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well you and I have something in common. lol. I dont really have a lot of friends here.. I had my kids in ontario, and i went to a lot of mom groups and playdate type community centers, so i always had somewhere to go, someone to talk to.. now that i've moved back to NS, I feel pretty alone and isolated.. all my old friends jsut party it up and dont have much responsibilities.. and let me tell you i dont really miss those drinking myself stupid in the club days, lol i'm getting WAY too old for that!

I can honestly say that you are doing nothing wrong. I've seen a lot of situations like yours, and it happened the same way. I had a friend in high school who went through the same thing with the friends she had. They were really close until she had her first baby, then it seemed that they slowing drifted apart. Motherhood changes a woman's life because now your baby comes before your friends, and even yourself, and you find yourself doing spending most of your time caring for your baby instead of going out with your friends. If they don't have any kids then it's most likely that talking about babies a lot or anything having to do with a baby is far from the list unless they their thinking about getting pregnant or trying to get pregnant. They are the same people you've known before, it's just that they can't relate to you from a mom's point of view. It's normal to feel left out because you're not able or choose not to do the things that you used to do with them. My friend from high school was really hurt from that, so she talked to them about how she felt about it, then after a while things only got worse, so she just stopped trying because it was stressing her out more and more. Did you talk to them about it yet? If not maybe if they knew how you feel they could help you feel more apart of the group. I hope everything works out for you. If you need to talk more, just send me a PM.

to make a friendship relation good both should be understandable know their limits and respect each other none of them should try to become superior than the other

as people grow and experience what life offers them, they tend to change. they grow and move on. old friends wont fit anymore. they need to make new friends, whether at work or at a new locale that they move to. maybe it is time to move on and meet other people that are more similar to you. you can also keep ur old friends as acquaintances. it has happened to me. i have moved on to many friends. i have also been to many schools. consider it as a social adventure. explore and meet others. u can still keep old friends, but be open to new people as well. the new people might turn out to be better in the long run, and one might be ur future spouse, if u r single.

Singles and married people live in two different worlds. All you can do with your single friends now is reminisce about the time you were single and that gets old after a while. The single friends you have now will probably being getting married and having children eventually, so don't drop them as your friends, but don't limit yourself to friendship with just these people. If you're not already involved in a church, a club, or something of that source that has married couples with young children, think about joining. Don't sit home and sulk. Instead, explore your options. Make the effort to make additional friends.

Crivas, One of the only things we can be sure about in life, is that life will never stay the same. Our lives are constantly changing, and sadly as you've already pointed out, sometimes our interests or our direction in life changes as well. You have already said you just don't feel like you have much in common with them anymore and that could be absolutely true. I'm not aware of your personal circumstances, but from what you've posted in this discussion, it sounds as if you have grown up so to speak and have responsibilities that your friends do not. Although I do not have children of my own I was in a similar circumstance when I was younger. I moved out on my own at the age of 16. All of my friends that I was going to high school with, were talking about getting caught by their parents, sneaking out at night, getting dunk, and talking about their boyfriends. I felt like I was from another planet. When my school day was over, I was thinking about going to the grocery store and what I was going to make that night for supper. We were on totally different paths. Many people speak about lifelong friendships, and well these friendships can and do happen they're rare. I have perhaps three friends that I would consider lifelong friends, such that it doesn't matter how infrequently I see them we can still talk as if it was only yesterday I spoke to them. Those are very special friends, the ones where you can pick up where you left off no matter how much time has passed. Unfortunately, what happens most of the time is that people do indeed grow apart and go in different directions. It hurts, it can be incredibly painful to say goodbye to people that you no longer have anything in common with, but, in my opinion it is much better to hurt and move on, than to try to hang on to something that we've outgrown. That's just been my experience. Good luck to you and happy Mylotting!

A rift is always formed in a relationship when one of the friends becomes a father but after a while it returns to normal if it was a true friendship.