Finding the right combination in a mate... Is this possible?

Most of us make a criteria or imagine the "dream mate" with specific qualities and looks but that´s all a fantasy that in a perfect world could come true but reality is different and I believe that we must be flexible and be aware that we are not perfect but there´s definitely someone out there for each and everyone of us, we were created out of love, to love and be loved, it is not impossible to find someone with all the characteristics that we look for in a partner but most of the times they lack of the most important things that can really make us happy, I am not saying either that we have to settle for less but rather that we need to be open to someone who fits us well rather than someone we look well with.

They have to pass my test. I have a list of questions I posted a ways back. I love where that discussion went and it really pertains here. The "perfect" mate? I don't know about that. I think I'd settle for as close to it as possible. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1816976.aspx

Yes, we all have our dream partner but most of the time, you have to change your criteria either because they are not practical or they became unimportant as you grow in maturity. A beautiful heart/character covers everything, you will look at your partner different even if she/he is not in the very best shape. You start to fall in love with the kind of person he/she is , not the look. I guess this is very important cos our looks fade away through time. Build on true love and age gap doesnt matter too.

Some "criteria" are just vain, in many ways. It is one thing to desire someone who is similar to you, and that you are attracted too; but to have so many requirements (especially ones like "well shaped legs") just make it so you can not find anyone in your life. No one is going to be "perfect" in most cases. The best relationship consists of flaws in all aspects of the relationship. It is understandable to a degree to hold STANDARDS for a person, such as when I was searching I desired someone with similar interests, someone fun, someone who isn't going to beat me (and other, more personal types of things). These types of things are necessary for people to have an intimate connection with each other. However, for the most part, physical attributes (especially) are usually just pointless. To a degree, it is appropriate for a person to desire to be attracted to the other person; however making a list of what everything should look like will instantly cause a person to miss out on all the good opportunities that they have. To answer your questions- I didn't have to change mine. I did not ask for much, and I managed to find the one I love very quickly in life.

It's given that everyone has standards in finding their mate. Even I have high standards. It may sound unfair, but we can't avoid this kind of attitude. However, sometimes, when love takes over, the standards sometimes take the backseat and we usually tend to submit to that person's imperfections no matter how intolerable it is just for the sake of love... unless if you are just up to spending a night with that person in bed... arrrghh... ^_^

Wow. Talk about being picky. Love is Love not Loving the looks of a person. Dont get me wrong because you gotta have that attraction to a person to make your relationship work. Im madly in love with the man in my life and know he's the one. When we meet i was attracted to him but never thought id be in a relationship with him. He was loud and rowdy. A person who always thought he was right at all times and never wrong. Cocky personalities like these made me cringe and i hated people like this. Oh, what i thought would only be a booty call. I now look back and laugh about this. Our bound grew stronger day by day. I love him for how different he is from me. The things i've learned from him and the things he's still learning through me. Granted hes been through rough times and hes not not tan man , light blue eyed career goaled man i thought id end up with. But i love him for him and have stuck by him through thick n thin. I love him and know our relationship will envelope into something even greater.

Unfortunately, with me, it's exactly the opposite. I have the criteria I have because I did find someone who fit all of them but lost him (he had some extra traits that made the relationship struggle....traits like psychosis and paranoia ). So, because I know "He" exists, I am pretty stubborn about it. Which has made me miss out, I'll admit.

When I was a teenager, I have sets of criteria also in looking for a guy. I want him to be tanned skin, taller than me, kind and intelligent, and must not have a big difference in my age.But as years go by, I find out that somehow, I cannot meet those criteria or not all those criteria. My boyfriend now has the opposite of some of those criteria. All of those, I really want a tanned skin man but he has a white complexion. Anyway, I can say that as we become mature in life, we tend to somehow forget what physical attributes we want our partner to have.As long as we feel comfortable toward each other, we continue the relationship with him or with her. We will then realize that someday, all of those physical attributes will one day vanish. And what will remain is the love and the friendship made for each other.

my exprience is just the opposite, I choose my first boyfrient without any criteria, we were classmates and had nice impression on each other, then we began our love journey, however, I am a little regretful for my hastiness because I begin to realize my criteria as I grow older, I begin to know more about myself and what I need, it seems I am on a wrong way ,yet I still haven't found a approrite way to escape. so I think the insist on criteria is worthy.