What I hate about Me

Well, this is an interesting discussion and hats off to you for the courage to post it. I am impressed that you freely admit these things that you dislike about yourself. Interesting in that most people do not have the courage to do so. The first step to overcoming less favorable traits, should one want to over come them is to admit them. Acting on them is another hurdle. I have to admit, I have never received any of those emails about letting people know more about you. I am curious why you feel that you can not love yourself. Is it because you find so much about yourself that you dislike? There are things about myself that I dislike also but I don't sweat it. Not up until now, anyway. I try to make the best of each day and do things to pamper myself on a regular basis. Perhaps I have pampered myself far too much .. I think in order for others to love us, we need to be able to love ourselves. Personally, I don't worry much about what other people think but it is nice to love and be loved. We all have the power to love ourselves. We just have to decide to and start by taking care and being good to ourselves. I was once a person who was so hard on myself. I constantly heard my friends telling me this also. I worked through a lot of major things in my life that were annoying. I faced fears and worked through them also. I am not as hard on myself now. Maybe it is because I am getting older. I heard someone say the other day that I am not critical of myself but always trying to better myself for those who follow and or look up to me. Made sense. Perhaps complaining is a good way to understand more clearly that of which bothers you. I know someone who complains a lot. There are more negative statements and words that come from their mouth than positive ones. I often wonder why. In knowing the person, well, I assume it is because there is a build up of an array of misfortunes and things that annoy them which they are faces with often. How much can one person take? The word hate is such a powerful one that I much rather use the word dislike. What I dislike about myself today is that I am not as disciplined as I'd like. I had a back injury and really need to be doing more stretching and I am not, so I feel more pain and stiffness, even though I am keeping active. I know how important it is to stretch and don't know why I am not doing it. I dislike that I seem to be getting lazy. I dislike that I am not playing with my dog as much as I want to and I dislike the fact that I am not in touch with my friends as often as I think of them. I dislike that I am not eating properly. Way too many carbohydrates and have gained too much weight, only to make matters even worse. This really bothers me. I dislike that I am not working hard enough to achieve my personal goals. Maybe I am not being hard enough on myself and should start again. What do you think?

I think there is nothing wrong with your attitude, as you can draw lines of your faves and the similitude habits. In anyway, I respect your claim and confession and matter of facts, it is a good habit to continue but in different types and versions of it. OK - let us go one-by-one to those three (3) habits; 1. is my hoarding and collecting stuff. As it is a legit activity, I think there is nothing wrong to accumulate money, food, or the like, in a hidden or carefully guarded place for preservation, future use, etc. 2. is my complaining all the time (trying to stop that to) Your need to continue with a quality comment or be a productive complainant or kvetch. 3. and of course my smoking. You can continue smoking, like me, although I have had my heart attack. BUT, you must take HLB Blood Test to let you know the level of your blood oxidation level and the progress. After that, you have to take Chelation Therapy to minimize the oxidation activity to your blood. To know more bout, what is Chelation Therapy, kindly visit this video link; http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JggcBa3Wwzk Read my comment to Dr Frank, the owner of the Cline Medical Clinic. OR you can take STEMCELL Therapy. So, bunnybon7; thanks for your nice and good ranting. You got the answer to all of it. Have your great day!!!

Ok... first of all... you got stumped 'because there is so much'.. not to like? LOL! You have to begin focusing only on what you DO like and then the stuff you don't like won't bother you so much. If it DOES then those are likely things you can take steps toward changing. Hmmm.. what don't I like about myself....the degree to which I get angry about my house getting messed up! I also tend to run late, being punctual is hard. I think I get sidetracked too easily when I have no time. I would like to hire someone to clean my house so I can forget about the first one, as far as the second one I probably need to start getting ready to go earlier.

Hi there bunnybon7 Like you I could write a list as long as my arm but I will do has you have and give you three. 1) I hate my body 2) I hate it when I am lazy but I am trying to change that! 3) I hate that I spend too much time on the pc but I am trying to change that too!!

No one is perfect. We all feel bad aout ourselves sometimes. THe thing that i dont like is that I can not save money. Whenever i have it i have to spend it or it drives me crazy. very bad habit.

bunnybon, Don't get down on yourself and don't hold it in, that isnt' good for you either. There are a ton of things that I certainly don't like about myself. My husband has a bad habit of pointing some of them out to me on a regular basis which makes matters worse, he needs to look at his own faults. I have a problem with internalizing a lot of stuff, I have so much tension and stress right now built up inside, I'm surprised I haven't burst like a balloon yet. What ever you do bunny, look at all the good that you do and look at all the friends and support that you have around you. Don't always look at the bad stuff.

Ah, we all have flaws. I can be a jerk. I can get stuck working on things that are really irrelevant and miss out on important things. But, I wouldn't say I hate myself. I am imperfect and I make mistakes. I have to move on. So, I do.

