In One Year: 3 Relationships and now she's engaged?
By breepeace
@breepeace (3014)
Canada
January 18, 2009 3:24pm CST
I have an acquaintance on Facebook who I haven't spoken to face-to-face in over 8 years. She sends me little messages every now and again,and I respond, but we were never close before, and I can't see that changing with time.
However, something that she's doing kind of bugs me. I know it's not really any of my business since she's not a close friend or anything, but I sort of wonder what she's thinking.
In the past year, her Facebook status messages have implied she's been with 3 different men in a relationship, first Mike, then Nathan and now Joseph.
Mike apparently beat her up, Nathan and her were 'madly in love' but then ended it inexplicably in September, and she got together with Joe shortly after that and at Christmas, he asked her to marry him.
From what her messages to me imply, she's really close to his family since her own family life leaves something to be desired, and she's busy planning the wedding details, but I have to wonder how she can be serious about this at all? They've only been together a few months, and already they're going to get married?
What is your opinion of this? What would you do or say if you were in my situation?
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4 responses
@eshaan (6188)
• India
26 Jan 09
i would have turned deaf and blind to such situation, i dont understand how people can be so attracted and suddenly distarcted to someone, with whom they r so closely involved,maybe the person she is marrying, she must be knowing him before all these 3, 
well, u just enjoy or if u r getting stressed or somewat like that, remove her from your friends.
well, u just enjoy or if u r getting stressed or somewat like that, remove her from your friends.1 person likes this
@jennysp8 (855)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Even though you may want to reach out to her, it is not your place to say anything. Most likely the wedding will not happen and if it does, the marriage will not last long.
While this will sadly and most likely be the case, you just never know. I know of someone who before her divorce was final she had already decided that she was getting married again.
Her and her man only dated a couple of weeks and then they were married. They have now been happily married for seven years. When she was asked how she could know she was making the right decision, she just replied back that "she knew" and that "if felt different."
I hope your acquaintance has everything work out for her. And if not, it may very well be the life lesson she needs.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
18 Jan 09
If you are not really close, there is really nothing you can say except congratulations. Put yourself in her shoes. Would you listen to the advice of an aquaintance that you are not really close to and whom you have not seen in 8 years? Probably not.
@momtrying2makeit (3270)
• United States
18 Jan 09
I am not sure, I would hope for the best for her. Getting in and out of realtionships can be hard for people. I myself have been in one for many years and I have been having problems with my boyfriend recently. I pray that everything works out because we have childern as well. I would say congrats and if you feel the friendship is no longer working than maybe you might want to delete her as a friend. The choice is up to you though. I am just giving my two cents here, but I hope this helps.
