Is it wrong ot like being alone?

United States
January 19, 2009 1:30pm CST
I am married and enjoy being around my husband when he is home, but the rest of the time, I am usually home by myself. I remember a time when I hated being alone and wanted nothing more than to spend time with my friends, even if we just sat and did nothing. It seems that lately though, I'd rather be sitting at home by myself. I have one good friend who is always trying to get me to go see her and thinks I spend too much time alone. My question is...is it really so bad that I'd rather be home by myself than spending time with another person or other people?
4 responses
@messageme (2821)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I personally would rather stay home by myself too than to go and do anything. But I have six kids running around at home all the time. So any time alone I cherish!
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• United States
19 Jan 09
I don't have any kids running around, but I can just imagine how important alone time really is for you.
• South Africa
19 Jan 09
Of course not. I think also that when we are still fairly young we tend to want to be around other people, because we crave their approval. Later on, when we get more confident of our own identity, we no longer need others around all the time for our self esteem. I think it's a sign of maturity, of confidence and of spiritual development to be able to enjoy spending time alone in your own company.
• United States
19 Jan 09
Perhaps you are right. I had an experience about 3 years ago that caused me to do alot of growing. Maybe it was change of maturity level that changed the way i wanted to spend my time. thanks for your thoughts.
• United States
19 Jan 09
I don't think there is anything wrong with being alone. I like being alone sometimes. Sometimes I just hate being around other people because they annoy me. I like being alone because I can do what I want, I don't have to listen to people talk to me about stuff that doesn't matter. Being alone means I'm not bothered and I hate being bothered by petty things. I think our society forces us to spend time with people. I think our society makes it a bad thing to like being alone and I'm not sure why exactly. I kind of think people are too full of themselves and think that people must want and love to spend time with them.
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• United States
19 Jan 09
I agree with people being annoying. My least favorite task these days is shopping. I get so fed up with other people being inconsiderate that I am totally stressed by the time I'm done with my shopping.
@mareem (147)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Honestly, I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to spend time alone, but you may want to take a look at why you now prefer to spend your time alone. Since this is a relatively new behavior, is there a specific reason for it and is it something you really want, or are you using it to avoid an uncomfortable situation? If it's something you really want, then there is no problem. If you are avoiding something, though, it may become a problem and you may want to spend some of that alone time figuring out how to remedy the situation.
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