are you blind?
By CRIVAS
@CRIVAS (1815)
Canada
January 18, 2009 12:22pm CST
I do most of my shopping at SuperStore but lately I haven't been wanting to go. I find that the store is always really busy and overcrowded. I guess that it wouldn't be so bad if everyone was considerate but they aren't. During most of my shopping trips one of two things happen:
1) Someone runs into the back of my foot,
2) Someone runs into my kids.
Now I don't know if these people are blind or just stupid but I have to say that last weekend was the last straw for me. I was in the laundry soap section and this younger lady pushing her cart, walked right into my daughter. Now while I admite that my daughter is short, she is very loud and was running up and down the isle. The lady was NOT watching where she was going and knocked my daughter over. My daughter looked at the lady and started crying. Now it would not have been so bad if we had receieved an appology. But that wasn't the case, this women actually had the never to tell me that I shouldn't let my children run in the supermarket! Not I'm so sorry, or Oh dear. I got lectured. Now I'm sorry but when I bump into someone I say that I'm sorry. I was furious and I lost it. I ened up yelling at the women and basically told her: OPEN YOUR EYES AND WATCH WHERE YOU ARE WALKING!
Was I in the wrong?
Is it my fault that this lady wasn't watching where she was walking?
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11 responses
@GardenGerty (160466)
• United States
18 Jan 09
Kids are not puppets or miniature little grown ups that move sedately through a store. We would like them to. I would give my kids little jobs to do to keep them focused and not running, but . . . I am fifty-five years old now, and I remember the stuff my brother and I would do, even in clothing stores, with my mother. She seldom shopped at all and we made it worse. I know that kids are constantly moving and trying the limits of their parents, I do everything within my power to avoid hitting them, or being hit by them. If I were to bump anyone, child or adult, I would apologize, sincerely. The only exception to this is teenagers who are racing shopping carts around stores, etc. I frequently want to trip them up, as they are old enough to know better. I would love to embarrass them. I do not think I would yell at someone who hit my kid, but I would probably stand up for them. I like shopping at very early or late hours as it is less crowded, and most kids are in school or in bed. You would be surprised, though, at how many children are in Wal Mart shopping with their parents at 11:00 p.m. on a school night.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
18 Jan 09
I remember once coming around the corner of a grocery store aisle and bumping the front end of my cart against that of a woman coming around the same corner from the opposite direction. It was the hubs ex-wife, who was at the time, trying to sue us because we'd put the taxation people onto her for false claims, resulting in OUR being audited every damn year (kids and child support payments were involved). Anyway, needless to say we weren't on speaking terms. We kind of froze as we recognized each other and then I said, slow and deep...."Why helloooooooo Jane..........." That's as far as I got. She literally screamed, abandoned her cart, ran out of the store and the fool then clipped my car bumper getting out of the parking lot! LOL She dropped her suit when we promised not to sue HER for the car's damages!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
18 Jan 09
When I'm shopping.......and I too shop in SuperStore....I tend to develop tunnel vision. I hate grocery shopping with a passion, so I become so focused on just what's immediately within my line of vision or my cart, or on my list, that my peripheral vision and longer range vision becomes non-existent, so I'm always running in to displays, people and such (haven't run into a child though...it's like the mommey 6th sense alerts me to them) and the first words out of my mouth are 'Oh Sh*t, inattentive old lady in the store! I'm so sorry...." It doesn't matter who's at fault. A child was injured and concern and apologies are in order no matter what.
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@GardenGerty (160466)
• United States
18 Jan 09
I do tend to clip displays now and again with my cart. I do not remember the last time I hit some living thing.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
18 Jan 09
I never run into little kids. But I did clip a boxboy once and while he was giving me the riot act it suddenly dawned on him who I was..........the mother of one of his friends. LOL Poor kid couldn't apologize fast enough for going off on me. Nice to know your kids carry that kind of weight with their friends! LOL
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
19 Jan 09
That happens to be in that store too, people are always rude and pushy.. I go grocery shopping with my mother now that i've been living with them, and my mother doesn't get out of bed early usually, but when i did my own shopping at my own place, I would already be up with the kids before the store opened.. so sometimes i'd be there waiting for the store to open, mostly just to get outta teh darn house! lol.
Have you tried going early in the morning, usually only other mothers of really small babies and seniors are in the store that early!! its a great time to shop! Or, if you have your husband stay home with the kids late at night, there isn't too many people in the store from midnight on if you have a 24 hours grocery store near.
