When it starts to get ANNOYING!

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Alright this is more of a vent than anything. I have a 'friend' I say it like that because the main reason we're friends is because she's the only person I've known here since I moved. Or the first person I associated with because she was my roommate. She is one of those needy people, who loves to have the attention on her and is always right in what she says even if it's something someone else has specific knowledge on. She had soo many guys at our house when I lived with her, promiscuious would be an understatement. These men were utterly disrespectful to her and one got disrespectful towards me. I kicked him out and assured him if he returned while I still lived there I wouldn't hesitate to call the police. Things got rocky between her and I. I was financially stable and she most certainly wasn't. The landlords lived next to us so I ended up handing them my half of the payments so they knew i was paying my half of the rent. She would ask to borrow 20 dollars to fill her tank of gas then some times blow it on stupid stuff. She would always be 'sick' saying she had the 'pukies' and have excuses for her men who treated her like crap after they would borrow 200 dollars and not pay them back. I felt sorry for her when I first met her and how they took advantage of her. But then it got to a point where I didn't want to hear who she gave money too and didn't pay her back. The last straw came when she would always get soo darn emotional and just thrive on drama and attention. One day I was at home watching TV she was home for a bit then took a shower. I hear her crying, and I know damn well when people want you to hear them cry they will. Well this was one of those cries. So I ignored it and gave her, her space. She comes in the living room in her towel and was trying to find her phone saying "I need to call my support person because I just tried to kill myself (she had no markings on her). I had enough and said "If your this unstable ___ then you need to seek help immediately.". She then asked "can you come to the hospital and support me". I was like "yes sure." Apparently her idea of support and mine are completely different. We got to the hospital and she didn't want me to come in when she spoke to the doctor. I think I knew why she knew I wouldn't BS the doctor or that she couldn't if I was in there. But so long as I wasn't she could pull another sob story and get more attention. I sat in the waiting room for 6 hours to find out they just spoke with her gave her medication then said if you still feel this way by wednesday come back and we'll admit you. I told her how unhappy I was that she didn't allow me to go in with her. (I knew her life story within 2 hours of knowing her basically so nothing would be a schock to me) Then she said the only reason she asked me to come was becasue she knew she wouldn't kill herself with me in the car (meaning get in an accident) I'm thinking great I'm going home with this psyco. 2 days later is the dead line and she says. I think I still feel that way I'm gonna go to the hosptial. She goes by her self and gets checked in. I leave. I had to her behavior is soo distructive and alawys just so drama filled I couldn't take it. I stayed her friend but kept her at a distance. She has a dog also that bugged me not that she had one but that I ended up taking care of him. She got soo upset because he wouldn't come to her anymore he'd only come to me. She wouldn't take care of him or give him attention. He would deficate all over the house and wasn't trained at all. I was tempted when I left to call someone to take the puppy away but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. Time goes on we stay friends as I said before and her behavior never ends. She has a problem with the landlord so she leaves. Then goes to the govenrnement gives them a sob story and they pay for her damage depost. She does it again and gets her electric 4 month old bill paid for. With the money she saved she went out bought a 400 dollar phone when she already had 300 dollars worth of phone bills to catch up on. Then she gets this new place after her second time to the hosptial this time 'rehab' meets a crack addict and because he could stand her she moves in with him. I tell her bad idea she's like oh we're just friends and are going to keep it that way. RIIGGHHHTT. She's telling me she doesn't have enough money to feed herself or the dog. I feel bad so I go and get her some groceries. (At this point I realize ou can't enable this anymore) That was the last time I gave her money. Then she has another Landlord problema and they won't give her, her deposit back and she leaves. Again goes to the government and they pay for her damage deposit. I'm pissed because all she has to do is go to them and they pay her debt. I have to work my hiney off to make sure I don't go in debt and here she is abusing that option. I know there are worse off people out there who deserve that assistance an don't get it. She always says "I know I have money problems, but I can't help it" So that's when I said to her. "until you help yourself I can't help you out"Low and behold her roommate shows some interest in her and when he was intoxicated had some fun. Then wants nothing to do with ehr and she's shocked. So she goes out with a bunch of guys to get back at him. I get a call 1 month later saying "I'm pregnant" I can't believe it. Because just a year ago she had an abortion. She never used protection with any of them because 'they didn't want to' She's going to keep it at which point I think great. Then I think about how her dog lives and I feel horrible for that unborn child. 3 guys may be the possible daddy and she says "I'm not going to persue child support" I'm like are you stupid! you can hardley handle your own life. That child deserves all they can get. "well I don't like conflict" I said "tough get over it because you have to start thinking about that child instead of you for once"Now she's getting free food, (which I'm glad she's getting nutrition.) But I feel like half of the debt is her own problem. She took on things she knew she couldn't pay. Her car new KIA, her phone bills, internet. And says "but I can't live without the top phone option. I need to be able to access the internet and text friends." Last time I checked things like that were a privledge and something you should have if you can afford it. You don't NEED it but you want it. 1 month later the governement pays for her bills again and her rent for one month. Instead of putting that money towards her debt she goes a head and buys a Wii and 2 extra games. 300 dollars down the drain again. I get another call can I have 10$ for gas. Really when you just spent 400 on wii. I said no. My entire point of this all is the most annoying thing is when people you know take advantage of the system and milk it for all it's wroth. I have cut contact with her and just can't stand people like that. She's now looking to get governement assistance housing where she'd only have to pay 300 for rent for an entire house because she'll be on mat leave. Get this her company even asked to see a doctors note to prove she's pregnant. I found that funny. I can't stand people who abuse the system and am very tempted to call them and warn them against what she's doing. She takes money directly from the back out so all they see is a direct withdraw and can't see what her money was then spent on. Do you have a story of someone who milks the system? What do you think of my story?