Do you have regrets or think "What if"?

While I believe that everything happens for a reason by way of destiny, at least to give myself a psychological consolation, I still do regret certain actions I take which produce undesired results, or which produced the intended results that have turned out to be undesirable. It is idealistic to belief that some humans have developed to a level where they don't express or feel regrets. Any normal human who claims to have attained that level is an impostor. With all sense of humility and reverence, I daresay Jesus Christ himself felt some sense of regret when he was asking if God could let the burden pass over him while nailed to the cross. Otherwise, he ought to have remained silent in the belief that what he was experiencing was his destiny that had to be fulfilled. In real life, everybody feels or expresses regrets ("had I known") because things happen contrary to our expectations.

I do. And the older I get, the more I have. When I was a senior in college I was offered a position as a Leadership Consultant for my sorority. I talked to one of the ladies who was doing it that year and she said, "You don't get offered that position. If you got offered, it is because someone at Nationals nominated you very highly." So it was a huge honor, apparently. At the time, I was engaged to a guy who lived in a different state, 800 miles away. We were planning to move in together after I graduated. And I hate living out of a suitcase...so I turned down the position. And we broke up a month after I had to have my paperwork turned in. Currently, I am in the process of applying to graduate school and really wish I had done this five years ago when I was a senior instead of now.

I have regrets in my life. I have left one very good job in a not so bad company. It was giving me Rs 10,000.00 per month and I was happy there. I left that company because of my foolishness. I thought I have enough talent and I can join a big company. I did join but becuase of the global Recession, I was kicked out of that company! So, I do regret that decision!

It´s very easy to say that everything happens for a reason, specially when we are the ones responsibles for whatever it is that is happening, because the truth of the matter is that everything we have is a result of what we´ve done, there´s a reaction to our actions, we have woked hard to achieve goals, nobody gave them us and we get all the credit for that, we have the power and the strength to do whatever we want in live to make it worthy or ignored, we also make mistakes and we must take responsabilities for them, and these are the ones that I have regrets for, some of them have left a mark on my life impossible to erase or even fix.

I always believe everything happen for a reasons, it has purpose, it may not clear for me or I may not understand why it happened, there are just certain things no matter how we tried, there's obstacles in my way-standing between me and the things I want. Of course, I am always positive, and just give my best, and just have faith in myself that I believe in. Lack of faith in yourself makes it almost impossible to overcome troubles. I can't solve problems, no matter how, I must not afraid of the future otherwise future certainly will black. So, I just take one step at a time. It's not how you fall, but its how you get up...

I like to think that if i make a decision, it is the best one I could have made at the time.. Sometimes we make mistakes and tend to regret doing things.. I have few regrets but I am learning that I cant change the past so I have to do my best in the future.. N we may not see it at the time, but everything does happen ffor a reason.. Once you believe it, there's be lesser regrets in anyone's life. But it's hard not so? I gues that's where faith and belief comes in.. It jus makes us stronger..

i think something like this is always normal because you always wonder what would of happened if you would have done this instead of doing that. every one wonders what the grass is like on the other side of the fence.

I have always believed things happen for a reason. At times that reason may not be clear when the event is taking place, but as you stated, after time has passed. I also think that with major changes in our lives, it is a stepping stone, from one part of our life to the next, what is to come. I think it is just human nature to think 'what if', but I can honestly say, I don't have any regrets.

I believe the reason for something that happen in our lives is based on choices and decisions we took, there are things we have no control over, but as time goes by, they become less and less. I have a few regrets, but I am not thinking what if, these regrets are part of the past, I am focusing on what I can do today.

.. i do have regrets.. sometimes, i would tell myself that had I done like this, i should have been like that.. sometimes, we do things which when we realize, it should have been done the other way.. however, life must go on.. we should not be depressed by the wrong decisions that we've made.. we may regret, but we should not give up.. still, i believe that everything happens for a reason.. i teach myself to be positive.. and I do my best to look at the bright side of what I did..

i used to have so many regrets but i cannot go back to change them but i can learn from them and keep moving forward to become a better me

I do believe that everything happens for a reason but I have still wondered what if a thousand times and I have many many regrets that if I had a chance to do over I would change how I did it. My life has turned anything but what I imagined it would and have often wondered where I would be if I had chosen to take the path I wanted to in life. I don't dwell on it though since I know that there has to be a reason and I wouldn't trade my two kids for the world and if I had gone off to the college I wanted to I never would have had them.

always when i do something big, or buy something i think about what would happen if i did it otherwise. i also think that people think the worst of me, and that sort of stuff. sometimes its for days in my head, sometimes its gone after 2 hours or more

I have regrets when I miss the opportunity,sometimes."What if " is a regret which do not come true.I think there is no pill of regrets.So I always looking before I leap.It can help me aviod making mistake. I agree with you .I believe that everything happens for reason.I think,What we can do is not only regrets,but also find a method and learn something from it. Good luck and happy mylotting!:-)

Yes, I regret going to that party when I was almost 21. If I hadn't of gone to that party, that man who raped me would not have done a thing to be. I was in the wrong place at the wrong time.

there are times when i have regrets and wonder about the question "what if" ..what if i've done things differently, this and that could have happened and stuff. but i guess that's what life is all about..we take chances/risk..and we learn from our choices/decisions and mistakes that we make..in some ways, i do believe everything happens for a reason although sometimes i cannot see/comprehend what it is so that makes it hard!

I don't believe that things happen by accident everything has a reason and purpose and that is for us to learn from our past experiences. At time we look back on those experiences but life goes on. we can't sulk over what had happen on the past and dwell on the what ifs for we can't turn back the time what we can do is learn form the past mistakes and correct it in the present so that we will have a promising future. we have to get up when we stumble and try not to stumble again. hope this answer your question.

I believe everything happens for a reason. It seems to me that when I look back on things I think I should regret I find the reason not to. I thought I regretted getting married, but then I wouldn't have had my four kids and six grandkids. I regretted getting divorced (even though It was a good decision on my part) but if I hadn't I wouldn't have met my soulmate. So as life goes on I have learned not to regret but to look forward to something better.

Before I always tend to have regrets in making a wrong decision and blaming others, then I usually think of "what if's"...But in the end I felt like such a loser. But things changed when I started to grow as a person and as a chrisian, I've learned not to regret the mistakes or failures that happened in my life because it really happened for a reason...Yes, there is no such thing as coincidence, things happen according to God's plan and every decision you made has a purpose, it serves as a lesson or be a blessing in disguise for us to be a better person and learn not repeat the same mistakes again.(^_^)

Before I used to have lots of regrets and "what ifs" but as I mature I could say that it has lessened. What I do now is strive do my best whenever possible and face every problem as mature as possible.I don't really agree that everything happens for a reason, I think we give reasons for everything that happens in our lives. These things go with maturity :).