How Deep Is Your Love?
By leavell77
@leavell77 (18)
United States
2 responses
@Pleiades (846)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Sure, but the love of a parent is different than the love to another adult.
My children have done some things that makes me wonder who really is their biological parents are. There are things that makes me want to do things that I'd have nightmares about later, but I don't act upon those urges, thank goodness. It's called "unconditional love". I will love my children no matter what they do.
Now, adults are a different story. To me, they're old enough and wise enough to know what pushes my buttons. With my first other, I forgave him time and time again for the things he did to me and our daughter. I would have held on longer, but he decided to leave. After that, I looked at relationships in a different light. The next man was kinder, but he had an @$$holish attitude that I couldn't stand. Forget about trying to change people, isn't going to happen. Then, my last...that was the last straw. Even though my older children were his step children, he treated one in particular like the plauge. Had I stayed there, the daughter would have grown up thinking it's ok for a female to be subserviant and the boy would have probably grown up and shot people from the school balcony.
To me, it's ok to deliver negative things towards me, I can handle it. But once someone says or does something to my children, forget about me being nice. I will leave you in the drop of a hat. So, I don't believe in love with another adult, just love for my children.
*Pleiades
@Osiris13 (17)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I concur, I was with a gal for about 5 years, and she cheated on me. when I found out, and confirmed it with her I put her out. I loved her more than anything, except myself. I don't want to sound arrogant, but if you can't love yourself, you can't love anyone else. so unconditional love is not healthy between adults, with children that may be a different story, I don't know, I don't have any kids.
@ktosea (2026)
• China
20 Jan 09
I think you did the right thing,just kicking her out is the only thing you can do if you can not forgive her.it's hard enough to forgive your girl who cheated on you.I will let her go if I was in your shoes.if we can not love ourselves we will not love anyone else
@chriswolf (360)
• China
20 Jan 09
This is a very serious question to answer. Love is not difficult for short time, but extremely hard to keep the pace for a life time. But just keep in mind,
Love Deep if Love.