Never had a boyfriend...
By HansonFan
@HansonFan (1653)
United States
January 21, 2009 6:52pm CST
I am 20 (about to be 21) and have never been kissed and I've never had a boyfriend. I don't really have any guy friends except at work and I really don't know why. Is there something wrong with me or do I just need to be patient? Is there anyone else that has never had a boyfriend around my age? Everyone I know gives me odd looks when I tell them...
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11 responses
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
Hello HansonFan. It's not really weird or unusual because I had my first boyfriend at 24. Not that I wasn't looking for someone to be with, I just prioritized my work and studies and at 24 I was quite stable and figured that it was time for me to get into a relationship. LOL. Be patient, and you know what? You don't really have to tell anyone that you've never had a boyfriend and I find it rude of people asking if you ever had one. Enjoy life. Your prince charming will come. ^-^
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@HansonFan (1653)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Thank you! I really don't concentrate on it all that much and I am patient. It just came to mind because someone once again asked me today. It is rude, but I answer usually anyway. I really think I would rather wait for my life to be on track, much like you, before I get seriously interested in anyone. Thank you again!
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@Margajoe (4746)
• Germany
22 Jan 09
You have never been kissed, don't worry that will happen soon enough.
With the right person everything goes by itself.
In the mean time, enjoy life, do whatever you want.
Don't let anyone tell you your odd, you are just waiting for the right
person at the right time.
And you are right for doing that. Your still young.
I found my true love at 40 years old. You have time.
Take care.
@Margajoe (4746)
• Germany
22 Jan 09
I personally believe you are doing wisely.
How many people that get married young, stay together?
And when they do stay together, they are not happy.
Sure, some are, but the majority is not happy.
If they had the chance to do it over again, they would do it
the way you are.
When I was 20, I was not feeling young either, I wanted to be
adult and excepted as an adult.
Know I am 42 and wish I was 20 again, knowing what I know now.
Wow, I would have done so much different.
But, I learned from my mistakes too.
Take care.
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@HansonFan (1653)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Thank you for your answer. I do realize I'm young (although it doesn't always feel like it!) I guess its just some of my friends from junior high and high school are getting married and all I can think is...whoa! I don't want to get married yet, by any means, but I feel a little left out I suppose. I will continue my patient wait and hope for the best.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Jan 09
wow maybe you are very shy and quiet? you are just beautiful. there must be lots want to and afraid to try. then some women are just so nice men are afraid to try anything for fear of being rejected.
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@HansonFan (1653)
• United States
24 Jan 09
I am pretty shy and quiet until I get to know people. Thank you...not many people tell me I'm beautiful. I wouldn't reject anyone unless they were gross or rude...but I suppose they don't know that.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
10 Feb 09
I am 21 and yet to kiss a girl. Kissing and physical relationships should be with one person who you want to spend your whole life with. it would never make u feel being used and wont even make u feel that someone pressured you in to it. as for haing a bf it would come sooner than you expect and ur good looking and i am sure nice girl too , so you can be choosy who u want to have as ur bf ...so take ur time u got lots and lots of time and let a nice boy find you.
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
Hi HansonFan! I was 23 when I got my first BF hehehehe...I guess you'll be ok, you just have to wait for someone you truly love and will love you back as well. And while single, get a life, just have fun and meet people in your place. Do what it takes to make yourself fall in love with your reflection,whether its donning a new hairstyle, working out to get the bod you want, do everything in your power to make yourself look physically fab. Feeling good about how you look will do wonders to your self-esteem. You won't notice you will meet someone special by chance.. :)
@HansonFan (1653)
• United States
22 Jan 09
Wow, it really isn't unusual for people to get their first BF in their 20s! I have been working towards my self esteem, but right now I'm mainly focusing on my future and getting through with college. Thank you for your input!
@denise002 (444)
• Australia
22 Jan 09
im 19 turning 20 and i dont consider myself to have ever been in a serious relationship. iv had boyfriends but only silly high school ones that only last a month or so. i dont know if ur like me i seem to have commitment issues and dont want to be tied down to a guy right now i enjoy being single but i admit sometimes it would be nice to have some one there.
im sure there is nothing wrong with u it just hasnt happened yet..
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@HansonFan (1653)
• United States
22 Jan 09
I don't have commitment issues, if anything I would probably have to focus on not being clingy, lol. Thanks for answering, I will sit tight and wait patiently while I work my way through college and one of these days he will come. :)
@UnityOfGoals (22)
• United States
22 Jan 09
You must feel much better about yourself, God loves you for it too!
Sincerely,
Unityofgoals
@kel1483 (986)
• United States
24 Jan 09
I am a few years older and I've yet to have a boyfriend. (so I don't think it's weird...) Sometimes I'm ok with that and other times it kind of bugs me. I'd like to find one, but I'm quite shy so that might have something to do with it.
When it comes to what other people think, I try not to tell them, if I can get out of it haha. What I don't like is when all my family, when I see them, have to ask me like all about whether I have a boyfriend or not and then like twenty other questions about it. Ugh. I hate that so much. It's annoying.
@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
In our culture (from the Philippines here) it's normal to still be single at that age. I'm currently 21 and have been with my boyfriend for more than a year - so that means that we go together when I was 20. I think it's a cultural thing but practically speaking - I don't see any point of having a boyfriend unless you've fallen in love. So if he's not there (and you better be looking) then there's no reason to worry.
Thanks for the response on my discussion!
@chechelang (36)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
maybe God have a better paln for you,maybe this is not the right time to be inlove
@pkarunbca (6)
• India
4 Feb 09
Ohh..
if u want a boy friend u need to talk first with boys then they can make friend with u .. even i also dont have any G.F ..!!