Hmmnnnn this sounds a little odd for I guess I have a lot to dislike about myself.....lol! But one thing I really hate about me is my being a procastenator (if that is the term for somebody who's fond of putting things off for the next time). Yes that's one big problem I have about me; I keep on postponing takss or things or activities that should be done or I must be doing in a day and putting them off for tomorrow. I've been trying to overcome this and maybe am still in the processs of doing so.

It is normal to not be so fond of yourself at times. When I am alone, I notice I do it a lot more. There are always things that are there that I dislike in myself. I too, still smoke. I am very co-dependant, which I don't mind so much except for some of the problems that comes with that. My mood fluctuates too much. I get too wrapped up in things. I wait until the last possible moment to realize that someone is not a good friend. That is a few anyhow. Hope you feel better.

Yup, we all have things about ourselves that we would like to be different. & the good thing with you is that the things you listed- hoarding, smoking & complaining- are things that you can work on & change. It will be hard, but there is always hope for change. What I don't like about myself is that I'm a perfectionist- I'm sick of it, this year I'm trying to be more free spirited & not so controlling.

I hate be a good person....

i hate myself coz i am not able to do what i decide.like i need ti lose weight i can do it but am too lazy.if i start it then no problem continuing it but i can get my hands on it.am working on it.i also have a hobby or rather addiction to entetainment i.e. watching movies and tv shows.it is hindering my progress.

I don't believe anyone thinks they are perfect. Mine is by far my weight - but it is something I can change and I am working on. I also let people walk all over me - or I used to. I started off the new year by standing up for myself. If I were you, I would focus on the unhealthiest first and stop smoking. I would worry about the complaining afterwards, because you are going to want to complain while you are quitting! lol Good luck bunnybon

well , the first thing i hate bout myself is being lazy ! and second thing is working on mylot searching for new topics to respond LOL ! anywayz nice topic

We all have those days when things go wrong Bunny or maybe it is a case of things don’t go right. Yes you might have had a bad start to the day but look at it like this. So you received one lousy insignificant email, which you should have trashed immediately. However you didn’t do that so now we deal with the fallout of that decision and that is you have listed 3 things about yourself which made you want to vent. Well you did stop of three things and that is a positive because had you gone on, you might have continued for much longer and ended up feeing even worse. So some restraint has given you a much better day that you would otherwise be having had you continued listing more things. Also the restraint you showed also allowed you to have the time here on myLot to vent and that is certainly a BIG PLUS for you. Oh and the things that go wrong. What about those times when EVERYTHING that can go wrong does so on the same day and often the second, third and even tenth one pops up before you have dealt with the first one? So the day wasn‘t nearly as bad as you were thinking. However I will not spoil what is left of the day by telling you all my woes. I will just save them for another day when something else does not go ‘quite right’ for you.

don't hate yourself for any of those things u mentioned. they aren't that bad. we all have things we wish were different about ourselves. u could be doing alot worse things. i was an antique dealer si i have alot of stuff to but it's organized & i think looks pretty. a pain to keep clean. lol. just be glad u have someone to complain to & as for your smoking i do to. know i shouldn't because doctor's have told me that. i also eat too much, have too much temper & just alot of bad habits. everyone does but just aren't honest enough to admit them. noone is perfect!!

Ok here is mine: I tend to hoard too I know when is time to shut up and seldom do it I think to much of my past mistakes and the way I do is not productive.

hello bunnybon There is nothing to feel depressed about. In fact i would like to thank you as u gave me a scope to look inside me & find out the negatives in me as i know a conscious look inside would definitely awaken me to introspect & correct myslef. I think my impulsiveness is the worst thing about my personality. I just jump in to the task assigned to me most of the time without caring about planning anything before hand. I would like myself to be a little bit patient in my decisions.

Hi There Bunnybon, There was only one thing that popped into my mind immediately as I was reading your posting. I wish that I could express my emotions without crying! No matter what the circumstances whether I'm happy, sad, scared, angry, or tired I cry. This lovely little habit of mine drives me absolutely insane because I can not express myself using words and language in a conversation because as soon as I do I start bawling and then I cannot talk. It's a bit of a vicious circle! So there you have it, that is the one thing I would choose to change about myself if I could. However, on a side note, you need to focus more on the positives than on the negatives my dear friend! yes, I'm joking somewhat, but I'm also somewhat serious. I firmly believe that we can not choose what happens to us but we can choose how we react to it. It certainly is not always easy but I try to focus on the good instead of the ugly. That's just my 2¢ worth and happy Mylotting!

i tend to get nervous and make all my problems sounds worse than it is like as if it is at the end of the world. haha. that's what i don't like about me.