cheating?
By caelle07
@caelle07 (113)
Philippines
January 21, 2009 1:16am CST
loving.. falling for someone..yes..that is a part of life..
what if you happen to feel something not for just one person..but for two different individuals..is that still love?
what can i do to free myself from this type of issue..i want to be with just one person..but i feel like i cant live my life without the other one..
help!
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2 responses
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
29 Jan 09
I think you really need to step back and think things over. I don't think you can honestly be in love with two different people. Sure you can love someone and love someone else, but true love, pure love can only be for one person.
@DancingRedFeather1 (1037)
• Canada
30 Jan 09
Why should you still be in love with a man who doesn't want you? You had kids with him and still he isn't with you. Us women have this too soft heart.
I have to fight it all the time because when I think of all he did to me, the countless of women he cheated with and had other kids with, which he never even cared for, never even bought them anything, never called, never wanted to see them. So I was the one who had to put my desires to care for them, while he went on his merry way and enjoyed life without any responsiblities.
So really ask yourself..does he deserve my loving him still? I think to get over them is to think what didn't work out. I ask myself..why should I be in love still with him that never ever was responsible and cheated on me. I could have had a STD or worse.
@DancingRedFeather1 (1037)
• Canada
30 Jan 09
By the way, even if we went back with them, it wouldn't work out anyway..so all we have is wishful thinking and they have moved on with their lives.
My x regrets and admits that he was wrong but no good that has given me..regrets don't pay the bills, or care for the kids. He ruined my life and my kids are still suffering from it. One of my sons hates his father so much he doesn't want to see him or even talk to him.
My x is in the hospital since 4 months now and that son hasn't visited him and never calling him or wants to see him either. Well, you reap what you sow.
I went to see him at the hospital & the 3rd time..I suddenly said, what the heck am I doing here? I never went back and he is well enough to call me..has he? No of course not..so am not going back to see him. It was a good thing..I got over any feelings I had for him as I seen he is still just the user as always and hehehe..not cute anymore now that he is 66.
@DancingRedFeather1 (1037)
• Canada
25 Jan 09
The heart is a traitor, it can love more than one person, even many at a time.
But it is up to us to fight that desire and focus on one person and fight the urge if it happens. I have fallen in love with other people but didn't pursue it as I knew it was just a *fling* and it would end so I would end up alone anyway.
@DancingRedFeather1 (1037)
• Canada
30 Jan 09
True it isn't easy..I see below u answered that you had kids with the other guy..well, true we never forget the man we had kids with and we never really stop loving them ..in a sense..but then when I think how he abandoned me with 3 kids when I was only 21..then I don't love him anymore.
Actually it'it's just a desire..that we wish things would have been different, but they are not, so we must move on even if it is very difficult...trust me..am still hurting when I think of all the time I wasted with that man and 3 little kids calling for their daddy who never called,never paid anything for them, never was there to hold their hand when they were sick..ya..come to think of it..why should I even have a hint of desire!
