship when they see me more of a friend than a girlfriend.

That is a very nice poem. And yes I think that it is very important to be friends with your partner. I would consider my husband to be my best friend, we have been together for 12 years and married for 10. We have been to hell and back together and still share the friendship.

Absolutely your partner should be your best friend. For several reasons. You want someone who you will enjoy spending time with for the rest of your life, someone with whom you can talk about everything, with whom you feel comfortable sharing everything (you may not share EVERYTHING but you could if you wanted to). But also, you have your own friends outside of the relationship and if your partner is your friend he/she should be able to mix well with your other friends, making social gatherings easier and more comfortable. And if your partner is comfortable with your friends he/she will be more comfortable letting you be alone with them as well without being jealous or suspicious.

That is a beatiful poem. I think you are right being friends is very imporant because you will come across hard times and in order to get over them you need to be friends as well as lovers. I hope you find the right man in your life and believe that you believe than you will get what you want. Good luck on your journey and have a great day here at mylot.

I think being friends with your partner is very important. In fact I think it is one of the most important things. Being friends means that you can share everything and enjoy everthing with out fear of being judged. In other words you are friends and lovers, you not only have a physical connection but also an emotional one.

I agree. I couldn't have a lasting relationship with someone I wasn't friends with. I would want a partner to be someone I could talk to about anything and trust 100%. I have chosen to remain single as that man hasn't come along. I have plenty of friends who fall in to that catagory but the "spark" just isn't there to take it further. I'm sure "Mr RIght" will come along one day!

Friendship is the basis for any relationship. And by that I guess in clarification I would say two people have to have things in common, respect for one another, having a history with someone, and someone that shares ideas and feelings about common and important things. The strongers these things are the closer two people become. Yes, friendship is very important.

For me a relationship has to be based in friendship. It´s needed to be the best friend of the person to share the good and bad things together or it won´t last long. Relationships are difficult these times. Now everything is so easy to go to the garbage. It´s like if a relationship was a shoe that when the heel break we simply put away. This is sad but it´s true. People don´t love or respect each other nowadays. It´s something so hard to find someone special and when you find them it´s needed to have a relationship built with love and friendship.

I agree with you. Friendship is necessary for love to develop, grow, bloom and last.

All relationship started off with friendship. Your best friend is always your spouses rightfully if you are married. Well maybe for your case, your other half is not too responsible and faithful and thus it will be difficult for him to be anyone's best friend. Keep seeking, you will find one.

A best friend can become a very gud partner & its true too because you will be knowing the in & out of your best frnd & thats what is needed in spouse relationship too. You can always depend on them, share everything & still they would be with you & thats how best friends are & thats how one's partner should also be for a smooth relationship. All the best fr your search for a beautiful partner