Is your reputation here on myLot based on the only one bad discussion you had?
@SusanShayAvon (1003)
United States
January 21, 2009 3:09pm CST
Well when I first came on here I started a discussion that got nasty. I often wonder if those people's opinions of me will ever change. I seriously doubt it but I wonder do you judge people if they have a bad discussion that you do not agree on? Do you avoid all of their discussions from there on out? Would you ever respond to any of their discussions again? We all make mistakes on the internet just like we all make mistakes in life. Are you a forgive and forget it and go on type of person or Will you forever look at that person as a bad person and think that because of something that they wrote it is unforgivable? I do not usually judge people by their discussions and think that they are bad. I could post a discussion and it hurt your feelings but the same principal applies that you could respond to my discussion and hurt my feelings. So I am a forgiver. What are you? Would you give me another chance even if you did not like one of my discussions?
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@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
27 Jan 09
I only know i offended someone here by saying he is asking foolish question and i got lots of negative rating from him yea . Anyway i don't really care about rating just carry chat in mylot will do yea.
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
I'm not that really particular with the person who did that bad discussion, as long as the discussion is interesting, interacting,i dont really care..you know, i can still earn whether that person who started a bad discussion.. but of course, if that's below the belt, i dont think the management will allow his discussion here..well, susan, i'm willing to be your friend ok.. welcome to the club.. have a nice day..
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
Oh I know how you feel. I used to have a 10-star rating beside my name for the longest time, but ever since I started a discussion and people were like trying to shred me to bits then my rank got lower and lower.
As for my part, I don't judge people with the discussions they put in, neither do I judge them with the type of response they have. If there are those who's responses are truly ridiculous and strikingly opposing my beliefs then I just think that perhaps they just view things differently.
But, what truly strikes me are those people who insult others because they don't really agree. I mean, why would you be in a discussion if you're not open to other ideas? Well, the thought of having different ideas doesn't really bother me, it's more of the approach,regardless how different your ideas may be, it's in the way you present yourself that matters. And please cut out the personal insults, right?
@teka44 (3420)
• Brazil
21 Jan 09
Hi Susan. Why not my dear? I believe in freedon and the right to have his own opinions. If my opinion isn't the same you still having the right to keep your opinion. I think that everybody must respect the right of others and their opinions. If I don't like the topic of your discussion I don't reply it. And I expect the same from you, if I give a response that oppose your opinion you must respect my right to have my opinion. Some people don't do this and give negative rates for responses that doesn't agree with them. I dislike this kind of person. What they want, an opinion or people that only agree with them? For sure I will respond your discussions though I didn't liked another you have posted.
Have a nice day.
@tarheel (151)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I know nothing of this supposed discussion-gone-bad. I am sorry to here that you have had some negative flack from one incident, but you think that folks would be a little more forgiving than that. i mean, who hasn't said something that was either misunderstood or that someone took offense to? My wife says that I seem to go out of my way to offend people. that isn't always true. I just don't feel the need to apologize for expressing how I think and feel. So to you I say.....Post away! If you have anything to say that even remotely interests me I will be glad to respond.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I never judge anyone by one or two incidents and that goes double for communication on the internet. Since I was hanging out on the political board during the recent presidential campaign I was involved in many intense discussions but they in no way caused me to form a bad opinion of the poster(s) who disagreed with me. I also don't worry about what anyone other than my husband and my immediate family thinks about me. I try to be nice and helpful and honest and a bunch of other good things but, no one is perfect, so you take me as I am becaue that's all that I can be. Don't worry about what some folks may think about you. You don't seem like an ogre to me! 
