What is the most beautiful moment of a wedding ceremony?
By mimpi
@mimpi1911 (25464)
India
January 20, 2009 1:12am CST
Marriage is a beautiful thing and it's the fruitfulness of love and ushering in a beautiful relationship. I find, that all wedding ceremonies have different customs and precious moments that we cherish life long.
What according to you is the most beautiful moment in the wedding of your culture? Share your wedding day's beautiful moments that you still cherish and feel lovely?
HAPPY MARRIED LIFE
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28 responses
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
HI! Dear!
You are making me feel nostalgic about my wedding day and I'll have to recall the events otherwise too because my marriage anniversary is few days away........ I think there are two important ceremonies, which take place on the wedding day. First one is the groom garlanding the bride and bride garlanding the groom with a huge and mammoth garland. As soon as this event is over, it is presumed that half of the marriage has taken place. Then the main ceremoney, where the 'Pandit' or say Priest speaks few religious surmons and recite some 'mantras' to both bride and bride groom and aske them to revolve around the fire 'seven' times.' And finally, when vermilion is added in bride's hair by the groom, which culminates the entire process.
As far as I am concerned, when the first even took place i.e. garlanding, we both did not face any problem, garlanding each other, because we are more or less of equal heights. I have seen problem arises, where the groom is taller, then the bride has to literally jump up to garland her partner........LOL!
The 'fire' part was also alright and got completed earlier than the usual and the band party, who was to sound the band/music at the time of sending off ceremony, was absent (they were sleeping somewhere thinking that the ceremony would take time to complete) and the sending off ceremony got completed without the band party. That was the happiest day of my life........!!!
At the end, somebody asked the bride (my wife) why she was crying at the sending off ceremony, she retorted - 'Look, I am supposed to cry, when I am leaving my parents' house only once, but I'll make this man (i.e. me) cry the entire life.......LOL!
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
20 Jan 09
Hi Dpk.......this is really a hilarious comment.......But please do inform me the date of your wedding anniversary which you say is round the corner.Then I will remind you to buy an expensive present for Bhabhijee on the D-day and to take her out for dinner,lest you forget this important occasion and be subject to her wrath.....
But Dpk if you had invited me for your wedding I would have given you some expert advise and protected you from crying...The fact is ,even though both of you are of same height,you should have bowed your head beforebhabhijee ,just once ,while she was garlanding you.Then she would have been impressed by your humility and grace and would never ever had resolved to make you cry your entire life......
And Dpk...its not too late now to follow my advise....Good luck Dpk...If you ever have any more problems I am always there to guide you and protect you.........
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
20 Jan 09
Hi Dear
In Pakistan, Wedding is 3-4 days event and have lot of customs .traditions but Islamic Point of View, When a scholar tie u in Bond of Marriage its called "NIKKAH' and both bride and groom sign the Marriage Certificate in presence of their relatives and in presence of witness from both side, then its prayer for the couple, i think its essence of marriage and sure most beautiful moment
Take care
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
20 Jan 09
Ha ha ha Rose08
i know all r my friends
hmmmm
well every day was memorable
as every one was happy, specially my parents and sisters
Well on That Day, it was seperate arrangement for Mens and woman, first i was seated in Mens Area, and after Saying "YES" three times when Scholar (Maulana) ask me about her, signed the paper, Then they went to Bridal room, to get he agreement and sign, after that she was brought at stage at ladies side. then i was taken to ladies side and sit aside her, and there were crowds of girls for "dodh pilai" and other customs but trust me i get her out of there
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
20 Jan 09
Well Cupie you can recollect at least some unforgetful moments during those 3 days...Like did your hands shiver when you signed the certificate etc.I am sure the bride wears a veil on her head during the ceremony and werent you anxious for her to lift her veil so that you could gap at her beautiful face.........etc etc.......come on cupie,sharmaoo mathe.......we are all your dear friends........
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
20 Jan 09
Yes Cupie I am sure your parents and sisters were RELIEVED to see you married at last......And I know about your customs during marriage where the bride and groom are made to sit separately till the ceremony is over.......I am sure some of our Western freinds here will be surprised about this custom......I think one person has commented in this discussion that "kissing the bride" is the most important event in a wedding.......Our weddings are so solemn and such public display of affection especially on wedding day would be shocking............Infact we barely get a glimpse of our partner during the ceremony.......he..he.....
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
20 Jan 09
The one thing i always admired about our wedding cultures is the uniqueness and some of the traditions. The typical punjabi wedding has a lot of fun filled and special moments which start 2- 3 days in advance of the wedding. From the various functions to the groom on the horse , the dance... Then on the actual wedding day the groom and the bride sitting next to each other adorned with the bridal attire. They are all great moments. Not forgetting the food..