I yell at those pushy rude people too. . Last week a woman pushed me and my mother out of the way to get some carrots. . i was like EXCUSE ME, you could have asked one of us to move instead of being a rude B1tch! she was stunned. idiot. you have got to be pretty stupid to not know how rude your being to other people.. i wonder how far these peoples heads are stuck up their @sses?!
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
18 Jan 09
Probably a little bit of Both! A kids running in the supermarket is not the best, and when shopping people are watching the shelves,rather than trying to avoid running kids. I doubt this woman meant to hit your kid, and she was annoyed when it happened.Your best bet would have been to apologize to her for your running child, and she might have been more apologetic for knocking your kid over.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
All I could say is that when you're busy, you sometimes focus too much on what you are supposed to do that you forget to be aware of what you're actually doing.
Last Christmas, I was so busy buying stuff and doing groceries and at one point, I wasn't able to see the other person too. Well, I don't think he noticed me too so we bumped into each other on our way out.
And it's weird that he was angry and shouted at me, when obviously I got to the door first. Whew!
It's good that I didn't blow up and just hurriedly went on my way without any other person noticing.
While in my car, I just thought that perhaps he was having a really bad day or so that's why he snapped. But hey, it's the Christmas season, he should have been enjoying what he was doing rather than cramming, right?
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@suzzy3 (8341)
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18 Jan 09
Some people are so silly and have not got kids ,they have no idea of what it is like,you were in the right but your daughter will have to learn her lesson but you don't need to hear that,as the adult the younger woman has to take the blame she should be child aware,kids have run into my trolly but I always say I am sorry and ask after the child and make sure the child is ok before moving on.The mothers always say sorry about their child and it was their own fault,I would never say she was a bad mother or should be taking more care.My own kids have caused problems in supermarkets at times and you don't want to go round with my grandchildren when they cannot have what they want.Children are children and adults should allow for this.It sounds to me like this woman did this on purpose to prove a point I cannot abide people like that.
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@earthsong (589)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I shop at the Walmart SuperCenter here and I hate it. Just pulling into the parking lot puts me in a bad mood. Not only are the other customers rude, the employees are rude. The saying around here is if you get a nice Walmart employee they must be new. I've never had anyone hit me or my kids, but I constantly run into people blocking an entire aisle while they chat to a friend or while they browse the shelves with their hubby, kids, sister, etc. They will look right at you and then continue to stand there. I'm the kind of person that wants to get in and out. I know what I want, I rarely buy anything not on my list, get the H%$l out of my way so I can get home!
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
19 Jan 09
CRIVAS,
An analytic will put both parties in the wrong. But I felt that she should not have lectured and she is being wrong for being uncivilize insensitive here.
I don't know what is it with people who seems to have a difficulty with the word "Sorry", is it so painstaking to say it? What is it? I mean here is your little child crying the least she should have done was comfort her and ask if she is alright. I think that's the least decency one could have done. I guess she doesn't have it in her.
Just don't lower yourself here to her level by yelling at her. Comfort and teach your daughter audibly to avoid uncivilize, inconsiderate and insensitive shoppers like this blind aunty
. I would even get her (your daughter) to spell the word sorry as loud as her lungs can go and reward her with a Hagen Daz after that! Kills 2 birds with 1 stone here don't you agree? Some people just ought to be taught.
I don't know about you, but I am looking forward to the next grocery shopping trip. Don't let these nuisance get you down.
Cheers.
. I would even get her (your daughter) to spell the word sorry as loud as her lungs can go and reward her with a Hagen Daz after that! Kills 2 birds with 1 stone here don't you agree? Some people just ought to be taught.
I don't know about you, but I am looking forward to the next grocery shopping trip. Don't let these nuisance get you down.
Cheers. @murugezh (273)
• India
19 Jan 09
I won't be very calm like you I'll ask them directly on the spot but with out hurt them, "why don't you watch who is near you or on your way?". They have to look others too. If unless until she is not a blind no meaning asking this to her. But people who are elder must take care of people who all are on the way like this. But we have to very careful if they are wearing cooling class or specs with them eyes sometime they would be real blind sometime.
@aerthi (22)
• India
19 Jan 09
so this s the main reason i hate going to shopping. the people there just bang on us and the wont even tell some words of apology. so my mom shops 4 me instead. i like going to the dress store on non festival days because it will b less crowded n there will b many choices to chose from.
@redberry (178)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
A mothers instinct to protect her child is never wrong. I'd say the woman was at fault because a single sorry would've ease the tension but noooooo she had to yell at you like it was your fault. I really hate people that don't admit their mistakes and pinning it to someone else. that's just rude and conceited! I don't think you were wrong, you did what you had to do at that moment. she deserved it!!!
