teens and clothes
By Jo Hill
@Carpathian (582)
United States
January 20, 2009 12:47am CST
I just found the easiest way to stop my teen daughter from wearing clothes that are to revealing. Let me start from the beginning. My daughter is 15 will be 16 this month. All her friends dress with half shirts and low (and I do mean) Low hip hugging pants. Well, one of the girls walked up to my daughter and I swear I saw hair. I don't mean the kind on her head either. So, the next day my daughter came out of her room wearing clothes like that. It lasted about 2 seconds. No yelling involved. You want to know what I did. Easy I fixed my clothes just like hers! And, I said I can walk you to class today, because I have extra time this morning and I can even spend time eating breakfast in the cafeteria with you and all your friends. Will that not be nice. And, now I look just like you so we will be a mother & daughter team. And, I smiled really nice at her. Did I mention that I am over weight and my stretch marked stomach was hanging out along with my hips? Ha Ha I was finally happy that I am fat. Let's just say she went to her room changed her clothes and then I fixed mine. I dropped her off and told her if I find out she dressed like that again. I will surprise her with me dressing like that at her next school function. She now dresses very nice! And, her friends don't come around me dressed like that either. I don't know what she said but they are scared of me. Ha ha What do you do when you see someone dressed a certain way and you don't like it?
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18 responses
@mac1946 (1602)
• Calgary, Alberta
21 Jan 09
Good idea Carpathian,in this day and age,you have to come up with something that others cannot claim you are abusing her,and you got your point across rather nicelly.
Back 50 some odd years ago,my sister got some funny ideas about her manner of dress,when we were going to dances,some of you may remember the lightweight skirts and dresses that hid nothing when twirrled?
The first time she found out my sister was not wearing slips or krinalines under hers,she waited till the next day when we were at school,she removed all of her underpants,and as our other sister was still in diapers,replaced her panties with plastic panties,she had no choice but to wear them to the next dance,she was very carefull at that one,and dressed as mom wanted from then on.
from that day on,mom always had some around just to show sis,to be sure she behaved,and it did work right up to her marriage.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
20 Jan 09
good for you!!, very smart move on your part. wish more parents would do that. grownups on tv are just as bad. i get so tired of seeing everybodire boobies on tv, as for the young people & the way thet dress "where are their parents?" it's easier i guess to just let them dress like they want than stand up to them. i tell you one thing if i had come out like some of them do when i was young & in school not only would i have been sent back to my room probably got my a$$ whipped along the way. it all begins at home!!
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Well, good for you and your daughter. At least you didn't have to beat her over the head to get your point across. I haven't reached those days, yet. But, I try to instill respect for one's body and appropriateness in my daughters from now. Build the foundation like it seems that you have with your daughter. Some kids would have called your bluff and you would have been forced to bare those stretchmarks in the school cafe. (imagine that) When I see someone like this on the street I try not to even look at them because I figure that's exactly what they want - attention. If they are really offending me I'll let them know through the expression on my face or something like that.
@Carpathian (582)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Well, to respond about your comment on my daughter calling my bluff. Ha Ha
I don't think she would she knows me to well! When she was about 12 she told her friends right in front of me that I dressed like an old lady and I did not understand fashion. But, then she was not being mean she was just saying that because I was a mom and old I did not know how kids dress cool. I said oh, I dress like an old lady. The next day I proved her right. I wore an old night gown mumu with panty hoes socks down to my ankles and my hair in curlers. Picture Carol Burnett as the jantor. Well, let's just say that she did not ever say I dressed old again. In fact the next day when I dressed normal she said I like your clothes and hair mom you look nice today! I think she got the point. Ha Ha
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@denise002 (444)
• Australia
20 Jan 09
ROFL thats hillarious. id laugh so hard if my mum did that. i think thats a very smart way to handle ur daughter and it actually does remind me of something my mum would do. and for the record that chick should probably maintain herself a little better if u seen hair
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@wesfrishkorn (19)
• United States
20 Jan 09
My mom actually did that, but I dressed conservatively in high school. I still here where your comming from....Go mom!
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Cuz, you are crazy...at least I know which side of the family I get it from now LOL way to go on teaching her a lesson...God knows it's hard to do these days. I can't believe she is already going to be 16...pretty soon she'll be married and pregnant (hopefully in that order). Huggs to you both!
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@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
hahah that is so cool. I have a son so I cant use that one (he is 5 and I am pregnant so he pulls my top up to hug the baby in the middle of the shops so this one wont work on him :)))) but would you really do it? I am just thinking if this second child of mine is a girl and god knows what clothes will be like in 16 years time but I might have to use this tip.
@Annmac (949)
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22 Jan 09
I was lucky, when my daughter and neices were teens, clothes weren't that bad!
I think that was a great way to get your point across to her though. I'll suggest it to my neice who has the problem! 'Reasoning' with her girls (15 & 14) doesn't work!
I think I'd have been horrified if my Mum had suddenly taken to wearing min-skirts when my sisters and I did in the 60's.... lol.
@dropofrain (1167)
• India
21 Jan 09
It is really a nice way to mend your child's thought. I really appretiate your concern and the way you handeled your teenage kid. With the onset of new culture, kids are really adopting whatever their favourite idols are doing. They blindly follow their trends with out understanding what is good or what is bad for them. Hats off to your strategy and would definately try it out once I get the opportunity.
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Hey I like that one. My old nieghbor her Mom did that with her boy's with the low pants to the knee's and all. Well they didn't dress like that around grandma no more. But when she wasn't there they still did. I like how ever. My niece does but for her job and that is it. You have a good day. YOur friend onlydia
@vutum6887 (118)
• India
28 Jan 09
That was a very very smart way of handling a sensitive issue. If you had tried to explain or even scolding, I doubt it would have had much success. but this was a neat little act of real tact.
@abcnadz (457)
• India
21 Jan 09
lolz.. now this is really funny. i am an 18 year old and i wear low waist but not as low as u mentioned above. hair being shown is little too much. but i've never seen a smarter of doing anything like this. if my mom had said this, i would have stopped wearing pants :P.i showed this article to mom and she was laughing her heads off. i hope she doesn't start doing anything like this.
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
21 Jan 09
LOL! That is so funny! I'm lucky I guess as my girls none of them have done anything close to that. I would kill them and they know it. I have always told them some girls dress like that because they need the attention or they are trying to follow the group. That individuality is so much more better.
I have a 2 year old now thou (our granddaughter) our biological youngest girl is 16, so I hope the 2 year old doesn't give me a ride for my money like that. I will be a granny with a walker, with my pants falling down and teeth falling out! LOL!
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
20 Jan 09
my daughter is 15 and will be 16 in may. i hate the clothes she wears and i keep sending her into her room to change.
here in canada, once the nice weather comes, we always see people that are candidates for the tv show 'what not to wear'. seems that people forget that its not winter anymore and they are not wearing a coat.
@lisa0502 (1724)
• Canada
21 Jan 09
Oh my goodness, that is just priceless. I think that is one of the best I have ever heard. My daughters tried to wear their little sisters shirts to school under their hoodies one day. So of course I told them to take off their hoodies and saw this. They told me that they would not take their hoodies off at school and that they did not have any shirts that fit them. I said good then they do not mind wearing one of their Dad's old work shirts under their hoodies. They went and changed their shirts.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
21 Jan 09
Teenagers just want to copy their friends,peers and idols like film celebrities.They wear what is in fashion without caring whether it looks good on them or not.I have seen many girls who will wear low waist jeans and body hugging tops without caring about their body weight and suitability.Teenagers just blindly follow the fashion and
feel that they are modern,fab and racing with modern times.