I can share what i felt was a special moment during my brothers wedding. It was the saath phere around the fire. Although seemingly long and full of ritualistic procedures, the oath taking and significance of it seemed to remain embedded in my mind till this day.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
20 Jan 09
Thanks for sharing this Mimpi. Although i had a brief idea about it, i never knew the significance in terms of each round , the first,the second...Now that i understood it better it seems so much more meaningful.
The fire, the stage,the setting,the attire, the parents, even the priest rambling away..all in thier own way added so much to make this particular moment a memorable one. And here i am giving a spectator/wellwishers perspective. I'm sure the moment would have had a deeper meaning and significance to those who would have actually experienced it.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
20 Jan 09
Indian weddings are full of intricate and sometimes funny rituals. All community have different kinds of customs and makes the weddings unique. The Saat Phere in Hindu custom is amazing. I heard that it instills an unimaginable feeling that's to last life long! And we often miss out the vows that the couple take while doing the rounds. It's so meaningful! Its certainly one of the most precious moments.
[i]Here is a write up on the significance of the Saat Phere, I found on internet:
The custom of Seven Vows/Saat Phere has had a rich historical extravaganza to it. There are a total seven vows made during the Saat Phere - the seven rounds. In the first round or phera, the couple prays to God for plenty of nourishing and pure food. They pray to God to let them walk together so that they will get food. In the second round, the couple prays to God for a healthy and prosperous life. They ask for the physical, spiritual and mental health from God.
In the third Phera the couple prays to God for wealth. They ask God for the strength for both of them so that they can share the happiness and pain together. Also, they pray so that they can walk together to get wealth. In the fourth round the couple prays to God for the increase in love and respect for each other and their respective families. The bride and groom together pray for the beautiful, heroic and noble children from God in the fifth step. In the sixth holy round around the fire, the couple asks for the peaceful long life with each other.
In the final seventh round the couple prays to god for companionship, togetherness, loyalty and understanding between themselves. They ask God to make them friends and give the maturity to carry out the friendship for lifetime. The husband says to his new wife that now they have become friends after the Seven Vows/Saat Phere and they will not break their friendship in life.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
20 Jan 09
Dear Mimpi,
I did try hard, but could not remember anything that is still in my memory and can bring smile on my lips. What I really miss is the time between engagement and marriage. Five months between engagement and marriage were the best part of my life like some dream which turned into nightmare later on. After marriage I became part of joint family of my husband and got buried under responsibilities and could not find myself till today.
I am sorry Mimpi, I have replied differently..but I am really not excited about marriages.
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
21 Jan 09
This time I think you are right to some extent cupid.......I am confused, and it is true that my life changed after I left India.But still I feel India was ingnorance, so a dream, and now it is reality ,so bitter...., and thanks for always being there for me.
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
21 Jan 09
Hi Apsa
somehow i dont know that why i feel its not true reply, or atleast its hiding HALF TRUTH.
why i feel, it was great till u decided to move from India!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and i am sure u still remember ur wedding day.
May be,i am wrong, but still
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
21 Jan 09
Hi aps dear....Yes I know most of us women, can recall our wedding day with a little apprehension only because for us its a major uprooting from our parents house to a new house and family,and suddenly we are burdened with new responsiblities and positions.....Infact marriage ceremony marks the transition of an ordinary "Nari" to "nari sakthi" in due course of time.......ha..ha.........some one strong enough for your husband,children and in laws to lean on..........Kya khayal hai Apsara jee??
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@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
20 Jan 09
Hello mimpi1911! Oh my! You just don't know how nervous I am when I got married. It's just that I really keep thinking if I made the right decision.
But going to your question, fot me the most beautiful moment in getting married is the part where we exchange vows by wearing the rings to each other.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
20 Jan 09
I guess, everyone is nervous and kind of have butterflies in the stomach all through. It's most special! taking vows and exchanging rings are wonderful. Leaves us with a inexplicable feeling!
Wish you a blessed life together.
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
20 Jan 09
Well Mimpi the wedding day by itself is the most important event in the life of the bride and the groom since they are starting a new phase of life TOGETHER and FOREVER.....And in our culture the wedding is according to Hindu tradition.The priest chants some important mantras and the moat important moment is when the groom ties the "mangalsutra",or the sacred chain with pendant round the bride's neck.It signifies the union of the two as man and wife and the start of their new life together and for ever.....Then they take 7 rounds around the sacred fire hand in hand,wowing to be together come what may........
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
Thanks for the response, however, you were also supposed to recall special moments of your wedding day.............'did not mention' about those.
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@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
17 Feb 09
I believe the most beautiful moment is when the bride and groom kiss for the first time as husband and wife. I don't think there is a more precious moment than that. Mostly because it is the first thing you do as a married couple.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
17 Feb 09
That's indeed special!
