Do kids grow up to fast?

I am with you on that one I do not feel that any child should be whooped bad enough for them to be in physical danger but I do not feel as if you should let your children run you either. That is a big issue today. Instead of the parents running the children the chidren are running the parents. Back in the 30's if children would have done the things that children do now days they would not have been able to sit down. I have also seen alot of children in public that should have been grabbed up and bent over and had a good spanking. I bet if their parents did it a couple of times they would quit. I always tell mine that even though we are in public we can still go to the bathroom and get a spanking. It is embarassing when you are on your way to the bathroom with them and they are screaming "But I don't want a whooping Momma." Once they reach a certain age though I think that parents have a fear of spanking them. So they know they will get by with what they want. I got my butt whooped a lot and I believe that I am perfectly fine. I lived to tell about it. And now I understand why I got them. I told my Daddy one day when my kids were acting up that there was no way I acted as bad as my children and he said that I was 2x's worse that they were great!! LOL I honestly think that when you become a parent it makes you respaect your parents more because you see what they went through and actually realize the love that they had for you. There is no way to understand how much they truly love you until you have kids. To me the love I have for my children is so much deeper than I think I ever thought. Anyways I will quite rambling.

Now you know why so many of our parents said strange things like "Your turn will come" I was a lot worse than any of my kids were and I always knew it. Good thing they didn't or they'd have acted up more

I would not condone whupping to the point where the child is truly in physical danger, but a good spanking now and then comes in very handy It didn't kill any of us parents and it won't kill the kids we raise now God knows I've seen way too many out in public that should be grabbed and turned over and left with the feeling that they do not want to sit down because their butt is too sore

When I had stepsons I set the rules down early for misbehaving. Their father was a hit first kind of guy. I told them I will ask them why they did what they did. If it makes some sort of sense and they learned why they did something wrong then that's that. If I didn't like the explanation then they were going to get smacked. It worked really, really well Isn't the whole idea of punishment supposed to be so that they learn from their mistakes?

I agree, the reason for punishment is to learn from the mistake. It's not meant to be mean or for them to fear you.

I cannot see where the blame is totally on the parents although I do think parents share the burden of most of it. We do allow kids too much, too soon I am thankful that my daughter is not a violent type of kid. I would truly hate to whup her butt just to show her who is in charge. Fortunately a stern word or two usually does the trick. She sulks instead of arguing

Yes my daughter was very much the same way. We never had a lot in terms of material things therefore she had to learn responsibility and that you need to work for what you have and in our case that helped a lot.

Yes, you are making perfect sense. I agree with what you say, they would be better if they knew what these awful things were. And, I'm sure they will be stricter with their kids as well. My only hope is that they do not show their children the violent nature they are currently showing their parents.

I hope not, I do not have respect for people who lay hands on their parents no matter what their age is, I however hope that the future is better than today and that they learn that violence does not produce anything good. And for u

True enough, we are told too much about how to parent our children. It really is a shame, I have often felt like giving the kids to the government and say "Here, you raise them, or at least fork over the money so I can raise them"

I hope that most of today's kids get better at Life when they finally grow up

There are days when you think they are growing up too fast and then there are days when you wish they were already grown up and moved out of the house Enjoy the good days, let the bad days disappear into the wind

I have no doubt that therapists are some of the happiest people around, look at the job security they have I am thankful that my daughter does still have a little bit of sense, she knows when she has gone too far and knows that something she will not like is coming her way

I'm afraid I would risk the arrest, if I thought the kid needed a spanking they would get it. I'll take my chances with the judge Many parents these days just seem to be too afraid of the system or their kids or both Kids today do seem to be thinking that they are already grown up when they are not even close.

I hear you! The only thing I ever say to kids in my neighborhood is hello as I pass them. I do not want to deal with their parents either, as they may take their frustration with the kid out on me.

I think discipline did us all more good than harm

I am all for love and kindness, but there are limits and there reaches a point when smacking them is the final option. I, like my mother, used that option. It did not damage me mentally nor has it damaged any of the children I have raised

I only had to call in the police once for any of my kids and that was when he was grown up and I wanted his butt out of the house and he refused to leave and did threaten his mother and I. The cops came and gave him five minutes to get his stuff and get out or they'd take him to jail. He left willingly then He later apologized for being such an idiot

I guess you may be right, there needs to be a parent abuse hotline like there is for kids. Personally, I would just teach them that violence begets violence and defend myself

Time out is a waste of time for most kids and parents too. A quick turn over a parents knee is so much better and if you smack them well there will be no marks