I think, this Haiku is most definitely for you dear. Read and enjoy.
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1442949/you_may_now_kiss_the_bride.html?cat=42
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
Hi there mimpi1911!
To start with, I have never been married yet. However, I have been to a lot of wedding ceremonies already. So far, I find that portion where the bride and the groom exchange vows. It's really nice and inspiring to listen to what they are to say to each other. I believe I have cried several times already while listening to the wedding vows of my friends and some relatives.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
30 Jul 09
Its most touching and the earnestness shows they belong to each other till forever.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
Hi mimpi1911! Oh my, I was giggling all throughout my wedding. My husband was sweating all over. And I am having a good time seeing him like that..he looks so nervous.haha..The reason why he is sweating all over is not because he is scared of getting married..he hates being in the center of attention. he is not comfortable when all eyes are upon him. haha..But the best part is when he said "his vows" and saw tears in his eyes. That did it, that wiped the smile on my face and got serious with the rest of the ceremony.
take care and have a nice day!
lovelots..faith210
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
23 Jan 09
that's so sweet faith. I guess he is an emotional person and love you very much.
have a wonderful life.
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@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
21 Jan 09
Hi Mimpi!
The most beautiful moment of my wedding day was when my father led me to the altar to give my hand to my future husband. It was a garden wedding. When we were already in the gazebo and my father shookthe hands of my husband, I cried a river. I hugged my father so tight and both of us were crying as if we never want to let go of the moment.
Surprisingly, I ma not that close to my father. But at that moment I felt the warmth of his embrace, making me feel that I will still be a part of his life no matter what may be. He also said that I will remain as his youngest daughter no matter what.
Now you make me cry....
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
5 Mar 09
See! That's the magic of it all!
Wish you more love, luck and everything that you want in life.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
thank you for the BR mimpi! Tears still welled from my eyes as I read this response again.
Thanks so much!
@savypat (20216)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I like when the couple turns around and is introduced to the crowd as Mr and Mrs. I cry every time.
@UtopianIdealist (1604)
• United States
21 Jan 09
As a minister, I have overseen a few ceremonies, and everytime, the part that gets to my partner and I both is the exchanging of the vows. I have seen a time where the couple did not write vows for eachother, though each thought the other had. They did not know what to say, infront of many people. The both had short and sweet emotional exchanges, and it effected everyone in attendance.
The exchange seems to always have the couple in tears. The introducing the couple as united to the crowd is always uplifting as well.
@crimsonladybug (3112)
• United States
22 Jan 09
It is considered bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the wedding. It is actually traditional to hold a dinner with the families the night before and then the bride goes to one place (home if she lives alone or to her parents' or a friend's if they live together) and the groom to go somewhere else.
With this tradition comes one of the greatest moments in a wedding ceremony. When the nervous and excited groom is standing at the altar waiting for his love and the music begins, the guests come to their feet and she appears in the doorway and he sees her for that first time. This is almost always the moment where the groom starts to tear up, as she is walking down the aisle toward him, to marry him and spend her life with him.
It's hard to describe unless you have been looking at the groom (most people are looking at the bride when she enters) and seen that moment where she simply takes his breath away.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
24 Jan 09
We have similar customs here and the moment when the four eyes meet is amazing and indescribable.
@Daffodil20 (1754)
• India
21 Jan 09
In our wedding ceremony the ritual I get touched the most is the putting of 'Sindur' on the brides head by the groom. I have grown up seeing this so many times in movies too, that I greatly romanticise the moment.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
24 Jan 09
I agree golgappi that's the most poignant and loved moment for a bride. It gives a beautiful feeling of love and belonging.
@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
21 Jan 09
Well, every wedding is different, but one wedding in particular was my cousins, She has 2 kids, the youngest with the husband to be, and her son was the ringbearer, and well after they shared their first kiss as husband and wife, her son went and gave a big hug to his new stepdad, well that just had me bawling my eyes out!! Their daughter started crying because she thought I was upset lol (I was the babysitter and was watching her during the ceremony)
@bookreadermom08 (5614)
• United States
20 Jan 09
the actual ceremony I dont really remember and we got married at a chapel, we had the largest room there that held 75 people, and it was standing room only... but the thing I remember most is hubby chocked up during our vowels and there wasnt a dry eye in the room after that... LOL
@tracie1758 (507)
• United States
20 Jan 09
I love watching the grooms face as the bride walks down the aisle. You can see every emotion running through him. Fear, love, pride, excitement. I also love at the end of the ceremony when they officially announce them as Mr. and Mrs. so and so.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
24 Jan 09
That's a great feeling when you are called by your husband's name..